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To think this a red flag? And either way be completely cringed out?

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tgatwas · 07/11/2024 19:32

Went on a third date with a man, and for relevance we have not had sex yet.

The conversation kind of shifted to exs (it was relevant) and he said he broke up with his ex as it became apparent she only wanted two things:

To live with him rent free
To have an incredible dicking every day (which he followed up with yeah I know that sounds big headed)

I just kind of said “oh right” and changed the subject. Maybe he is fantastic in bed, maybe not, but it definitely gave me the absolute ick.

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HermoinePotter · 08/11/2024 00:13

Went on a third date with a man, and for relevance we have not had sex yet

Have you told him there won’t be a fourth date? In my head I’m imagining a Daniel Cleaver type male 😂

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tgatwas · 08/11/2024 00:05

Rosebelles · 07/11/2024 23:14

I find this interesting because if we turned the tables and a woman got rid of a guy because he wanted to live with her rent free and wanted a great shag (or whatever you want to call it) every day, we’d all be praising her.

So what if he doesn’t want someone to live with him rent free, who does? Lol and great if he’s good in bed and doesn’t personally want it every single day, isn’t that what all woman want, I mean who’s actually got time for that every day.

I think you’ve painfully missed the point.

The rent free thing is between them. I don’t know the ins and outs. Basically it’s irrelevant

Neither is him, her or both wanting sex every day.

My issue is his big headed-ness and wording. That he thinks he’s incredible in bed and she got such a good dicking that she stayed around just for that.

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echt · 07/11/2024 23:34

HarkALark · 07/11/2024 22:24

@TwistedWonder @echt The word is rape. "Yawn rape" denotes someone putting their fingers into your mouth if you open your mouth without covering it when yawning.

Ugh. Utterly disgusting.

Thanks for the clarification.

INeedAnotherName · 07/11/2024 23:19

Rosebelles · 07/11/2024 23:14

I find this interesting because if we turned the tables and a woman got rid of a guy because he wanted to live with her rent free and wanted a great shag (or whatever you want to call it) every day, we’d all be praising her.

So what if he doesn’t want someone to live with him rent free, who does? Lol and great if he’s good in bed and doesn’t personally want it every single day, isn’t that what all woman want, I mean who’s actually got time for that every day.

He was fully entitled not to want to have a gf living with him rent free, the same as any woman. Same with sex.

It's his incredible dicking that is carrying this thread.

AHFBridport · 07/11/2024 23:19

@Rosebelles , you have missed the point. He described himself, to a romantic prospect, as somebody who provides an 'incredible dicking'. There is no way back from that.

GoldenSunflowers · 07/11/2024 23:18

@Rosebelles i think the cringey part is his choice of vocabulary, unless dicking is a commonly used verb nowadays on the dating/dicking scene, and the humble-brag.

Dufflebag · 07/11/2024 23:18

echt · 07/11/2024 22:13

What does r**e signify?

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Bot?

Rosebelles · 07/11/2024 23:14

I find this interesting because if we turned the tables and a woman got rid of a guy because he wanted to live with her rent free and wanted a great shag (or whatever you want to call it) every day, we’d all be praising her.

So what if he doesn’t want someone to live with him rent free, who does? Lol and great if he’s good in bed and doesn’t personally want it every single day, isn’t that what all woman want, I mean who’s actually got time for that every day.

SatansBobbleheadedDashboardOrnament · 07/11/2024 23:13

tgatwas · 07/11/2024 23:09

I’m back and all I care about is what DeirdreRachid said* *in order to get every single comment deleted 😳

She said something about him being a wide boy, that he was probably a scaffolder or something, and that he obviously wasn't Jacob Rees-Mogg. Not sure why that comment got deleted. 😂

Waterboatlass · 07/11/2024 23:12

'dicking' is such a preternaturally unsexy word

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tgatwas · 07/11/2024 23:09

I’m back and all I care about is what DeirdreRachid said* *in order to get every single comment deleted 😳

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healthybychristmas · 07/11/2024 23:01

DuchessofSaltmist · 07/11/2024 19:38

And from this we assume that he didn’t want her to live there rent free and couldn’t manage the incredible dicking. 😂🤣😂

🤢

Exactly!

OneBlackHeart · 07/11/2024 23:00

AConcernedCitizen · 07/11/2024 20:08

Tell him you're not so keen on an incredible dicking right out of the gate, at least not until you've had a rigorous finger-blasting.

😂

WigglyVonWaggly · 07/11/2024 22:59

That really is the most immature, toe-curling thing I’ve heard in a while. No wonder you’ve got the ick! I’d be binning him.

Illegally18 · 07/11/2024 22:58

TwistedWonder · 07/11/2024 22:31

Ah ok. Never heard that expression before - it would definitely make me 🤢

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Neither have I. I'd be outta there like lightening!

Cravingtoffeeapples · 07/11/2024 22:46

Funny thread 😂

HarrisObviously · 07/11/2024 22:37

Allfur · 07/11/2024 21:15

What an incredible prick

It probably isn't.

GoldenPheasant · 07/11/2024 22:35

Yes, red flag. Make that your last date with him.

TwistedWonder · 07/11/2024 22:31

HarkALark · 07/11/2024 22:24

@TwistedWonder @echt The word is rape. "Yawn rape" denotes someone putting their fingers into your mouth if you open your mouth without covering it when yawning.

Ah ok. Never heard that expression before - it would definitely make me 🤢

Poppins21 · 07/11/2024 22:30

It’s the weird terminology he has used- it feels creepy and would put me off too.

oakleaffy · 07/11/2024 22:30

thingymijigi · 07/11/2024 19:33

Did he use the term 'incredible dicking' ?

He sounds like an incredible 'Dickhead' OP.

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 07/11/2024 22:28

Incredible dicking 😂😂😂 WTAF

mumedu · 07/11/2024 22:26

Gross

HarkALark · 07/11/2024 22:24

@TwistedWonder @echt The word is rape. "Yawn rape" denotes someone putting their fingers into your mouth if you open your mouth without covering it when yawning.

PreBlendOils · 07/11/2024 22:18

The 'incredible dicking' in question was probably him jabbing at her with his semi-flaccid penis for 8 minutes before wanking onto her thigh and then passing out. I think she deserved to live rent free.