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Colleagues having sex in the office out of hours

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Reidal · 07/11/2024 17:50

2 of my colleagues have been dating for a few months, I’d say they are friends of mine and we get on well.
Yesterday after work a lot of us went to the pub, the CEO was covering the tab so everyone was a bit tipsy.
Today the guy mentioned to someone else (who is dating my closest friend). That when they went back to the office to pick up their stuff before leaving they got carried away and had sex.

AIBU to think this is massively inappropriate and to report it?

OP posts:
LBFseBrom · 07/11/2024 19:10

Don't be a grass, nobody has died.

The guy should not have told anyone, sexual exploits are best kept private. I get that I wouldn't have been very private had they been caught at it but that didn't happen.

It was a stupid and unprofessional thing to do but illustrates how booze can cause all caution to be thrown to the wind.

Have word with the guy who blabbed and tell him he should have kept his mouth shut, it wasn't fair to the girl for a start, and ask the man he told not to spread it. It might be too late of course.

However please do not report to management, that would be really mean.

ChristmasCwtch · 07/11/2024 19:10

It’s none of your business

chocolatenutcase · 07/11/2024 19:08

Hope there's not CCTV in the office Shock

InSpainTheRain · 07/11/2024 19:05

It's a bit grim and certainly not appropriate. However, I wouldn't report this. If anyone asks I'd ask I heard the gossip but wasn't sure. I'd ignore it completely.

MSLRT · 07/11/2024 19:04

Stop being such an interfering old bag. It really is none of your business.

FloatyBoaty · 07/11/2024 19:04

Also- nobody, absolutely nobody, senior will thank you for landing them with this, if they feel pressured to take action. Not HR, not management, nobody.

So at best you’ve told them something they don’t care about.

At worst you’ve landed 2 colleagues in the shit for something arguably nobody will REALLY care about, generated a tonne of work for senior colleagues that nobody wants to have to deal with, and made yourself look like a jealous/ jobsworth/ naive arse.

AppleAppleBanana · 07/11/2024 19:02

Don't get involved.

K0OLA1D · 07/11/2024 18:59

Where do I sign up to be your friend? You sound ace...

HammeredMetallic · 07/11/2024 18:59

It depends if your “office” is the school library or something different

ClytemnestraWasMisunderstood · 07/11/2024 18:59

What outcome would you like your tale-telling to achieve @Reidal

SaveMeFromMyBoobs · 07/11/2024 18:59

So what - you report, say they had sex and they deny it and you never saw it ... so what are you wanting out of this? Your friend in trouble?

OnlyHope33 · 07/11/2024 18:58

You are not their friends, friends wouldn't dream about reporting risqué behaviour to management and potentially putting them out of their jobs. If you find it inappropriate why don't you have a conversation with them.

BobbyBiscuits · 07/11/2024 18:57

Two colleagues who were dating and presumably not cheating on their (other?) partners, they had a fumble back at the office when it was closed.
It's not great but you've no proof it's even true and there's really no need to rock the boat on such things. People date their colleagues all the time. I don't think shagging in the office is particularly cool but without CCTV I don't see how you could prove it.
Do you want them formally disciplined? Dismissed? It won't help you either way I'd imagine.

Moveoverdarlin · 07/11/2024 18:57

Fair play to them I say. This is what you do when you’re young. I miss the days of high jinx like this. I had sex at my work place, I just look back and laugh at how carefree and fun my life was.

Now my life is very dull and boring.

You will come across as boring, jealous and bitter if you report them.

FloatyBoaty · 07/11/2024 18:57

You sound like a LOVELY friend OP

PinkyFlamingo · 07/11/2024 18:56

Why do you want to report them?

Tink3rbell30 · 07/11/2024 18:56

Yes that's gross

Pinkruler · 07/11/2024 18:54

I think it sounds ok, so long as they tidy up everything after.

potatocakesinprogress · 07/11/2024 18:53

ginasevern · 07/11/2024 18:44

Blimey, you should have been around in the 1980's OP. There was a lot of boozing and banging going on in offices then, and that was during working hours. You'd have spent your life in the manager's office reporting people. Lol.

Still happens now, can only assume OP is very sheltered.

potatocakesinprogress · 07/11/2024 18:52

Really common, not something you'd report (unless you're also the kind of person with a checklist commenting the sugar is a bit low, in which case put it under category C, subsection 2).

Barney16 · 07/11/2024 18:50

Unfortunate if your offices have CCTV. Like what's his face, Matt Hancock, in the pandemic.

Pebbles16 · 07/11/2024 18:49

Yes, it's disgusting but have seen it so many times. I became very selective where I sat in the building

Natsku · 07/11/2024 18:49

Don't report it, they weren't hurting anyone. But tell her that he's bragging about it, so she has a heads up in case the gossip spreads.

Jc2001 · 07/11/2024 18:49

Reidal · 07/11/2024 17:50

2 of my colleagues have been dating for a few months, I’d say they are friends of mine and we get on well.
Yesterday after work a lot of us went to the pub, the CEO was covering the tab so everyone was a bit tipsy.
Today the guy mentioned to someone else (who is dating my closest friend). That when they went back to the office to pick up their stuff before leaving they got carried away and had sex.

AIBU to think this is massively inappropriate and to report it?

Is your life that small that you would even consider reporting it?

Conkersinautumn · 07/11/2024 18:47

Yuck but not a school nor some sort of public facility like a library I take it? Weirder that they told you really, what on earth did they think you'd say?