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Colleagues having sex in the office out of hours

257 replies

Reidal · 07/11/2024 17:50

2 of my colleagues have been dating for a few months, I’d say they are friends of mine and we get on well.
Yesterday after work a lot of us went to the pub, the CEO was covering the tab so everyone was a bit tipsy.
Today the guy mentioned to someone else (who is dating my closest friend). That when they went back to the office to pick up their stuff before leaving they got carried away and had sex.

AIBU to think this is massively inappropriate and to report it?

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Cherry8809 · 07/11/2024 23:09

They’re your “friends” but you want to rat on them to management…?

Who needs enemies, right?

HarkALark · 07/11/2024 22:31

Honestly, unless he finished up on your desk I cannot see why you would give a shiny shit about this.

Cheepcheepcheep · 07/11/2024 21:59

fanaticalfairy · 07/11/2024 21:33

If you were 19 in 2008, you can only be around 35. That's hardly middle aged, we don't live to 70, we live to around 90.

Come back in ten years and then you can say you're middle aged 😜

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I will not be living to 90 at this rate 😂

Cheepcheepcheep · 07/11/2024 21:59

@fanaticalfairy @Berlinlover fair enough. Feel middle aged at 35 with lots of wiry grey hairs, a mum pouch and no energy but always good to know the best is yet to come 🤣

FennelFan · 07/11/2024 21:44

Don't be the person that reports stuff like that. They've not done any harm have they?

LurkingFromTheShadows · 07/11/2024 21:43

Id ignore it and carry on with my life. At the end of the day, regardless what your personal thoughts are, it's not hurting anyone.

fanaticalfairy · 07/11/2024 21:33

Cheepcheepcheep · 07/11/2024 20:32

I’m a perfectly respectable middle aged married mother of two and I’ve done this twice. Once with a boyfriend in 2008 when I was 19 and once with a FWB in 2012 when I was 23. I’m so very glad I did it when I was hot and free and life was easy.

Bloody good fun and no one got hurt.

YABVU

If you were 19 in 2008, you can only be around 35. That's hardly middle aged, we don't live to 70, we live to around 90.

Come back in ten years and then you can say you're middle aged 😜

Ladyluckinred · 07/11/2024 21:33

Oh god! It’s not a safeguarding issue or doing anyone else harm. Are there no cameras in your office?

ToysRus56 · 07/11/2024 21:32

With all the crap goings on in the world, I think it's great! Good for them! Would never occur to me to 'tell on them'. Interested to understand why that's your first instinct.

IceSkates · 07/11/2024 21:28

It’s a bit grim for sure, but I’m not sure why you think you need to report it?

What good will come from that?

It’s gossip at the end of the day.

Berlinlover · 07/11/2024 21:10

Cheepcheepcheep · 07/11/2024 20:32

I’m a perfectly respectable middle aged married mother of two and I’ve done this twice. Once with a boyfriend in 2008 when I was 19 and once with a FWB in 2012 when I was 23. I’m so very glad I did it when I was hot and free and life was easy.

Bloody good fun and no one got hurt.

YABVU

You’re not middle aged.

Zone2NorthLondon · 07/11/2024 21:07

Best quip not best audio
ruined it now

Zone2NorthLondon · 07/11/2024 21:06

Bogginsthe3rd · 07/11/2024 20:59

Now that's what I call hot desking!

Prize for best audio goes to…

Eyesopenwideawake · 07/11/2024 21:06

Bogginsthe3rd · 07/11/2024 20:59

Now that's what I call hot desking!

😂

MidnightMeltdown · 07/11/2024 21:03

Antibac your desk next time you go in and stay quiet

Bogginsthe3rd · 07/11/2024 20:59

Now that's what I call hot desking!

Guavafish1 · 07/11/2024 20:58

Hearsay

Evaka · 07/11/2024 20:57

I'm kinda mortified for you wanting to squeal on your friends having a sneaky shag. If you do report them, post the email here so I can have a lol.

Aligirlbear · 07/11/2024 20:53

Unless you actually witnessed them in the act all you have is hearsay and gossip - no proof. If it did happen and one of them is stupid enough to tell others it will soon resolve itself.

mindutopia · 07/11/2024 20:52

It happens much more often than you think. As long as it wasn’t on your desk, I would laugh and think it was embarrassing but hilarious.

In my old office, we shared a building with several floors of NHS clinical space (a travel clinic, a dental hospital, an infectious disease unit, few other things, not publicly accessible but accessible to anyone who got past reception because they had an appointment). They had to install locks on the loo doors that could only be opened with a code because we were catching so many random people in the loos shagging! 😂 Can you imagine coming in to get your travel vaccines to go on holiday or to get a root canal and not even being able to make it home and having to go at it in an office toilet stall?! Like it wasn’t just once, not just one weird horny couple, but like people randomly did this so regularly we needed to change our security approach in the building. Grim but people are evidently into it!

LadyGabriella · 07/11/2024 20:51

Not your place to say anything. Don’t.

JudyKing · 07/11/2024 20:49

I wouldn’t say anything and just hope it wasn’t on my desk 😂😂

Elizo · 07/11/2024 20:43

Don’t report - none of your business. But I would mention to her that he is telling people. Twatish thing to do

K0OLA1D · 07/11/2024 20:42

Cheepcheepcheep · 07/11/2024 20:32

I’m a perfectly respectable middle aged married mother of two and I’ve done this twice. Once with a boyfriend in 2008 when I was 19 and once with a FWB in 2012 when I was 23. I’m so very glad I did it when I was hot and free and life was easy.

Bloody good fun and no one got hurt.

YABVU

Erm sorry, no. As someone the same age, we are not middle aged!!!!

AquaLeader · 07/11/2024 20:42

I’d say they are friends of mine and we get on well.

You do your very best to get your friends fired.

What do you do to your enemies?