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Colleagues having sex in the office out of hours

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Reidal · 07/11/2024 17:50

2 of my colleagues have been dating for a few months, I’d say they are friends of mine and we get on well.
Yesterday after work a lot of us went to the pub, the CEO was covering the tab so everyone was a bit tipsy.
Today the guy mentioned to someone else (who is dating my closest friend). That when they went back to the office to pick up their stuff before leaving they got carried away and had sex.

AIBU to think this is massively inappropriate and to report it?

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Irridescantshimmmer · 07/11/2024 18:01

He may have been showing off so it may not be true.......

stilleasy · 07/11/2024 18:01

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Pootles34 · 07/11/2024 18:01

I might warn her that he's a bit gobby however...

YellowAsteroid · 07/11/2024 18:01

You can't report hearsay.You'll just come across as a bit bitchy & stirring up trouble in the office.

5128gap · 07/11/2024 18:01

I'm not sure 'unprofessional' is the word I'd use. If they'd kept colleagues waiting to start a meeting, or there had been clients present, or they'd jammed the shredder with a condom and left it for someone else to fish out with scissors, then absolutely. But given it had no impact on anyone else or the running of the business and was in their own time..? What is unprofessional is for them to tell everyone and for you and your friends to be gossiping about it.

EternalAutumn · 07/11/2024 18:00

I'm an office manager and if I was told 2 people in a relationship had sex in my office...I think I'd just laugh, say how outrageous and then and get on with my day.
I wouldn't report it to anyone as such, especially if it was a one off got carried away type thing.

I'd just hope they didn't make a mess. Grin
Although I imagine I'd think of it every time I passed the area it happened in!

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DoYouReally · 07/11/2024 18:00

If you reported it to me, I would just tell you it's hearsay and gossip.

No proof, nothing anyone can do about it.

Not something I would do and wouldn't be overly impressed with anyone who does but all you have here is gossip.

Zone2NorthLondon · 07/11/2024 17:59

No don’t report it. Why would you?
investigation, potential suspension, and statements. Denials, acrimony

NotbloodyGivingupYet · 07/11/2024 17:59

You want to report gossip?

NeedABabelFish · 07/11/2024 17:59

LaLaLaurie · 07/11/2024 17:53

I think news will travel fast if they are telling people. You’re likely not need to say anything as it will soon spread around the office.

This^

It's none of your business, leave them to it Grin

Zanatdy · 07/11/2024 17:59

It’s massively inappropriate but I doubt i’d report it. Our office is way too straight laced for that anyway but unless it was a regular thing i’d just ignore

Cooriedoon · 07/11/2024 17:59

Well he sounds like a teenager blabbing about it so yes I'd tell someone, your friend.

ClaudiaWankleman · 07/11/2024 17:58

It happened at a previous workplace of mine - I think the punishment was the fact that it was gossiped about for the whole 3 years they remained at the company. It would be mentioned to new joiners by colleagues who weren’t even there at the time. Absolutely bizarre behaviour from all parties involved.

miniaturepixieonacid · 07/11/2024 17:58

I've never worked in an office and maybe I've watched too many rom coms but l thought shagging in the office was a rite of passage! Assuming no abuse, infidelity or coercion, I'd laugh and say good on them.

AgnesX · 07/11/2024 17:57

What's it got to do with you, not that you have actual proof anyway

Just keep out of what doesn't concern you.

VictoriaAlbert · 07/11/2024 17:57

Absolutely not.

Whothefuckdoesthat · 07/11/2024 17:57

You want to report two of your work friends because they got drunk at a work function and got carried away in the office? Well that’s one way to mark your cards I suppose. Unless it’s illegal or life threatening, mind your own bloody business.

LauraNorda · 07/11/2024 17:56

You sound bitter and twisted. I wouldn't ever want to be your 'friend'.

DaniMontyRae · 07/11/2024 17:56

You should tell your friend so she knows her boyfriend is gossiping about their sex life with other colleagues.

Bex5490 · 07/11/2024 17:55

Kind of hot 🤷🏽‍♀️

Don’t be jealous now!

Where was the last exciting place you had sex @Reidal … and the guest bedroom doesn’t count 😂😂😂

ALunchbox · 07/11/2024 17:55

Out of hours so presumably noone around? It wouldn't bother me.

StillAtTheRestaurant · 07/11/2024 17:55

Yes it's inappropriate but don't report it.

Allfur · 07/11/2024 17:55

Its probably more common than you realise, I'd leave them to it

TheYearOfSmallThings · 07/11/2024 17:54

YABU. Why would you feel the need to report that? What would it achieve?