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Knowingly stealing - food shop delivery

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Ponter · 07/11/2024 13:45

We order from one of the main supermarkets. On the day of the delivery (last week), I decided to cancel the shop as many of my plans had changed so i didn’t need some of the stuff that had been ordered.

Anyway, the food van turned up and I had a hunch that if I accepted the order I could get the groceries and still get the refund. Which is exactly what happened. It was a risk but I still needed majority of the groceries ordered so thought I’d chance it. We had similar happen once before but we were honest in that scenario.

Even if the supermarket comes back and want me to rectify the error/pay up I can do so - that’s no problem.

I know it’s wrong but I believe the majority would do the same.

Be honest would you?

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SisterAgatha · 07/11/2024 15:21

Beeinalily · 07/11/2024 15:19

I used to work on customer services, and I can tell you that they won't miss it, but if you let them know it will be a pain in the arse administrationally (I'm not actually sure that's a word). Also, the amount of perfectly good food that's wasted every day by most stores is phenomenal, hundreds of pounds worth. Having said that, tell them if it's making you feel bad OP, feeling guilty about something is horrible even if it's not important to the other party.

She doesn’t feel guilty, she’s like Augustus Gloop right now 🤣

ISeriouslyDoubtIt · 07/11/2024 15:20

No. However much you try to justify it you're just a common thief.

JawsCushion · 07/11/2024 15:20

JenniferTaylorClark · 07/11/2024 14:54

there's a wit among us

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There's someone who thinks they are a wit...

Beeinalily · 07/11/2024 15:19

I used to work on customer services, and I can tell you that they won't miss it, but if you let them know it will be a pain in the arse administrationally (I'm not actually sure that's a word). Also, the amount of perfectly good food that's wasted every day by most stores is phenomenal, hundreds of pounds worth. Having said that, tell them if it's making you feel bad OP, feeling guilty about something is horrible even if it's not important to the other party.

oakleaffy · 07/11/2024 15:18

An expensive order made up of dinner party stuff - Where @Ponter “got the idea from
a friend “

Now bragging on MN.

luckylavender · 07/11/2024 15:18

No. And I can't believe you posted about it. It's stealing.

butterpuffed · 07/11/2024 15:17

Ponter · 07/11/2024 14:07

i certainly didn’t submit my order thinking I would then cancel it in the hope of getting free groceries.

I just knew that my friend had the same happen and she got away with it.

So I didn’t tell the driver that I had cancelled the order when he turned up as I had an inkling I could get away with it like my friend.

I know it is wrong though.

Knowing it's wrong doesn't make it better , it makes it worse .

LadyMacbethWasMisunderstood · 07/11/2024 15:17

Statute and you should be ashamed of yourself.

Swivelhead · 07/11/2024 15:17

I think this post is intended to provoke these reactions. A genuine thief wouldn't come on to boast especially as
A) it would give the supermarket a heads-up as to this form of scam, potentionally ending it for themselves
B) we all know that stock theft is one of the factors for prices being driven up for us all, so something to is calculated to rile us up

SisterAgatha · 07/11/2024 15:17

ArtfulLeader · 07/11/2024 15:13

My experience is you cannot purposefully engineer cancelling/getting a refund and the driver still turning up. I have cancelled multiple times last minute (stuck in traffic on school run most often the cause as I like having helpers to put stuff away). Maybe twice has the driver shown up in all the years I have done online shopping.

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This is the chancing it element of the thieves story. Her friend chanced it and got a free delivery.

which encouraged this one to do the same. There’d be no chance, no “knowingly stolen” in the thread title, and no mention of the friend, is this was just a mistake.

CagneyAndLazy · 07/11/2024 15:16

Is this for real?

How are so many people absolutely convinced that "everyone" would do the same and steal if they could???

Are we in some immoral parallel universe here?!

LadyMacbethWasMisunderstood · 07/11/2024 15:16

This is Waitrose isn’t it. You will have get away with it. But they will have you marked and if you ever have any issue with any order again you will not get a sympathetic response.

What you have done absolutely fulfills the definition of theft in the

OliviaRodrighost · 07/11/2024 15:16

Wow, having read all of the OP’s updates this is absolutely scummy behaviour.

Bringbackspring · 07/11/2024 15:16

No I wouldn't do that. I'd be honest when the driver arrived and say I'd cancelled the order so they could take it back to store. You have basically willingly shoplifted (just without going to the actual shop).

TheFormidableMrsC · 07/11/2024 15:14

This makes utterly grim reading.

GoldenLegend · 07/11/2024 15:14

No. I wouldn’t want to think of myself as that sort of person.

In any case they’ll charge you eventually.

ArtfulLeader · 07/11/2024 15:13

My experience is you cannot purposefully engineer cancelling/getting a refund and the driver still turning up. I have cancelled multiple times last minute (stuck in traffic on school run most often the cause as I like having helpers to put stuff away). Maybe twice has the driver shown up in all the years I have done online shopping.

EmmaMaria · 07/11/2024 15:13

Ponter · 07/11/2024 13:55

I’m not boasting. Never once stole before. Always try do the right thing normally. I just chanced it. I have to be honest we were hosting a dinner party which didn’t go ahead so the nice items - wine, meat just tempted me to chance it.

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I am not a thief so no, I wouldn't do this. Good to know your "price" though - some meat and some wine. If everyone was so cheap we'd have nothing but criminals.

anya31 · 07/11/2024 15:13

Ponter · 07/11/2024 13:55

I’m not boasting. Never once stole before. Always try do the right thing normally. I just chanced it. I have to be honest we were hosting a dinner party which didn’t go ahead so the nice items - wine, meat just tempted me to chance it.

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I wouldn't do it and I don't condone stealing, but the fact you were planning on hosting a dinner party with nice wine and nice meat suggests you're not exactly living on the breadline? I think that makes it even worse.

JawsCushion · 07/11/2024 15:13

dovetail22uk · 07/11/2024 14:40

Astonishing that people on here so are holier-than-thou. She cancelled it and they made the mistake - so what? It's not stealing. FFS get a bloody grip!

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Of course it is. They didn't know she cancelled it but she did.

MarriedtoSeamus · 07/11/2024 15:13

Ihopeithinkiknow · 07/11/2024 15:01

Lmao at all the posters who are horrified but are definitely gonna give it a go. We can all pretend we wouldn't even dream of doing anything like this but it makes people feel good to type out how moral and perfect they are to other people. I don't do online shopping because I fucking hate waiting around for it but if I could have a weeks worth of shopping land at my house for free then I doubt I would be ringing up offering to pay but I would expect it to be taken from my bank eventually, I wouldn't lose any sleep if it never was though. I'm not a common thief or lowlife scum either and just last week I found a purse in a trolley (in a carrier bag) and went out of my way to return it to its owner so that makes me a decent honest person doesn't it? I would still happily take a weeks worth of shopping for free though

Well no but there obviously plenty of people who would and that’s why society is going to shit. Being a literal thief is nothing to be proud of.

my child once stole a creme egg and I marched him back into the coop.

it’s appalling what OP has done

SisterAgatha · 07/11/2024 15:12

ArtfulLeader · 07/11/2024 15:07

She said she chanced it when the opportunity presented itself. I have had similar with cancelling and the groceries turning it up. You can’t plan it because most of the time when you cancel it doesn’t turn up.

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Don’t you tell the driver you didn’t pay for it? Or call after to pay for it?

Plus if she didn’t know she might get away with not paying, what has the friends story of successfully getting a free delivery got anything to do with this? 🤔

unless she preempted she could get a free delivery based on her friends example

TeabySea · 07/11/2024 15:12

No, because it's dishonest.

If I was struggling to afford food then I might think differently but in the case of hosting people and having fancy things, absolutely not.

So many people are having to rely on foodbanks at the moment, and there are times when the foodbanks themselves don't have enough to give to everyone.

betterangels · 07/11/2024 15:12

Ponter · 07/11/2024 14:34

I don’t believe in karma. Plenty of examples of twats never getting their comeuppance.

The supermarket made the error.

I’ve never once stolen previously so i can’t be that much of a degenerate

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You can't say that anymore. But you seem OK with it, so I don't know why you posted this unless it was to be told stealing is fine and to revel in getting away with it.

Momtotwokids · 07/11/2024 15:11

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 07/11/2024 13:49

Probably.

But I’m currently REALLY poor.

I guess that is a good reason to steal.