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Knowingly stealing - food shop delivery

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Ponter · 07/11/2024 13:45

We order from one of the main supermarkets. On the day of the delivery (last week), I decided to cancel the shop as many of my plans had changed so i didn’t need some of the stuff that had been ordered.

Anyway, the food van turned up and I had a hunch that if I accepted the order I could get the groceries and still get the refund. Which is exactly what happened. It was a risk but I still needed majority of the groceries ordered so thought I’d chance it. We had similar happen once before but we were honest in that scenario.

Even if the supermarket comes back and want me to rectify the error/pay up I can do so - that’s no problem.

I know it’s wrong but I believe the majority would do the same.

Be honest would you?

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SuspiciousAloysius · 07/11/2024 16:12

It’s obvious that you more than likely thought this through beforehand, what you would say if you got caught etc.
It reminds me of when young teenagers plan out how they are going to shoplift/ cheat at a test/ lie to their parents.
I'm not the most moralistic person in the world but I can honestly say, no it wouldn’t occur to me to do this because I’m an adult. I might if I was absolutely desperate with kids to feed etc but I would be so ashamed to have to try it. Anyway any supermarket I’ve ever ordered from will only let you cancel til the night before. If you had to contact them to cancel it they would have proof that you knew you’d cancelled it.

JustWicked · 07/11/2024 16:12

Ponter · 07/11/2024 14:34

I don’t believe in karma. Plenty of examples of twats never getting their comeuppance.

The supermarket made the error.

I’ve never once stolen previously so i can’t be that much of a degenerate

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You planned this

You're not exactly an angel are you

PlumViper · 07/11/2024 16:10

Matronic6 · 07/11/2024 16:08

Considering the likes of Tesco's profits have gone up to 2.9 billion this year, I am very certain they are robbing customers blind. So no I wouldn't feel bad in this instance.

but thats part of capitalism and in no way should justify criminal actions

mogtheexcellent · 07/11/2024 16:08

Probably not for a full delivery.

But I did get an extra pack of Time Outs in yesterdays delivery.

Matronic6 · 07/11/2024 16:08

Considering the likes of Tesco's profits have gone up to 2.9 billion this year, I am very certain they are robbing customers blind. So no I wouldn't feel bad in this instance.

EmmaMaria · 07/11/2024 16:07

MumOfOneAllAlone · 07/11/2024 15:57

I should add to this that my child is happy healthy and well raised, despite the challenges I've had to deal with 🙄

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But do you teach them that stealing is acceptable if they have a "good reason"? Because that is what you advocated. I'm sure criminals think their child is happy, healthy and well-raised - even if they are, it still makes them criminals and their child is very likley to follow their lead in such things.

Cerealkiller4U · 07/11/2024 16:07

ohyesido · 07/11/2024 13:50

I'm a firm believer in "what you send out you get back times 3" so if I were you I'd get on the blower very quickly and pay the bill

This

very very true

PlumViper · 07/11/2024 16:07

@Ponter no not worth the risk or the potential risks from it,

if i was to law break then id want to make the history books.

plus you say you did not need some of the order but then say "needed majority of the groceries ordered"

so why cancel to begin with ?

MoonWoman69 · 07/11/2024 16:04

Oh and -

i don’t know how it happened.

But

Similar happened to a friend (where I got idea)

So you knew exactly what you were doing. Don't make out you were holier than thou.
You ought to be ashamed of yourself, but sadly, you won't be.

EmmaMaria · 07/11/2024 16:04

femfemlicious · 07/11/2024 15:45

I agree, they take the payment from the card when they pick the items. No way to not pay

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I don't. I am charged when the delivery is made.

Butterworths · 07/11/2024 16:04

GoldenPheasant · 07/11/2024 15:57

People like you are the reason prices are kept high for everyone else.

It really isn't. The supermarkets price what the market will bear - there isn't a fixed amount of profit then they set the prices to make that happen.

OutbackQueen · 07/11/2024 16:03

No, it’s dishonest. And I’d be ashamed to tell people about it on a public forum. But I suppose you’re hoping we’d say it was ok…

Torontospliffavoider · 07/11/2024 16:03

Sorry, @stilleasy It’s just a silly phrase.

“Expressing reproach when somebody harms or damages something”

Sorry, I’m just disappointed with the OPs behaviour especially when supermarkets are raising prices. Theft is a huge problem right now. I just wish people were better behaved!

HonoraBridge · 07/11/2024 15:59

No. That is criminal conduct. Stop!

OneTC · 07/11/2024 15:58

Torontospliffavoider · 07/11/2024 15:55

This is why we can’t have nice things

But the fact that we can and many of us do, is proof that not everyone steals at any given opportunity, otherwise we'd all have everything or nothing

Grumpy12345 · 07/11/2024 15:58

If you didn’t accept the delivery then I doubt they’d take it back to the shop and put it back on the shelves to sell. I expect they’d just bin it. So no I don’t think you’ve done anything wrong really. It’s not like you did it on purpose.

MumOfOneAllAlone · 07/11/2024 15:57

EmmaMaria · 07/11/2024 15:38

@MumOfOneAllAlone Just think of how many elderly and disabled people are paying higher prices as they can't get to the shop. Disgusting.

As an elderly and disabled person (and who has supermarket deliveries) using me and people like me as a justification for theft is unacceptable. As an elderly and disabled person, I was taught better than to steal as well. I realise that this is an old-fashioned concept these days, but honesty is something to to be desired. If your user name is anything toi go by, I hope that you are teaching your child better than this.

I should add to this that my child is happy healthy and well raised, despite the challenges I've had to deal with 🙄

stilleasy · 07/11/2024 15:57

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GoldenPheasant · 07/11/2024 15:57

People like you are the reason prices are kept high for everyone else.

OneTC · 07/11/2024 15:57

JollyPinkFox · 07/11/2024 15:53

Sure. Stealing is wrong. I don’t believe for one second that 86% of you wouldn’t keep that food though.

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You're right to a degree, people that steal stuff probably lie as well

JollyPinkFox · 07/11/2024 15:57

U13579 · 07/11/2024 15:55

We are not just talking about moral correctness (which OP appears to have none of). It is theft, it is breaking the law.

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Mhm. I’m sure the CPS would consider it in the public interest to prosecute Op for the supermarket’s mistake

Darebat · 07/11/2024 15:56

Absolutely not

Torontospliffavoider · 07/11/2024 15:55

This is why we can’t have nice things

StandingSideBySide · 07/11/2024 15:55

Can’t believe 15% on this thread are fine with stealing !!

U13579 · 07/11/2024 15:55

JollyPinkFox · 07/11/2024 15:37

I'm assuming you never do anything 'wrong' then, if you've designated yourself the arbiter of moral correctness. It's tesco, who cares
ETA OP didn't say it was tesco. My assumption, weirdly, from the mention of the app.

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We are not just talking about moral correctness (which OP appears to have none of). It is theft, it is breaking the law.

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