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Knowingly stealing - food shop delivery

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Ponter · 07/11/2024 13:45

We order from one of the main supermarkets. On the day of the delivery (last week), I decided to cancel the shop as many of my plans had changed so i didn’t need some of the stuff that had been ordered.

Anyway, the food van turned up and I had a hunch that if I accepted the order I could get the groceries and still get the refund. Which is exactly what happened. It was a risk but I still needed majority of the groceries ordered so thought I’d chance it. We had similar happen once before but we were honest in that scenario.

Even if the supermarket comes back and want me to rectify the error/pay up I can do so - that’s no problem.

I know it’s wrong but I believe the majority would do the same.

Be honest would you?

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Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 07/11/2024 16:25

295bkq · 07/11/2024 16:14

No, I wouldn't do this. It's not like you ordered 3 tubes of toothpaste and they put 4 in by accident (in which case it'd be fine to keep) - you are literally stealing the entire shop.

OP doesn’t care though because her friend did it and wasn’t caught so she thought she’d try.

That’s how shoplifters work though, once it works, then they ramp it up to more times or more expensive items. And it’s worked here as OP plans to play dumb and blame mix ups with her husband if it’s queried (which it won’t be).

The worrying though is though how many people will be tempted to copy OP after this, because oh she didn’t get caught. See your prices rising there in your weekly shop? That’s partly due to thieves like OP.

MumOfOneAllAlone · 07/11/2024 16:23

PlumViper · 07/11/2024 16:21

in terms of prices asda basic range are quite cheap same with tescos basic range

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I said in a previous post that the reason I was not against people stealing is that I discovered asda were not putting their cheapest products online for an online shop

So many just essentials items are available in thr store but not available online. This means people who cant get to the shops are forced to pay a higher price for essentials, increasing profits. That really pissed me off and I just don't blame people

Quitelikeit · 07/11/2024 16:23

Honestly why on earth would you advertise this type of behaviour

Its devious and embarrassing

FastFood · 07/11/2024 16:23

Biffbaff · 07/11/2024 16:17

It's jerks like you that are pushing the prices up for everyone else! You're a bloody wanker for doing that and you know you are. It's disgusting how smug you are about it too. Cretin.

No its really not. It's the market, the shareholders, the constant pressure on suppliers and workers, it's inflation, it's speculation, but certainly not the rare customers who happen to benefit from an error made by the company itself.

ohyesido · 07/11/2024 16:22

I don't think anyone with a pushchair is vulnerable necessarily. I think this security guard may have perceived the OP as potentially more vulnerable than other shoppers and chose to single her out. Having a pushchair and no basket are not justified reasons for pursuing her around the store in my opinion

PrincessHoneysuckle · 07/11/2024 16:22

As bad as someone i know who walks out of Asda with a trolley full of shopping that's been "scanned"

Startinganew32 · 07/11/2024 16:22

Yeah I’d just tell myself that I’d pay when they chase me for it. And then obviously do that if they did chase. But I doubt I’d lose too much sleep over tescos profits tbh

Butterworths · 07/11/2024 16:21

Biffbaff · 07/11/2024 16:17

It's jerks like you that are pushing the prices up for everyone else! You're a bloody wanker for doing that and you know you are. It's disgusting how smug you are about it too. Cretin.

I personally would never steal from anywhere but this is absolutely not correct. The prices are based on market forces not some benchmark profit target. You can tell this, in fact, because generally supermarket profits are very low as a percentage of revenue because consumers are so price sensitive.

Matronic6 · 07/11/2024 16:21

PlumViper · 07/11/2024 16:10

but thats part of capitalism and in no way should justify criminal actions

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Meh, I think their price gouging is as morally reprehensible as stealing and there should be legal ramifications for what these companies are doing.

MumOfOneAllAlone · 07/11/2024 16:21

CagneyAndLazy · 07/11/2024 16:19

If you don't like their prices, don't buy from them!

Theft isn't the only option.

Disgusting.

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I don't think theft is the only option

But I don't think someone is bad if they steal. I really don't care. People are struggling really badly. I don't think badly of someone who steals when they're struggling

Just because I don't need to steal (other than claiming back on just eat in the past) doesn't mean I need to judge someone or paint them in a bad light

PlumViper · 07/11/2024 16:21

MumOfOneAllAlone · 07/11/2024 16:19

Not everyone can get to different shops to do their monthly shop

And everywhere the prices are high and for those struggling the prices are too high

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in terms of prices asda basic range are quite cheap same with tescos basic range

CagneyAndLazy · 07/11/2024 16:19

MumOfOneAllAlone · 07/11/2024 16:16

By price gouging and making record profits from this when they know how tough things are for the average person

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If you don't like their prices, don't buy from them!

Theft isn't the only option.

Disgusting.

MumOfOneAllAlone · 07/11/2024 16:19

PlumViper · 07/11/2024 16:18

well they do have the basics range (asda) aldi good prices etc and its upto the customer to look for better deals or prices.

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Not everyone can get to different shops to do their monthly shop

And everywhere the prices are high and for those struggling the prices are too high

PlumViper · 07/11/2024 16:18

MumOfOneAllAlone · 07/11/2024 16:16

By price gouging and making record profits from this when they know how tough things are for the average person

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well they do have the basics range (asda) aldi good prices etc and its upto the customer to look for better deals or prices.

MumOfOneAllAlone · 07/11/2024 16:18

JustWicked · 07/11/2024 16:17

So you think because the supermarkets make a profit, its ok to steal from them?

And you dont see anything wrong with that at all?

Nothing?

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Not a profit

Record profits when people are really struggling

JustWicked · 07/11/2024 16:17

MumOfOneAllAlone · 07/11/2024 16:16

Oh well I still don't think its a bad as what these companies are doing to innocent people who don't have lots of money

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So you think because the supermarkets make a profit, its ok to steal from them?

And you dont see anything wrong with that at all?

Nothing?

Biffbaff · 07/11/2024 16:17

It's jerks like you that are pushing the prices up for everyone else! You're a bloody wanker for doing that and you know you are. It's disgusting how smug you are about it too. Cretin.

MumOfOneAllAlone · 07/11/2024 16:16

PlumViper · 07/11/2024 16:14

how exactly do supermarkets

"But I think that stealing food in this way from a supermarket, when they treat the poor so badly is fine."

???

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By price gouging and making record profits from this when they know how tough things are for the average person

MumOfOneAllAlone · 07/11/2024 16:16

JustWicked · 07/11/2024 16:14

mum stealing basics or getting a free food shop when she could barely sfford it anyway.

But the OP is not a mum on the breadline is she? "I have to be honest we were hosting a dinner party which didn’t go ahead so the nice items - wine, meat just tempted me to chance it."

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Oh well I still don't think its a bad as what these companies are doing to innocent people who don't have lots of money

TinkyBella · 07/11/2024 16:15

It’s called theft.

adriftinadenofvipers · 07/11/2024 16:15

FavourCraver · 07/11/2024 13:59

yes, I would. But Mumsnet constantly reminds me what a god-awful person I am (supposedly). It’s a fucking massive supermarket chain.

Theft no matter how you dress it up. Disgusting.

PlumViper · 07/11/2024 16:14

MumOfOneAllAlone · 07/11/2024 16:12

I think there's no need to bring my child into a hypothetical debate

Mind your children and ill mind mine

But I think that stealing food in this way from a supermarket, when they treat the poor so badly is fine.

These big companies are shafting people, it's really awful, and no government is willing to stop them. Making record profits while people are struggling is immoral, far more so than a mum stealing basics or getting a free food shop when she could barely sfford it anyway.

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how exactly do supermarkets

"But I think that stealing food in this way from a supermarket, when they treat the poor so badly is fine."

???

JustWicked · 07/11/2024 16:14

MumOfOneAllAlone · 07/11/2024 16:12

I think there's no need to bring my child into a hypothetical debate

Mind your children and ill mind mine

But I think that stealing food in this way from a supermarket, when they treat the poor so badly is fine.

These big companies are shafting people, it's really awful, and no government is willing to stop them. Making record profits while people are struggling is immoral, far more so than a mum stealing basics or getting a free food shop when she could barely sfford it anyway.

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mum stealing basics or getting a free food shop when she could barely sfford it anyway.

But the OP is not a mum on the breadline is she? "I have to be honest we were hosting a dinner party which didn’t go ahead so the nice items - wine, meat just tempted me to chance it."

295bkq · 07/11/2024 16:14

No, I wouldn't do this. It's not like you ordered 3 tubes of toothpaste and they put 4 in by accident (in which case it'd be fine to keep) - you are literally stealing the entire shop.

MumOfOneAllAlone · 07/11/2024 16:12

EmmaMaria · 07/11/2024 16:07

But do you teach them that stealing is acceptable if they have a "good reason"? Because that is what you advocated. I'm sure criminals think their child is happy, healthy and well-raised - even if they are, it still makes them criminals and their child is very likley to follow their lead in such things.

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I think there's no need to bring my child into a hypothetical debate

Mind your children and ill mind mine

But I think that stealing food in this way from a supermarket, when they treat the poor so badly is fine.

These big companies are shafting people, it's really awful, and no government is willing to stop them. Making record profits while people are struggling is immoral, far more so than a mum stealing basics or getting a free food shop when she could barely sfford it anyway.