To wonder how I’m perceived as a bigger woman after the previous thread?

Several people have asked which thread and have been ignored. So i'll ask again WHICH THREAD please?

If I saw you in the street, I wouldn't notice you. Most people are overweight. I'm sure you don't stand out.
If you were my friend, of course I'd notice, just as I'd notice your hair colour and eye colour and height. I'm sure I wouldn't think anything of it. I have many overweight friends, colleagues and family members. I just see them as them.
I only have one friend whose weight I think about. Not in a judgemental way but in genuine concern. She's only 40 and is morbidly obese. She already has heart problems, high blood pressure, and type 2 diabetes so yes...I do wish she'd lose weight because I don't want her to die young.

It's unlikely that I'd pay enough attention to a random in a cafe to notice anything about their appearance. Maybe if you were 8 foot tall or wearing only a thong or something, but a size 20 isn't sufficiently unusual that it would be likely to register by itself iyswim.

Honestly I think some people are being quite disingenuous here. I don't blame people, some thoughts just belong inside people's heads and have no reason to surface, not even on a thread like this. I think it's human nature to judge, have a somewhat critical inner voice, one you even argue with to an extent, but not one you'd ever verbalise, but think this thread is very unlikely to be the reality.

I have trouble believing those posters who claim not to notice other people's weight. Really? Human beings are social animals, noticing everything about other people is what we do.

You said that much better than I could. Thank you.

I like to see people wearing bright or nicely co-ordinated colours, and I love sparkle and crystals, but it's not up to anyone else to wear stuff that pleases me! As for weight, I'd probably notice if you're over 30 stone or under 5, otherwise it just looks normal to me. I hope people judge me by the same standards.

What a stupid thing to say. Are people with chronic illnesses supposed to mope around on a daily basis and never feel happy? You have no idea how you'd feel if you had CF (and should think yourself lucky about that).

I'd notice your size and usually not think much of it. Sometimes I do see someone v big and think they are so unhealthy and will really regret it. I don't judge or think less of them.

However don't fool yourself, that is a very unhealthy weight and you will regret it down the line. It will cause more and more issues as you get older.

I have a relative who is obese because of a tumour on her brain. There is nothing she can do to lose the weight, nothing. I feel so bad for her because I can see how hard her life is because of it.

I technically have to notice other people's weight as I coach RDA (Riding for the Disabled) and for horse welfare reasons our centre has a maximum weight of 11 and a half stone. We have lost two riders in my session this year as they can no longer do the weight and I can only see this happening more often sadly.

I've started riding regularly again in middle age, and the place where I go has a limit of 13 stone. Not all of their horses will take top weight, so the lighter you are the more choice you have.

So when I see large people I think "what a shame, they couldn't go riding". Of course I know most people aren't into horses, but when you've been a pony-mad kid it's how you see the world....

I am going to be totally honest. I do judge people on their weight - being heavily overweight is an unhealthy lifestyle choice. Like smoking, drinking, eating junk food.

I would notice you, but in a positive way, as it sounds like I'd like your style. I'm very intetested in clothes/style/fabric etc, so I'm always on the lookout! When I was very slim, I'd notice other slim women whose dress sense I liked. Now I'm a bit larger, I tend to notice other women my size, or larger, if I like their style.

?

I do similar when I meet new women socially. I'll always have a quick glance and appraise whether I like her outfit, has she got nicer hair, how old is she compared to me etc.

I don't hone in specifically on weight but I would register it as a notable part of their appearance.

She must be doing it wrong then.

I care about my own weight now it's impacting my activity levels and therefore health. I'm not on the pull (married plus asexual anyway), and it doesn't feel relevant.

I care so little about other people that I have missed a friend losing six stone (admittedly from 24 stone, but still). It's not part of the interesting things about them. I'd consider it in a partner because of long term health implications, or my child because I'm responsible for their health. That's it. Someone else's size doesn't affect me.

But at a size 20ish I have had random men telling me I should lose weight so I'm more attractive to them. It literally makes me want to eat more!

I think your friend sounds amazing and definitely in the minority. If I had cystic fibrosis I would be unhappy.

Would you mind directing me to the other thread please?

Your first sentence 👍

I can't remember a single person I passed in the street or had small interactions with yesterday. Statistics would suggest some of those people were obese, I didn't notice.

My superpower is that I have never cared what others think of me! I've done a thorough health check recently and the result where good! VOILA!

To add - one thing I didn't realise about myself until recently is I have a slight phobia of being thin, I think because I had a serious throat infection as a young teen and lost so much weight it hurt. So if I get to a certain weight it makes me feel very uncomfortable and I much prefer to have some fat to lose just in case I get ill. I think this is also a rather odd mindset - I've not heard of anyone else having it so far (but would be interested to hear if others do)

My honest answer is that I find well-dressed heavier women very attractive. So I'd probably notice you and think you looked lovely. I find a big bust, big bum and nice clothes very comforting and pleasant to look at. Maybe because it seems cuddly or something?

I'm about a size 14. All I think about wrt my body is that my knees hurt a lot. I don't care about my weight at all or what people think about what I look like. I think it's a genetic thing - it's completely in-built and not a learned behaviour at all.

My brutally honest answer is I am always looking at women's bodies, clothes, hair, and my thoughts are usually comparing them to myself, whether I wish I had that particular feature, or whether by comparison I am grateful for my own.

I was on that thread and I have body image issues, seeing myself as fat. That’s not how I see others though. My normal thoughts are things like how nice someone’s outfit is or something and how I wish I could (feel able to) dress in nice clothes too.