To wonder how I’m perceived as a bigger woman after the previous thread?

Given how many overweight people there are now in this country, you would barely register OP. It’s becoming the norm.

I’d notice you were big, and might describe you that way if needed. Can’t say it would be anything other than an observation, in the same way you might have brown hair and green eyes.

I notice peoples weight but I feel quite self conscious myself generally (at size 14) so I actually assume someone a little larger might be kinder or more friendly. I certainly find them less daunting to talk to. I worry less that they would be judgemental than someone who was very slim.

I’m a size 12, happy with my body and how I look overall. I’m nearly a stone heavier after having dc 2 last year but my bmi is still in the healthy range, so I’ve not really been in a rush to lose it.

I would be lying if I said I didn’t notice people who were very overweight.
I do notice, the same way I notice someone who is very slim or who has bright orange hair or is wearing a green fluffy bag. I don’t think anything bad, I’m not sure I even think anything tbh but it registers for a few seconds, then I think about something else! It’s just part of daily life.

I don’t give a hoot what a stranger thinks about me, it’s none of my business.

I wouldn’t think anything at all

People are all saying they don't care what other's bodies look like and I don't believe that i'm afraid. I gained a lot of weight after children and people treated me differently, I've lost it again and I am taken more seriously at work and people in the street treat me differently. I'm sorry, but this is my experience. I do also notice people's bodies. I'm afraid to say I judge overweight people even though I have been there.

I can't help but feel that PPs are perhaps being overly complimentary to try to make you feel good OP. At your size you're not just a 'bigger woman', you're obese. No pinafore dress or body positivity is going to hide that fact. I probably wouldn't really notice you tbh, I don't tend to look at obese women and admire their outfits. But if I saw you eating a fry up in a cafe I probably would think you're not helping yourself.

This. My BMI is currently 23/24 and I and I am steadily coming down again.

I don't think anything of others. It's me I care about and how I feel in myself.

I don't dress for others either. I dress very alternatively, very black or very loud colours. Things I'd be crucified for in MN land.

My takeaway from that thread (if it's the same one you're referring to, anyway) was a bit of a shock about how much headspace their own self-loathing takes up in every moment of every day. They didn't seem to have much room for anything else - joy, contentment, peace - let alone time/space/energy for judging other people.

It was a sad thread for me to read.

I don't think about anyone else's weight, only my own. The only reason I might notice is if you were particularly stylishly dressed, in which case I'd think "I wish I looked that good"!

I have huge admiration – and envy! – for people who are happy in their bodies, whatever size. That's the goal.

I notice people’s weight all the time but I’m well aware that’s my problem. At the moment I’m underweight as I’m recovering from cancer and I’m absolutely dreading any weight gain that may happen in the future.

There was a thread a while ago where poster said slim people were staring at her judgily because she was eating a burger at Waterloo. I found that very hard to believe. Everyone at Waterloo is rushing to catch a train!

This.

If I noticed anything, it would your comfort and confidence in your own body which I would really envy.

Most people won’t be thinking about your weight at all. Everyone’s too preoccupied with their own 😂

I honestly wouldn't think a single thing, the women (well, people generally) in my family and social circle are all shapes and sizes. Larger bodied people are everywhere these days so it's pretty unremarkable.

But if you're inviting me to comment and want honest responses, when I reflect on it I do think size 20+ is big and unless you're a body builder or something must mean you have an unhealthy amount of body fat. Your size tells me next to nothing else about you though, it's just a boring physical characteristic like eye brows or feet.

Please remember that people are intimately acquainted with every part of their own bodies - every squish, every roll, every imperfection. They only see you fully dressed in clothes that suit you. Of course they aren't judging your body - they can't really see it.

I think people focus on their own appearance far more than on anybody else's.

For example, if someone hates their nose, I bet they don't have much opinion on other people with similar noses. I really don't like my hair line (very pronounced widow's peak) but I literally pay no attention whatsoever to anybody else's.

I'm not going to lie and say nobody ever judges others for their weight because realistically we all know that some people do. But I don't think everyone on that thread who has opinions about their own body automatically has those opinions about anybody else's.

Don't ask this question is my advice. Much better to feel confident in yourself. You sound like you look great, dress stylishly, and enjoy your body - why let the meany-faced Mumsnet fatphobics (there are many) loose on your self image?

P.s. I do like the sound of your style - where do you shop?

Didn't see that thread but honestly I doubt people notice.

Also size is a funny thing. My sister is about your height and weight but a size 16 so we all carry it differently. Just goes to show it doesn't mean much.

MN will judge you far more than the actual outside world does.

People don't care what other people look like, they literally aren't thinking about you.

If you were a friend of family member complaining to me about your weight whilst eating a pastry, bag of crisps etc I'd get frustrated at the bad choices you continue to make but. Wouldn't comment.

But I'm the same size as you and have a similar outlook, I am trying to lose weight but only after noticing some weight related issues in the summer feet swelling etc not for aesthetic reasons.

I didn't have body issues growing up and was into sports so athletic and only put on weight, after some life changes that made me very sedentary from 30 onwards therefore had 3 decades of good self confidence to fall back on. If you have been brought up in a family that is very weight critical, or larger as a child and bullied then those things are bound to impact your idea of self worth and link it to your weight as an adult.

Also, once you are fat everyday is a 'fat' day so you don't pay any attention to a little bit of bloating which is noticeable when you are a 10 or 12.

My body is a vessel to help me do the things I need to, at the minute it needs some maintenance but that is ok.

Didnt see that thread, but I dont care what weight other ppl are unless it affects me. Most people are overweight these days so I would barely notice you doing whatever.
For me keeping my weight below a size 12 is mostly about health because I have diabetes in the family.

I've fluctuated in my life between a size 8 and a size 20, currently and
8. I found that when I was bigger I was more likely to notice other peoples sizes because I was conscious of my own, but not in a mean way towards anyone else, purely due to my own self esteem issues.

Now, I don't take much notice of anyone's sizes, more likely to take notice of a nicely put together outfit than what is underneath it. My female friends are all the same, I can't imagine any one of them commenting on another woman's size if out in public.

I read that thread too. I'm currently a comfortable 16. Never been smaller than a 12 and that was with very disordered eating and mild bulimia. I've now been this size for a good five years. I eat well, exercise etc...and don't seem to gain or lose. I make the effort with clothes, mini/midi dresses with trainers or boots, classic black biker jacket. If this is my size now then honestly I am 100% fine with it.