Selling the car I use for work.

Tell him he can't sell the car because you will need to quit your job forcing the entire family into financial hardship frankly he's a moron he got himself in the debt he needs to get himself out without screwing over the whole family

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The problem is that if the car is in his name, you can't stop him from selling it.

Is it that he wants/needs a lump sum of cash now by selling or is it that he wants to reduce monthly expenses by not having a car?

Because if he wants quick cash I don't get what the difference is if he sells the car to you or if he sells it to Joe Bloggs for the same amount. If he simply wants to reduce monthly expenses then in order to keep it you're potentially looking at paying all costs for the running of the car IF that's truly his only concern.

So, you'll really have to quit your job if he sells the car? And he doesn't care? I think you need to look at the totality of your relationship and decide if it's worth keeping.

Why is your money split when you have children? Why should you have to “buy the car off him”—it’s joint family property! The fact that he doesn’t see it that way is a massive red flag.

He's being an absolute dick!
I'm thinking that he's resentful of you earning more than him.
You're covering your share of the bills, paying for a holiday, buying the kids new things, and he doesn't like it.
Most men like to feel that they are the providers of the family, but your earning more and he doesn't like it, so by selling the car, he's tipping the scales back in his favour.
This is not an equal partnership OP, this needs a serious discussion with him.

IF its his car why have you paid so much money towards the upkeep of the car? Can you not get a small loan to buy the car off him? surely you would only need to give him half the money he wants for it so you can get YOUR deposit back and the money you have paid to keep it on the road?

If you can't afford to buy another car for a couple of months I would suggest getting a loan. It may well take him sone time to sell that car also.

Then look at how you leave him

I paid the majority of the money for our car but am not the registered keeper on the v5 book - the registered keeper is not necessarily the owner and it does not impact my rights as it can be seen through bank transfers etc that I paid for part of the car.

If I was you I would write down all if the money you have spent on the family and kids out of your own money, what you have paid towards the car and ask that he pays it back or puts it wards the cost of buying him out of the car. If he doesn’t pay his share of the holiday he is not coming - simple. Half of bills means half of kids expenses, activities, clothes, holidays etc… It sounds like he is taking advantage of you and you may be financially better off without him!

How does he expect you to get to work?

Tell him you'll need to sell the kids beds/cancel the holiday etc to replace the car. You paid for those things so they are yours right?

Same applies to anything else you've paid for.

Are they both your kids? Who's name is on the rental tenancy

Tell him to sell a kidney if he's desperate! 🙄

Has he been like this always? Or is this new behaviour? Because he is being so incredibly unreasonable and financially short sighted that unless this is just his character (greedy, controlling and a bit thick) it looks like he really needs money and urgently. If this is the case, you need to learn why as it may impact your own security.

I think your partner is abusive.

From a practical point of view you cannot loose your job.

How much would the cheapest car you could get cost you?

I'm not in the UK so have no ideas about practicality and possibilities but where I am an employeur could advance the cost of the car of needed for work and then reimburse themselves over 24 months on payroll.

Does the job center have any aids/grants avaliable for you to stay in work?

Is there a friendly small garage in you area which could possibily lease you a cheap run around for a few months?

Do you have the time/energy/possibility to do any jobs/projects that could bring in even a small amount of cash so you can build a "buy a car fund" quicker? (Ironing/cleaning/babysitting?)

Good luck OP.

Neither of them can kick the other out

Are the kids his kids? How long have you been together?

Sounds like a long time if you are both named tenants on a HA house? I don't know the rules around this but can you (threaten to) kick him out?

The person named on the logbook is the registered keeper. The logbook literally states on it in big capital letters across the front, "THIS DOCUMENT IS NOT PROOF OF OWNERSHIP".

No, they are the registered keeper.
The owner is the person who paid for it and can prove that with receipts.

Incorrect. Only person named on the logbook can sell the car … they are the registered owner.

This is abuse .
My friend was in a housing association house with her disabled dh ,who was abusive.
She packed his stuff and kicked him out to his parents.
Housing association put the house in her sole name
And the dh got rehoused in a flat .
You would get universal credit without him

Pop in to a second hand car dealer and ask about finance. You will need your own car for when you LTB.

Sounds controlling to me.

This is financial abuse. He's literally trying to remove your means of supporting yourself, and appropriate the funds you've paid into the car yourself.

Why cant you work out a route znd use public transport if you buy weeklybor monthly tickers it actually works out cheaper shop online walk to n from school none of this is difficult for you to do it just takes you to plan ahead maybe get up hzlf hour earlier in the morning honestly it not difficult from someone who doesn't drive due to medical reasons i do find these conversations hilarious

Is he the father of your DC OP? He's treating the mother of his Dc like this?

This isn't a partnership. he obviously sees the car as his.

It is HIS car, and he is selling it because HE needs the money.

OP says it isn’t her car, hence the dilemma as it will leave her up a well known creek without a paddle