Play date in XL Bully house

The only idiotic comment is yours.

I don't know why you defend these dogs and the idiots who own them. Do you never read/watch/listen to the news?

I think honesty is good here - if she can see she is costing her children friendships, she may reconsider her choices. Hopefully she's only costing them friendships, and not their lives/faces/limbs.

@kurotora what are you talking about…what we are currently calling the Cane Corso?? The Cane Corso has been around since the time of Ancient Rome, the American Bully was first bred in the US in the 1990s!

Yes people cross XL bullys with mastiffs, but this does not create a Cane Corso! The Cane Corso is an FCI recognised breed, which has been around for thousands of years! Yes they were saved from “extinction” but they certainly were not mixed with the American Bully in order to save the breed!

An XL bully mix is exactly that, a mix! If you look at the DNA you will see many other breeds mixed in to form the XL bully in the first place. The only reason mastiffs are mixed in is to make them bigger, it can be any mastiff breed, not necessarily a Cane Corso, depends on who is breeding the dog in the first place. Anyone who is breeding a dog to make it bigger or produce a “rare” colour etc, should not be breeding any dog imo, but that’s probably for another thread!

Please do some research and get your facts straight before throwing another breed under the bus!

That's putting alot of trust in the owner though, that she would keep it in the crate and it wouldn't accidentally get let out or even manage to escape.

I’m glad it’s not just me that says no to play dates at a house with a xl bully.
my little boy has a really good friend and her mum is lovely, but I just cannot let him go to her house with that type of dog.

How many times have we read “much loved family pet…”, “docile XL bully…”, “XL bully with no behavioural issues…” followed by how they ripped someone’s face off?

They’re always friendly and well behaved until they’re not.

You’re doing the right thing, OP.

My DC are 16 and 17 and I wouldn’t let them in a house with an XL bully!

Be honest but nice with it.

I wouldn't even want to go into a house where an XL bully was the family pet. Deffo wouldn't send a kid in.

Î hate to hurt feelings but I would definitely tell her why and my kids definitely wouldn’t be going.

No way on God's earth.

Locked up, they can still get out - if someone is negligent, and to be honest, I think anyone that owns one must be 2 sandwiches short of a picnic in the first place.

Why would you knowingly put your DC in potential danger. You could end up regretting it for the rest of your life.

Bless you OP, you sound so lovely to have asked for opinions on this. I am a massive dog lover but I probably will say no and tell her why.

Days out are fine, no need to ruin a friendship just tell her you aren’t comfortable. Dogs (all kinds ) can be unpredictable especially with someone they don’t know. We have a Labrador and if someone told me they didn’t want her near their child, I would understand.

I had someone once say they could come to visit because they don’t like dogs. Fine with me, I just meet them at a coffee shop instead.

@Deeperthantheocean

So, absolutely yes, ask if the dog will be kept separately from the children and if not just explain your concerns.

But someone having an XL bully in a home with children shows such a complete lack of awareness of the danger and lack of responsibility and failure to prioritise the welfare of children that I would never trust them to follow through on keeping them separately.

Anyone who has children and proactively chooses to have an XL bully living under the same roof is utterly irresponsible and selfish.

We had the most beautiful placid Doberman, the softest girl you could ever meet who would run away from a hoover! We totally trusted her but when we had playdates she would in a different room, the main reason being a child could unintentionally (or intentionally) torment her. We knew she would just run off to get away but of course unpredictable reactions could happen.

The times there were a couple of friends around we would allow a few minutes for them to pet her, with our stringent supervision.

I do agree that having a powerful dog comes with responsibility as, if they did become aggressive, a child would be seriously injured. Rare but it does happen, especially with certain breeds (Akitas are the ones that concern me the most).

So, absolutely yes, ask if the dog will be kept separately from the children and if not just explain your concerns. Xx

Could you ask her if she will crate the dog while your child is there? Explain why, and say that if they don’t want to do that, then perhaps her child can come over to your house? We have a big dog (not an Xl bully, a soppy wolfhound) and I always check whether visiting people (children or adults) are ok with big dogs and if not then I shut him safely away in the utility room while they are at our house.

i wouldn’t allow my children to play at a house with an XL bully.

You are not being unreasonable, I would never let my daughter go in to some else who got a XL Bully,look at the family dog that killed there daughter.

No way. I'd be honest and explain why, invite the child to your house. Not even if they promised it would be in a crate or in a different room, or they will supervise. Hopefully they understand and if they don't, it's not much of a loss.

I honestly wouldn't trust anyone stupid enough to own one of these dogs.

Children shouldn’t have to be put in danger because of adults’ choices to expose them to a dangerous dog.

If you find that idiotic then more fool you.

Hard no. And again, I wouldn’t make an excuse I’d say it’s because of the dog.

Did you miss the women who were killed by their own bully dogs? Not a child in sight? Dogs can turn on anyone. I say this as a dog owner of decades. I have to say, even if she is there and the dog decides to attack, there will be nothing she can do to stop it.

Exactly this. The only safe XLB is a dead XLB. They are horrible monstrosities.

1million percent that would be a hard no
I hate when owners say dw it's a nice dog. I'm sure the owners of some of the killer XL bullies said the same at some point too.
Could the boy come over to yours?

Could you not have the play date at your house and explain you are scared of big dogs maybe

1 million percent no and tell the truth, I would not trust them especially around someone they don't know.