Play date in XL Bully house

What do you think the average woman could do if an XL bully attacked her child or your child even if she was present?

Her being there doesn't safeguard them adequately to be worth the risk.

Do you not think that the people killed / maimed by an XL bully have tried to get away / stop the attack etc? The mum being present wouldn't help your daughter if the dog decides to attack for any reason.

I also have a dog that some people may be uncomfortable about. I would always make a point that he would never be alone with the kids and would be locked out so not a risk. I'd not be offended if someone said they weren't comfortable but I'd be upset if my kid was missing out because of my pup that wouldn't be there - but then he's not an XL bully so it's probably fair to say there's no right to be upset about it if he was?!

Absolutely do not agree with the couple posters saying aslong as children aren't left alone with the dog wtf ?! You think if an adult is in a room with them they would be able to stop a dog with that much force killing a child or more

Just tell them straight. There's no way people with one of those monster hounds hasn't heard similar before.

WTF are you even asking? Don’t make excuses. Tell her the truth . She’s clearly an idiot and needs to be told
(if this is real: struggling to believe that it is).

No way! Tell her why, you won't be the first I'm sure

No say you don't feel comfortable but you are welcome to have the boy to yours to play?

Just say you/he is worried about the dog. It’s normal I think - I had a dog growing up and some of my friends didn’t feel comfortable coming over.

I understand where you're coming from, but I wouldn't even trust an XL in the presence of responsible adult, particularly given the most recent tragedy.

https://banthebullyxluk.wordpress.com/2023/08/01/finding-kimbo/

Read this. It's very interesting.

And my answer to would I let my DC be near one - is a resounding 'no'.

Like someone further up the thread has posted. I would never trust someone who has chosen to have one of these dogs with the safety of my child. Be honest with the reason why and don’t back down. Trust your instincts OP. I just can’t understand how any sane person of rational thinking would keep one of these dogs in the same house as a child.

FFS

Hard No.

No fucks given about offending people.

No way and I'd tell her why nicely. I have no shame. I was invite to dinner told ex bully would be secured away from guest. Got to the front door he was roaming around. I said sorry we can't stay and left.

Do you have a dog? I'd just say he's not keen on dogs so would X like to come to ours instead.

Not a hope in hell I'd be agreeing to it. Less than 1% of dogs in the UK are XL bullies, but they're responsible for 65% of fatal dog attacks.

It isn't even about children being unsupervised either because if an XL attacks a child I don't know what you think an adult is going to be able to do about it.

No way and I would seriously judge someone for having one. Sorry but you have to be as thick as pigshit to have one, especially around children.

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I’ve had Labradors for the last 20 years whilst my children grew up. Big soft family friendly Labradors who never showed any signs of aggression. I always put them in the garden/kitchen when we had any visiting children. There’s no point in taking any risk, for the dogs sake too. I would understand any parent who didn’t want their children around my dogs. It’s not unreasonable.

Strip it all back and it's 'your DC dying' versus 'hurting the feelings of a lady who seems really nice'.

You don't want either but if the worst DID happen, could you ever live with your decision?

'lovely dog'

Until when?

No, no, no

I'm sure it's the lovely lady that owns the dog.

Anybody who owns an XL bully in a house with children is not someone I trust to keep my child safe. Their attitude to risk would be wildly different to mine. They could promise dog would be crated, in a different room, supervised, muzzled or whatever else - even if they had the best intentions I simply wouldn’t believe they wouldn’t momentarily forget, carelessly let it out or otherwise expose my kid to the dog. It boils down to I don’t think responsible dog owners own XL bullies.

To use your analogy my children are occasionally driven by their friend’s parents - parents I have known for a while, who have similar rules and views on child safety matters as I do. I observe them using car seats for their kids and driving a sensible car. If a perfectly nice parent who I otherwise liked screeched up with her kids jumping about loose in the backseat of a pimped out hatchback with the bass blaring and an exhaust I could hear from three blocks away then she could promise she’d drive carefully and my kid would always wear a seatbelt but my child would not be getting in that car.

Who cares? If they're stupid enough to have an XL Bully in a household with kids, and invite others over, quite frankly I wouldn't give a shit about offending them.

Let them spout what they wish. Imo every parent should refuse play dates and maybe then they'll get the message. Unfortunately the liklihood is that if/when these monsters flip it will be against the non resident kid 1st. It's absolutely an attack waiting to happen. Let the parent gob off, hopefully to the backs of other parents as they turn away

Adore all dogs and don't have any fear of larger breeds. Would I let my child go and play in the home of a child with an XL bully not a chance.

A risk not worth taking in my opinion, people are overly confident in terms of thinking their dog wouldn't hurt anyone. Children are unpredictable, dogs are unpredictable, other children's parents are unpredictable. Have the friend over to yours and be honest with the mum. The fact she is prepared to have an XL bully in the house with her own children tells you all you need to know.