Play date in XL Bully house

Make an excuse! No chance mine would be going!

I would decline and say it is because you're worried about such a large dog. Offer to host at your house instead?

Yeah, no way would I ever allow that and I'd be honest about it. I'd be polite of course but I would be truthful and say I dont feel comfortable with your dog.

You have every right to feel that way. If you get a dog like that you will have to accept that many people wont want to socialise with it. Dont get a dog like that if you dont like it.

Even well-meaning visiting kids are stressful for the goodest, most genetically stable dogs.

And these are not those.

Jack Lis was playing with friends when he encountered this thing, called Beast. What chance did the lad have?

He needs to find friends with cats.

How are parents not being held for negligence for having these kind of killer dogs in a home with children. How is it any different to having a gun or drugs in the house? Quite clear the ban has done nothing

Yanbu. They are always lovely dogs until they flip. And often it's visitors they flip at.

No you cannot send your child there. I would offer to host instead or arrange to meet up at the park.

Not a chance in he'll. And I'd be wondering in which other ways her judgement was lacking. The kid can play at your house.

No chance in hell.
Not if there's an XL bully or even other breeds I am not sure about. Just not worth the risk, ever.
I am an animal lover but increasingly find how deluded dog owners are about their dogs. Just the mere owning of certain breeds would me question whether I'd want them people anywhere near my children or myself at all.

I would be honest, otherwise this situation will crop up again and the excuses will run dry.

I'd never send my DD to a house with an XL bully, especially having been attacked by a small dog, which was difficult enough to deter. Those dogs were bred specifically to rip living things apart, and they can turn without warning.

As a (small) dog owner myself I wouldn't be offended if someone didn't feel comfortable around my dog, if she's a reasonable person she should understand.

No never. Suggest a playdate in the park instead.

XL bully owners are by definition untrustworthy because at best they have poor judgment. Why would you put your child at risk to avoid offending someone?

Nope. Note ever. Your child is a stranger to that dog so could easily trigger the XL protective traits that seem to underpin their aggression.

Just no.

My son is older and his friend has an XL Bully. I have told him he is never to go in his house but his friend is always welcome here.

As he is older I have never had the conversation with his mum as they make their own arrangements, but in your case I would say no and that I was nervous of big dogs or something as I'm probably not brave enough to be blunt about it.

Just be honest. A little girl has just died after an attack from her beloved xl pet.
i looked after a baby xl cross puppy for a while, as a favour to a poorly friend who’d rescued the pup.
it was a fucking monster , even As a young pup, and terrorised my own dog , so much so that I couldn’t leave them alone together in a room, one either being in a cage or shut in another room at night and I ended up walking them separately as it was so vicious , territorial and tenacious. And really strong at just a few months old.
i was glad when the owners got rid of it as I was in constant fear for their own small children and what might happen as it grew bigger or if they antagonised it.
and that was just a cross breed.

As no trustworthy and responsible dog owner (xl bully, Labrador or Yorkshire terrier!) would leave children alone with ANY dog

You already know an XL Bully owner isn't responsible though...no further proof needed.

Nope, ds3 wouldn't be stepping through the front door, ever. Not if the dog was leashe, crated, it doesn't matter.

My eldest two dc are 16 and 14. Even at their ages they know that an XL Bully house is not a safe place and if they're ever with a friend who happens to have one they need to make an excuse and leave.

Absolutely no. I’ve been in this situation before. My son asked his friend if they could put the dog in a room if he came over and his friend said no as apparently that was a lovely dog! I also asked about 6 friends/work colleagues what they would do - all said no. I explained it to my son (8 at the time) and he decided he didn’t want to go because of the dog.

As I said to my son, it’s my job to keep him safe and if he went it would probably be ok but I couldn’t risk it not being ok.

My neighbour thought it would be a good idea to rescue one..beautiful dog and i felt sorry for it but i told my son he could no longer go in their garden and play with their kids..better safe than sorry

All XL bully dogs dog owners think they are lovely dogs who wouldn’t hurt a fly. Until they attack someone.

Definitely tell her why, she needs to realise the consequences of her decision to own a killing machine.

If multiple people tell her they or their DC can’t come round because of her dog, she might have a rethink about having it around her own children.

So yes, tell her clearly “thank you but no, because you have a dangerous dog”.

A visiting child is at far greater risk than a resident child. Your friend is an idiot, her own DC are living on borrowed time. She is putting her desire to be edgy above her children's lives.

No I’m sorry. That is impossible because of the dog. Would your dc like to come here instead?

No further justification needed.

But how can you trust them? I wouldn’t trust their judgement at all!