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Husband been let go from job. 1 weeks notice. Blindsided.

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Gluteustothemaximus40 · 06/11/2024 22:35

So my husband got a new job 3 months ago, but a weird place to work, for a family run business.

Said the job was 3 month probation then the money would increase. Position was assistant manager.

No signs at all that there were any issues.

Anyway, today, the day after the 3 month probation, the boss says he has to let him go. Says he isn’t aggressive enough with sales and a bunch of other shit. None of which is true.

so he has a week. We have to find another job in a week or we are fucked for paying mortgage and bills and food and just being alive. I have a full time job.

this has never happened to us all our lives. We have worked for companies since we were both 16 (now 40s and 50s) and neither of us have ever been fired or given one weeks notice anywhere. This is alien to us.

so, is this even legal? He never had a contract, everything was verbal.

he didn’t do anything wrong, no gross misconduct, in fact he was early by half hour every day, worked hard, sold, did everything asked and more, and yet here we are.

I’m torn between crying, as financially we are so fucked and I want to throw up, and being angry at the cunts who have done this.

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Gluteustothemaximus40 · 07/11/2024 07:57

So with the contract thing it was promised but never materialized. The sister of the boss was HR and she even said the other week she was working on DHs contract. We were so pleased as it meant probation must be done. So really no warning at all.

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Fairyliz · 07/11/2024 07:46

NI is going up so employers will have to lose staff.
It’s nothing personal but it’s cheaper to get rid of your husband who has just started, than a more experienced staff member who will need to be paid redundancy.

LaLaLaurie · 07/11/2024 07:40

Apply for UC today.

AgentJohnson · 07/11/2024 06:39

Even though it would not have helped in this situation, why was he working without a contract? That should have set off alarm bells. Was he even paying tax?

Christmas temp workers are being recruited now so he should be able to pick up something relatively quickly but January and February are often the quieter months, so securing employment for those months will be trickier.

Walksbythesea · 07/11/2024 06:25

This is small companies for you. I would never work for another as they can screw you over and there isn't much you can do. I now work for large soulless businesses but they're run kind of well and they don't usually pull this kind of shit.

Mummyoflittledragon · 07/11/2024 03:24

ahagwearsapointybonnet · 07/11/2024 00:37

It sounds a bit like an adult version of the thing where some restaurants etc. keep getting a different poor teenager in for a "trial shift" every weekend, have them washing up or running backwards and forwards for hours, then never actually pay them afterwards, the "job" they thought they were trying out for fails to materialise and the next week, the place has some other poor muggins in working for free instead... What's the betting they have some other underpaid poor sod in for the next 3 months working their backside off on a promise of "jam tomorrow", and then get rid of him/her too? Getting a proper contract would have been a good start, but at least he'll be warned for next time...

I was also thinking the same. Good luck with the job hunt op. This will be a blessing in disguise one day.

Negroany · 07/11/2024 01:00

Chocolateteabag · 06/11/2024 22:49

And no contract?? Sounds like a blessing in disguise to be let go

Yes they technically have 3 months from start date to get the contract in place, but that is fairly shoddy HR not to have one ready for the first day

No, it's day one. But it's a "piggy back claim" - you can't bring it as a claim in its own right.

ahagwearsapointybonnet · 07/11/2024 00:37

It sounds a bit like an adult version of the thing where some restaurants etc. keep getting a different poor teenager in for a "trial shift" every weekend, have them washing up or running backwards and forwards for hours, then never actually pay them afterwards, the "job" they thought they were trying out for fails to materialise and the next week, the place has some other poor muggins in working for free instead... What's the betting they have some other underpaid poor sod in for the next 3 months working their backside off on a promise of "jam tomorrow", and then get rid of him/her too? Getting a proper contract would have been a good start, but at least he'll be warned for next time...

MarkingBad · 07/11/2024 00:30

A really horrible situation for you and DH, sadly it's not unusual especially in SMEs when they start worrying about money. Still it's no real help knowing many others are in the same boat.

Apply for Universal Credit and speak to your mortgage lenders about it, they deal with this day in day out and will have a system of breaks etc until you get back on your feet. Talk to others like utilities too to see if they have any easy payment options just in case.

Also try the agencies, some have really interesting well paid work and a lot of companies use them for acquiring perm staff too going from temp to perm. Some pay weekly too if you want it, that can be such a help when the wages dry up.

Best of luck to him on his job search and I hope it turns out well and he's back in work in no time.

Bailar · 07/11/2024 00:01

DPD Christmas jobs too, they usually recruit through employment agencies.

Bailar · 07/11/2024 00:00

I'm sorry OP, I've been there 2 years ago, please try employment agencies, just as a gap stop. Also I've noticed local bakeries are usually looking for staff, if your DH is used to early morning starts?

AlohaRose · 06/11/2024 23:59

Christmas temp jobs have already started so he may well find temp work immediately.

Why did he accept a job with no contract though and with nothing in writing? Was he so desperate to leave his last job? If not, can he approach his old company to see if anything is available?

AdoraBell · 06/11/2024 23:43

Glad he is looking for work and not burying his head, fingers crossed he gets something soon.

Continue ranting here if you need to.

Gluteustothemaximus40 · 06/11/2024 23:36

Thank you all so much for replying. We have no family between us. Sad stories for both of us, so no financial help in that way.

he will literally pick up whatever he needs to do, and yes Christmas isn’t so bad as he could get something temporary but it’s just the bit in between now and then. oh for a crystal ball…

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Meadowfinch · 06/11/2024 23:29

OP, I realise it doesn't help now, but when you are both back in work again, forego a few spends and build up an emergency fund. Enough to pay your bills for two months to buy you some breathing space.

Get your dh to sign on. He should be entitled to up to 6 months JSA while he job hunts. Also bear in mind, depending on salary level, he may get a tax rebate when he restarts work.

eurochick · 06/11/2024 23:20

As it's coming up to Christmas there should be plenty of warehouse, delivery and hospitality roles around. Hopefully he will get something soon.

As he has what sounds like a decent employment history I would guess it is them not him. The NI hike will mean lots of employers are looking to make cuts.

Rainbowqueeen · 06/11/2024 23:20

I'm so sorry OP. Others have given really good practical suggestions about talking to your bank about how to manage this. I agree, they will want to work with you to avoid forcing a sale. You will come through this, I'm just sorry that this is happening. Your DH sounds like a good un.

I have everything crossed that he finds something quickly. If your workplace has an EAP, please use it, this is a horrible shock.

booisbooming · 06/11/2024 23:13

That sucks. It's poor form by the employers but not unusual, and in my experience particularly not unusual in small companies without proper HR.

Often the manager just has hiring regret - they've changed their mind or more likely gone over budget somewhere else so they've decided they can manage without the new hire. Sometimes it's last in first out, sometimes it's they just wish they'd got their mate Dave in instead. People on these threads love to say "well there must be a good reason" as though any boss is automatically always right no matter what, but there isn't always any more to it than that.

Try and see it as a lucky escape because they wouldn't have been nice to work with long term.

Elphamouche · 06/11/2024 23:09

Unfortunately it’s legal. Happened to DH in July this year - they paid his notice. I was at home with a 5m old. Fucking nightmare.

Apply anything and everything now. Tell him not to be picky, if you’re fucked financially just get a temp Christmas role until something he wants comes up. DH applied for 56, he got 6 interviews but only offered 1. It took 13 weeks. Its not what he expected to be doing, but he loves it, it really suits him, financially better off, commute is better and he loves the job. Its not something he would have considered going for if we weren’t in the situation we were in.

Good luck OP, it’s shit.

RVEllacott · 06/11/2024 23:05

A very similar thing happened to DH earlier this year. He was still on probation, went into work one morning and they told him they didn't want him any more and he had to leave there and then - didn't even have a chance to say goodbye to colleagues. He was stunned. On the upside, he wasn't enjoying the job and he'd already started applying for other things. He's now in a new job which is very different to anything he's done before but which he's enjoying more and it's better paid.

Best luck to your DH in his job hunt OP, hopefully he will end up with something better in the long run.

Marblesbackagain · 06/11/2024 23:00

It's the shock, it will wear off soon.

Take a breath, this is a nasty surprise but it like a lot of things in life you will be fine.

Firstly, become informed where are your finances. Secondly look into any and all options to reduce outgoings. Mortgage break etc

Information and options set out in black and white will help reduce the inevitable stress.

Hopefully something will come up really quickly for him. In th meantime he can get in touch with agencies for temp work. Having a plan and some income will help navigate the rough waters.

LIZS · 06/11/2024 22:55

Has he had payslips, paid ni and tax? He should be paid for any holiday he has accrued but not taken.

LaLaLaurie · 06/11/2024 22:55

It’s a shock but he failed his probation and they obviously had valid reasons whether you agree with them or not.

They are ‘weird’ and he didn’t have a contract so not the best employer to have.

Gettingbysomehow · 06/11/2024 22:55

Sadly OP this has happened to me a few times working fot small family run businesses which is why I no longer do private podistry and have gone back to the NHS. They csn just dump you anytime they want for any reason and there is nothing you can do about it. Tje last one said his mother didnt like me!!!
Dont let it wreck his self esteem. Can he temp until he gets another job?

StormingNorman · 06/11/2024 22:51

Do you have any temp agencies near you? They can be quite good and pay weekly which may be helpful for your cash flow.

Deliveroo etc could also be good to tide you over.