To think she probably wasn’t joking?

What a cow. I used to work part time and got this shit from someone as well

Don't mention pay or your other job etc. You work the hours you're contracted to and it's between you and your employer and not her.

I used to get 'off home already' snide comments etc I just would say 'not yet, late lunch and a bit of shopping with a friend first. See you tomorrow' or something like that.

Next time she says something like she's here then just say 'yes'. As you're leaving put in some headphones as shes talking.

Just ask her if she knows when the next Ofsted inspection is likely to be? Don’t elaborate, just smile sweetly if she asks you why.😉

Ide have to be over jolly, "yes I'm here go enjoy your lunch ladies" and when you leave say "bye everyone" really happily, and say "off home for a nice cup of tea and peace and quiet to put my feet up" rub it in your not having to stay there like her, obviously your not going home to do that but sod her she doesn't need to know that, I think she will soon shut up, Mardy cow!

Think this happens in all jobs. I used to say, you do know I only get paid for the hours I work, same as you. Or if they said, wish I could finish at 1, I would say ‘do it’. Very tiresome and they are obviously jealous or resentful.

Sometimes adults end up working with children because they themselves are still children, and can't get along in the fully adult world. Silly comment for her to make.

I've known lots of people who have worked in nurseries and schools and some have had all manner of problems and issues
I know work places are like this , but these particular environments seem worse than most other jobs. Agree it's probably the stress of it all , I know it can't be easy.

Sorry I meant to quote @the80sweregreat

No idea. I've worked in a few and every time I start at a new one I think "This one might be better! The people might be nice, happy, not miserable nasty people with massive chips on their shoulders." But every time without fail it is the same. When there is a good coworker it's like finding treasure.

Other toxic working environments are available.
But possibly the stress levels?

What is it with nurseries or schools that turn people into monsters to work with and create such toxic environments?

Remind her you're struggling having to work around your dcs silly woman

I would reply with something like “my main job doesn’t pay enough, that’s why I have to work 2 jobs” then watch her squirm.

Yup. Tell them they too can have your hours - for your pay.

Just shout back "oh I will! Enjoy your work!"

Why? None of their business what she’s doing … or how many jobs she has.
Could be going home to watch TV for the afternoon, they’re not paying her.

Why are you justifying yourself.
Next time just say … will do, unless you’re paying me overtime, and leave.

I work part time in a nursery and most of the staff are an absolute nightmare to work with - miserable, unhappy, constantly talking behind each others backs and yes making snide comments. Absolutely horrible toxic environment and I've been upset many times, so I feel for you, op. But I'm not surprised.

Some people have always had an issue with part time workers, I remember my mum saying when she worked part time 30 years ago people would comment “alright for some” when she was leaving so she used to just say I only get paid for the hours I do?!

I think for a lot of people they are trying to say “your lucky that you can afford to work part time” when usually it’s due to child care

I found life much easier working full time before dc than part time with dc though !

I used to finish at 2.30 when DCs were younger. Every day without fail as I left a certain colleague would say ooh enjoy your afternoon what are you doing? (As if it was an afternoon off) it got so tiresome that eventually I said I'm not off to lounge around drinking pina coladas, and rattled off the long list of tasks I had lined up, laundry, cleaning, school run, shopping, admin etc. he didn't ask so much after that 🤣

Yep, me too. It makes you want to say, ‘enjoy your full time pay!’

Do they know you work two jobs? Next time if they say 'You go off and relax' you should reply 'I wish I could but I'm going off to do my second job now.'

Its par for the course if you work part time i'm afraid. You are unlikely to be treated as an equal in this situation. Also for those who say to remind you get part time pay, that's fine but only helps so far as there are many woman who cant afford to work part time even if they'd like to and havent got any back up to do this. I worked part time for years and years and it was great to be able to have the flexibility, pull everything else in on days off, not comparable to working full time and still having all the other stuff to do on top.

I used to get this too. In the end I just used to say ‘oh I will. I will think of you all on my day off. Toodles!’
They would never listen if you pointed out you were paid much less than they were

Well that's a bit of a sweeping statement! I'm nursery staff and know many others. Thank you for tarring us all with the same brush.

I agree with a lot of others on here who work part time. I do two jobs but often get jokey comments from colleagues (usually the younger ones) about going home early, only working a couple of days etc etc. It drives me mad. I often feel like I have to justify my choice of working hours even though I am twice their age and have done full time hours for many many years.