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To think this is OTT for a child’s party

186 replies

TheFluentGoldNewt · 06/11/2024 18:42

took my 4yo to a party for a child at his nursery at the weekend. It was jungle themed and Ive never seen any parent go so all out for a party before. The whole place (church hall) was outfitted in themed decorations all handmade. I’m not kidding when I say it must have been HOURS of work in making these decorations. I’ve been to weddings that were less decorated than this. I’m talking themed handmade bunting going back and forth, themed balloon decorations (made not bought), a table runner, homemade props everywhere etc.

is this seriously what we are doing for parties now or is this parent seriously out of touch?

I honestly can’t imagine spending my evenings up to my elbows in glue and faff for a 2 hour party for 4year olds!

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Saz12 · 06/11/2024 18:56

See, I quote like crafts. But I'm not great at them. So I can see how it feels a good opportunity to make Stuff - kids won't care if it's a bit wonky. Same as people who bring homemade cakes 🎂 places, because they like baking.

Itsmychristmasdress · 06/11/2024 18:55

That wasn't the tone of your first post. You wanted a thread where people bitch about the host and how ott they are. Personally I love arts and crafts. It's a hobby and I enjoy doing things like this. If you don't that's fine. I hope the host is not on mn. This is really unkind.

Froggob · 06/11/2024 18:55

Strange sort of jungle with coral and jellyfish!
but Yabu
up to them and it didn’t hurt anyone.
I went ott for a couple of parties when mine were younger and cringe about it a bit now but at the time it made me (and them) happy

SallyForf · 06/11/2024 18:51

I loved doing all that stuff when mine were little.

Space party with jet packs made from empty 2l lemonade bottles for each kid.

Pirate party with gold sprayed cardboard cutlass and jolly roger bunting. Pin the pirate to the Crow's Nest.

You'd have hated me Grin

TheFluentGoldNewt · 06/11/2024 18:51

Ok I get it, im being an asshole 😂 Im not trying to be a cow about it it was impressive. Just not something Ive seen anyone do before. But if it made them happy then all is good!

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dermalermalurd · 06/11/2024 18:51

Sounds awesome. Maybe other children would appreciate it more than yours in the same way that some of us would appreciate it more than you do.

pilates · 06/11/2024 18:51

Sounds great and what’s wrong with using imagination. I would be pleased that my child was invited to a fab party rather than the usual soft play. Honestly 🤨

GarlicBun · 06/11/2024 18:50

Meow 🐈

What a very bitchy post.

If the host sees this thread, there may not be an invite next year and word will go round.

dairydebris · 06/11/2024 18:50

It would have been absolutely fine to have this thought and not posted it online

TheFluentGoldNewt · 06/11/2024 18:49

Rickrolypoly · 06/11/2024 18:48

Awe I guess she just loves her child more than you love yours 😘

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Dollshousedolly · 06/11/2024 18:49

Obviously if these decorations were handmade, the hosts are artistic and creative and enjoyed making them. Nothing wrong with that, surely ?

Ragruggers · 06/11/2024 18:49

She may be thinking of starting a party business ,there will be people who love themed parties and will contact her.

Rickrolypoly · 06/11/2024 18:48

Awe I guess she just loves her child more than you love yours 😘

sparklyfox · 06/11/2024 18:47

I would just be grateful for being treated to such hospitality. It sounds really fun. Doesn't mean you have to replicate it yourself, just be happy to be invited.

LillyLeaf · 06/11/2024 18:47

Why 'seriously out of touch'? If that's what they want to do, why not? The parents obviously enjoy making crafts, I doubt they would hand make everything if they weren't creative types. I love making costumes for my boy and sometimes gets asked why I bothered, I always say because I like making them.

Wendysfriend · 06/11/2024 18:47

Sounds lovely, tbh there's usually just a handful of themed things available to buy in store, you'll find the child wanted jungle stuff and there wasn't much available to buy so they made it plus it will have worked out cheaper so a win for everyone.

TheFluentGoldNewt · 06/11/2024 18:47

Not bitter just amazed
anyone could be bothered! It must have been in the bin five minutes after the party ended

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SometimesCalmPerson · 06/11/2024 18:47

It sounds brilliant! Just be happy your child got to go to an amazing birthday party instead of being critical of other parent’s choices. If spending hours making decorations made them happy then good for them.

Martymcfly24 · 06/11/2024 18:47

Crafting is a hobby. Maybe they genuinely enjoy it and it is a chance to share their love of it with their child and other people.

TheShellBeach · 06/11/2024 18:47

Some people are just very creative.
You sound jealous.

TheFluentGoldNewt · 06/11/2024 18:46

Yeah tbf my son enjoyed it but he also likes two hours of screaming round a soft play! Don’t think he gave a shit about the decorations

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TipsyKoala · 06/11/2024 18:45

Why out of touch? Maybe the parent enjoys crafting and making decorations.

Allwillbewell2 · 06/11/2024 18:45

Sounds wonderful, and if it brings the parent(s) joy to create such things then good luck to them! You just sound a bit bitter OP, hopefully your child had a lovely time as it seems whomever set it up went to a lot of trouble for a great visual experience for the children invited as well as the birthday child

winewolfhowls · 06/11/2024 18:45

Sounds lovely and much better than the usual soft play hell

nomorehocuspocus · 06/11/2024 18:45

Sounds amazing - not sure I'd have gone to that much effort though.