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Job annoyance - AIBU?

31 replies

Namerchangee · 06/11/2024 15:15

I was recently unsuccessful at interview for an internal post. I was really disappointed to lose out to someone external. I was told I came a close second, which is cold comfort.

I’ve since received word from a manager in my organisation saying they have received excellent feedback on how my interview went and that in a highly competitive field I was impressive. They have told me there is going to be a working group related to the post I didn’t get and I will be a key group member.

No acknowledgment of any disappointment I might be feeling and no word on remuneration for this extra responsibility they want me to take on. I haven’t even been asked if I want to be part of it. It’s just been assumed I would want to.

How should I respond? AIBU in feeling very overlooked, frustrated and annoyed? I didn’t get the job and the pay rise but instead more work on top of my current work and no increase in pay.

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OnlyFannys · 06/11/2024 15:25

Could you speak to your manager about what this would do for you in terms of progression? Ask if this forms part of a development plan that will allow you to move forward into a more senior role? I'd be a bit reluctant to take on significantly more work if there was no clear plan in place

Namerchangee · 06/11/2024 15:24

Thankyou. I feel this is good advice also. Think I just needed to share this and get my head clear!

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PoorlyBlah · 06/11/2024 15:23

Sparklfairy · 06/11/2024 15:18

Is it a substantial amount of extra work?

I'd swallow your pride and remain professional, as long as they're not completely taking the piss. It might not work out with the new hire, and presumably you'd be next in line if they leave/get let go during their probation period?

Don't burn bridges out of resentment.

I agree with this good advice

Deliaskis · 06/11/2024 15:22

I can understand why you feel the way you do, but I would try and think of this as an opportunity. You didn't quite make the grade this time but now you get to be involved anyway, learn from the person who presumably had additional experience/skills/value to bring, and potentially be positioned as next in line or whatever if this area grows and needs more people.

Obviously if it does then lead to significant extra responsibility then yes you would be quite right to ask about suitable remuneration for that, but it isn't yet clear what you will be asked to do so I would remain professional and keen and wait and see.

Namerchangee · 06/11/2024 15:21

Thanks @Sparklfairy - I appreciate your reply. I drafted an email back but haven’t sent it. I’m sleeping on it. I’m sad but don’t want this to sound like sour grapes. I‘m not sure how much extra work it will be.

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Sparklfairy · 06/11/2024 15:18

Is it a substantial amount of extra work?

I'd swallow your pride and remain professional, as long as they're not completely taking the piss. It might not work out with the new hire, and presumably you'd be next in line if they leave/get let go during their probation period?

Don't burn bridges out of resentment.