To expect friends to at least send a text?

...........but you’re making it sound like you’ve been abandoned in a shack, in the Australian outback, with only one bottle of water and a piece of bread

Oh dear, OP. But this comment made me laugh.

Sorry you're feeling lonely.

Can you text someone and ask if they want to come round?

You are a grown adult living in your own home, in perfect health as far as we know. Why would your friends be checking you are okay? Presumably your husband is in contact and would know if you were not okay.

If you want people to visit the best plan is to give a specific invitation, as in "Would you like to come over for lunch on Tuesday?" or "Why don't you bring Fido out to me on Friday, and we'll walk the dogs and have a coffee". "Drop in anytime" is vague, and unless they live next door people probably won't do it.

Not sure why they should be checking up on you? I only “check up” on my good friends if they are going through a bad patch, and that would only be once a week at most. Obviously they can get in contact with me too.

If you desperately need something then you could get a taxi into town surely. You aren’t housebound.

Hopefully this was a helpful post, rather than you feeling sat on -- but I think genuinely very few people would send an 'Are you OK?' text in your circumstances, but would assume you would contact them if you needed something, just as you pre-arranged a lift with a friend for Friday.

You can drive the van you choose not to you also sound very needy and spoilt expecting to be mifted and laid at every turn ur an adult so pull up your big girl pants quit tje poor me act and get up and get on with it

@Gramaphone so you're fine and have a partner who I presume is keeping in touch. More than a lot of us have.

No I wouldn't check on a friend who was alone for a week unless they were disabled or seriously unwell.
Lots of people live alone, you have food, you do have access to transport. Your being a little silly.

I wouldn’t consider you housebound and would assume you would text if you needed anything. I also wouldn’t have sent my car off with DH!

As other’s have said, this is a little bit daft OP. I live on my own and certainly don’t expect people to check up on me! I’m sorry you’re feeling lonely, but the onus really is on you to text a friend and ask them to pop in for a cup of tea or something.

Also, if you feel really housebound, could your husband not have taken his van and you had the work done on your car once he was back?

I do wonder whether living rurally is really for you? Is there no public transport? Do you think you’d be happier somewhere there is?

Honestly - just reach out to a friend! Hope you’re feeling okay and let us know how you’re getting on.

I often post when lonely, posters are usually lovely

OP didn't say anything about that

there's no indication of what the problem is!

I'd love a week where I didn't have to go anywhere, had loads of food in and a quiet house!

But anyway, I wouldn't assume a presumably reasonably capable person would need checked up on because their partner was away for a week.

My parents, my brother his wife live 2 mile away. My partner went on a well deserved break abroad after the frontline NHS covid chaos. I have a disabled child, and a teenager to look after. Not 1 phonecall or visit in 7 days and nights to see if we were ok or whether we needed anything. Not one call. Families are shit, friends can be worse.

Fucking hell is there any need to be so bloody bitchy to someone who's said they're feeling a bit lonely. Knock it off ffs.

Yeah I'm assuming there's a bunch of information left out of the OP. I doubt she'll be back but I don't think the reaction to this sounds 'normal' in the circumstances so there has to be more to it.

OP message your mates and ask them if they all fancied coming over on Friday night for a few beers as you've the house to yourself.

I personally would think you were enjoying the peace. A week in the house alone sounds like bliss to me. But if something specific was arranged I'd be there with bells on.

They probably think you’re being a bit pathetic for claiming to be ‘housebound’ because you don’t want to drive the perfectly driveable van that your husband drives I presume daily down these terribly treacherous country lanes.

I've lived alone for 20+ years so wondering what the backstory is.

4 days home alone, plenty of food and my pets, no one interrupting me. Bliss. Leave me to get on with it!

You've got access to a vehicle

You're making out like you're stranded on an island somewhere. Stop playing the victim

Living rurally, and deciding you won't drive a van are choices YOU have made, so why do others have to jump in to help you out? Why did you send your car for work the same week?

Your language is over the top 'all on my own'. Are you somehow who feels reassured in feeling cared for rather than standing on your own two feet?

That's a very good point

I would take this as a sign that you are personally not suited to rural living and you need to move somewhere less rural or remote.

It is especially important to do this before you’re too old to cope with a move, or your health deteriorates, and you’re putting a burden on everyone around you by expecting them to run around after you.

Yeah this. Wtf? Also what about a taxi, if you don't want to drive? Saying you're housebound is a bit of an insult to those who genuinely are, to be honest.