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We need to start asking why.

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NotOneOfTheInCrowd · 06/11/2024 11:49

So trump has won. In the UK elections reform gained good ground. In the rest of Europe the far right are gaining ground.

It’s clear that the world as a whole is leaning further towards this stance, and instead of expressing horror and insulting those who are voting that way, we need to start asking why that is. Because clearly it is.

it’s easy to say that people voted for Farage because they didn’t want to vote Tory.

Or that they voted for Trump because they didn’t want a woman.

But it has to go further than that. There are too many of these votes for it to be that simplistic. so it’s time we looked at what the realities and the reasons are, and how they can be resolved without putting it in the hands of people like Farage or Trump to resolve them.

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SassK · 06/11/2024 17:48

HelenaWaiting · 06/11/2024 14:54

It was a mistake for Brown to say it, but she was, in fact, a bigot.

He conceded that she wasn't though, and duly publicly apologised to her.

RhannionKPSS · 06/11/2024 17:48

Harris is weak, incompetent, Biden was allowed to continue when he was clearly losing it, he also allowed deviants to hold sway over many positions in government, and because most Americans I know recognized that either candidate was appalling, but took the stance that he at least knows what a woman is. Republicans couldn't define women , so why would women vote for them.

SimpleThings101 · 06/11/2024 17:47

Ansjovis · 06/11/2024 17:41

Yeah, my tolerance is running thin, I'll admit that. My tolerance for people who want to see a baby born but don't want the parents to be given any assistance from the government to ensure said baby has enough to eat and is living in a safe environment. My tolerance towards people who think it's just bad luck if you get raped and you should just magically deal with the consequences of becoming a parent off the back of it. My tolerance for people who want to see babies born with life limiting conditions, to parents who are being crippled by hospital bills (this is NOT me saying that children with life limiting conditions should be aborted, just to be clear, but that abortion is a valid choice for people in this situation to make) and not give them any assistance with said bills. People who think that "someone else" should adopt the babies and children who have been surrendered for any reason. People who staunchly defend the right to bear arms and shout "it's not the right time" to discuss gun control after a fatal school shooting.

If that makes me intolerant, I am intolerant and proud of it. And with that I will be unfollowing this thread as I need to do something more positive than this on such a dark day. I wish you a pleasant evening.

I think you’re conflating too many issues and confusing people who genuinely want to protect life with those holding other political views entirely.

Yes, probably best you take a break from the mindset you’ve gotten yourself into. Have a lovely evening 💕😊

Coolasfeck · 06/11/2024 17:47

OneBadKitty · 06/11/2024 16:50

The whole thing boils down to race and identity in my opinion. The western world as a whole is now so diverse that it's native populations no longer feel secure in their own culture and they are seeking to stop the invasion from foreign countries and re-establish their status quo.

Totally agree. The Native Americans have been swamped and are definitely not secure in their own county. The immigrants invaded and forced them on to reservations and stole their natural wealth and land. And now South African Musk and German Theil will have all of it.

Ansjovis · 06/11/2024 17:41

SimpleThings101 · 06/11/2024 17:29

Ahhh, so only those who are actively adopters of (preferably medically fragile) children are allowed to have any opinion on the prolife / prochoice debate.

How very tolerant of you. 🙄

Yeah, my tolerance is running thin, I'll admit that. My tolerance for people who want to see a baby born but don't want the parents to be given any assistance from the government to ensure said baby has enough to eat and is living in a safe environment. My tolerance towards people who think it's just bad luck if you get raped and you should just magically deal with the consequences of becoming a parent off the back of it. My tolerance for people who want to see babies born with life limiting conditions, to parents who are being crippled by hospital bills (this is NOT me saying that children with life limiting conditions should be aborted, just to be clear, but that abortion is a valid choice for people in this situation to make) and not give them any assistance with said bills. People who think that "someone else" should adopt the babies and children who have been surrendered for any reason. People who staunchly defend the right to bear arms and shout "it's not the right time" to discuss gun control after a fatal school shooting.

If that makes me intolerant, I am intolerant and proud of it. And with that I will be unfollowing this thread as I need to do something more positive than this on such a dark day. I wish you a pleasant evening.

SabreIsMyFave · 06/11/2024 17:41

Yep @NotOneOfTheInCrowd I am not right wing, and am more centric, and I think Trump is dreadful. But just like in this country, the left have gone too far left ... They are radical, and are far too 'woke.' They are also have tendencies to be rude and obnoxious - and vitriolic. As has been said, they shout insults at people who don't think like them, and scream gammon and racist at anyone who DARES to speak up against 'too many boats' or 'illegal immigration' etc...

The amount of celebrities fawning over Harris made me cringe to be honest, and Twitter has gone into meltdown as the far left have gone batshit, calling Americans stupid, thick, a joke, and much worse names. Some of them really nasty! I think this is why Trump won - because of the rabid far left and woke. Moreso than Harris being black, or being a woman.

JMHO.

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SabreIsMyFave · 06/11/2024 17:40

hotpotlover · 06/11/2024 17:27

I know a lot of lovely Muslim people. Hardworking, tolerant and generally keeping their head down.

Like my husband: he's lived in the UK for over 20 years and is originally from Iran.

He's modern, an atheist and supports the rights of women.

I also had a fantastic doctor that treated my injuries after birth. She wore a veil.

I find the original, quoted post simplistic, generalising and ignorant.

The people you know are clearly not the same as the people mentioned in @MumtananoBay's post. That's pretty obvious.

OneBadKitty · 06/11/2024 17:39

hotpotlover · 06/11/2024 17:27

I know a lot of lovely Muslim people. Hardworking, tolerant and generally keeping their head down.

Like my husband: he's lived in the UK for over 20 years and is originally from Iran.

He's modern, an atheist and supports the rights of women.

I also had a fantastic doctor that treated my injuries after birth. She wore a veil.

I find the original, quoted post simplistic, generalising and ignorant.

You can't be a muslim and an atheist!

SabreIsMyFave · 06/11/2024 17:38

MumtananoBay · 06/11/2024 13:59

I’ll be absolutely solidly honest with you about immigration and why I don’t like it. I might get banned.

the people who arrive here from Afghanistan, or other Islamic countries, do not suddenly adopt our values and culture, the fair treatment of women, the tolerance for other religions the second their foot rests upon the shingle in Hastings beach.

culture, is all my country is. It’s not skin colour, it’s culture. The windrush generation was culturally Christian, like the UK is. They integrated quickly and well. The more recent wave of immigrants are not that. They are intolerant, misogynistic people I do not want to share a country with.

the next UK election will be won on immigration and anti woke values and Kemi and Nigel, will make a deal and win it together. And I’ll vote for them.

Yep I agree with this. ^

Attelina · 06/11/2024 17:31

200 reason why -

www.instagram.com/p/DB9OXvUuU2k/?igsh=NXo5dnhrNDE3YXl3

America gave the Democrats four years and they made America worse.

President Trump will make America great again.

DisappearingGirl · 06/11/2024 17:30

Thatsenoughcoffee · 06/11/2024 16:05

(Sorry if someone already posted this)

For my British and European friends who are "shocked" and "surprised", here are 10 reasons you didn't see this coming:

  1. Americans love their country and want it to be the best in the world. America is a nation of people who conquered a continent. They love strength. They love winning. Any leader who appeals to that has an automatic advantage.
  1. Unlike Europeans, Americans have not accepted managed decline. They don't have Net Zero here, they believe in producing their own energy and making it as cheap as possible because they know that their prosperity depends on it.
  1. Prices for most basic goods in the US have increased rapidly and are sky high. What the official statistics say about inflation and the reality of people's lives are not the same.
  1. Unlike you, Americans do not believe in socialism. They believe in meritocracy. They don't care about the super rich being super rich because they know that they live in a country where being super rich is available to anyone with the talent and drive to make it. They don't resent success, they celebrate it.
  1. Americans are the most pro-immigration people in the world. Read that again. Seriously, read it again. Americans love an immigrant success story. They want more talented immigrants to come to America. But they refuse to accept people coming illegally. They believe in having a border.
  1. Americans are sensitive about racial issues and their country's imperfect history. They believe that those who are disadvantaged by the circumstances of their birth should be given the opportunity to succeed. What they reject, however, is the idea that in order to address the errors of the past new errors must be made. DEI is racist. They know it and they reject it precisely because they are not racist.
  1. Americans are the most philosemitic nation on earth. October 7 and the pro-Hamas left's reaction shocked them to their very core because, among other things, they remember what 9/11 was like and they know jihad when they see it.
  1. Americans are extremely practical people. They care about what works, not what sounds good. In Europe, we produce great writers and intellectuals. In America they produce (and attract) great engineers, businessmen and investors. Because of this, they care less about Trump's rhetoric than you do and more about his policies than you do.
  1. Americans are deeply optimistic people. They hate negativity. The woke view of American history as a series of evils for which they must eternally apologise is utterly abhorrent to them. They believe in moving forward together, not endlessly obsessing about the past.
  1. America is a country whose founding story is one of resistance to government overreach. They loathe unnecessary restrictions, regulations and control. They understand that freedom comes with the price of self-reliance and they pay it gladly.

— Konstantin Kisin

Ooh this is interesting. I'm not sure how much of it reflects my own values ... but I suspect there is a lot of truth to it.

SimpleThings101 · 06/11/2024 17:29

Ansjovis · 06/11/2024 17:23

I don't have to know their thoughts. I just have to know how many of them are adopting children, including medically fragile children. That number is certainly not the same as the number of people who claim to be pro life, not anywhere close.

Ahhh, so only those who are actively adopters of (preferably medically fragile) children are allowed to have any opinion on the prolife / prochoice debate.

How very tolerant of you. 🙄

hotpotlover · 06/11/2024 17:27

barbiegirl881 · 06/11/2024 16:59

This nails it for a lot of people

I know a lot of lovely Muslim people. Hardworking, tolerant and generally keeping their head down.

Like my husband: he's lived in the UK for over 20 years and is originally from Iran.

He's modern, an atheist and supports the rights of women.

I also had a fantastic doctor that treated my injuries after birth. She wore a veil.

I find the original, quoted post simplistic, generalising and ignorant.

Ansjovis · 06/11/2024 17:23

SimpleThings101 · 06/11/2024 17:12

It’s astonishing that you claim to know personally what the thoughts are of “the VAST majority” (sic) of pro life people.

A prodigious achievement. 🙄

I don't have to know their thoughts. I just have to know how many of them are adopting children, including medically fragile children. That number is certainly not the same as the number of people who claim to be pro life, not anywhere close.

SimpleThings101 · 06/11/2024 17:12

Ansjovis · 06/11/2024 16:40

Pro life people who don't even care to do a quick google and find out that Trump is FAR from consistently pro life? Pro life people who (the VAST majority of them) literally don't care what happens to a baby once it's born, so long as it is? Pro life people who are against government assistance and pro gun?

It'd be laughable if it weren't so serious. See also "I voted for Trump because he's a Christian". A Christian who has consistently failed to uphold the sanctity of marriage, has multiple felonies to his name and can't even quote ONE bible verse? Yeah, great Christian he is.

It’s astonishing that you claim to know personally what the thoughts are of “the VAST majority” (sic) of pro life people.

A prodigious achievement. 🙄

Stealthmodemama · 06/11/2024 17:06

There is too much power in the media to twist the narrative.

People have been squashed for so long and have been sold 'more is better'

barbiegirl881 · 06/11/2024 16:59

MumtananoBay · 06/11/2024 13:59

I’ll be absolutely solidly honest with you about immigration and why I don’t like it. I might get banned.

the people who arrive here from Afghanistan, or other Islamic countries, do not suddenly adopt our values and culture, the fair treatment of women, the tolerance for other religions the second their foot rests upon the shingle in Hastings beach.

culture, is all my country is. It’s not skin colour, it’s culture. The windrush generation was culturally Christian, like the UK is. They integrated quickly and well. The more recent wave of immigrants are not that. They are intolerant, misogynistic people I do not want to share a country with.

the next UK election will be won on immigration and anti woke values and Kemi and Nigel, will make a deal and win it together. And I’ll vote for them.

This nails it for a lot of people

OneBadKitty · 06/11/2024 16:50

The whole thing boils down to race and identity in my opinion. The western world as a whole is now so diverse that it's native populations no longer feel secure in their own culture and they are seeking to stop the invasion from foreign countries and re-establish their status quo.

Boomer55 · 06/11/2024 16:49

Rightly or wrongly, a lot of people, here and in the US, are worried about undocumented immigrants pouring into the respective countries.

It’s not complicated. 🤷‍♀️

BreatheAndFocus · 06/11/2024 16:47

I thought this comment was interesting:

'I'm interpreting the results tonight as revenge of just the regular old working-class American, the anonymous American who has been crushed, insulted, condescended to,' Jennings said.
'They're not garbage, they're not Nazis. They're just regular people who get up and go to work every day and are trying to make a better life for their kids, and they feel like they have been told to just shut up when they have complained about the things that are hurting them in their own lives.'

People are feeling disenfranchised and insulted. Their concerns are dismissed with a wave of the hand. The Dems have become a party of elite dictators not liberals. They’ve left their commonsense behind and have become zealots, sneering at people for wrongthink.

MistressoftheDarkSide · 06/11/2024 16:44

As far as I'm concerned the whole right / left posturing is redundant and part of the smoke and mirrors handbook.

We now live in a corporate dystopia. It's capitalism in It's rawest form. Social problems are created and "cured" purely to feed the machine. Only they're never meant to be cured. Everything is an industry and we're just the pawns on the chessboard facilitating "growth". It doesn't matter much which stripe of government any country has, because it's now a worldwide economy. Honestly I think we're complicating ourselves into oblivion.

I've said it before and I'll say it again, the "end of the world" will be collective nervous breakdown.

Ansjovis · 06/11/2024 16:40

SimpleThings101 · 06/11/2024 13:35

Some of Trump’s votes will have come from pro life people. People who are sickened by the fact that more than 63 million abortions have been carried out since Roe v Wade.

Pro life people who don't even care to do a quick google and find out that Trump is FAR from consistently pro life? Pro life people who (the VAST majority of them) literally don't care what happens to a baby once it's born, so long as it is? Pro life people who are against government assistance and pro gun?

It'd be laughable if it weren't so serious. See also "I voted for Trump because he's a Christian". A Christian who has consistently failed to uphold the sanctity of marriage, has multiple felonies to his name and can't even quote ONE bible verse? Yeah, great Christian he is.

KnitFastDieWarm · 06/11/2024 16:32

The main problem is that both sides (especially in the US, but increasingly elsewhere) are so deeply entrenched in their worldviews that the notions of respectful disagreement, aiming for the same things but disagreeing on how to get there, or listening to one another are now distant dots on the horizon.

At the moment, political discourse has become:

The left - ‘everyone who disagrees with me is an uneducated bigot just slightly to the right of Hitler’

the right - ‘everyone who disagrees with me is an out of touch woke pervert’

It’s pathetic, really 😕

Twototwo15 · 06/11/2024 16:31

NotSmallButFunSize · 06/11/2024 12:19

This was a more polite version of what I was going to say which was -

People are generally thick and will believe any old shit that gets fed to them

We have to look beyond the insults, because there are reasons, and without addressing those reasons, we are powerless

Looks like everyone remains powerless because that’s what you will get from a lot of the left - stupidity, arrogance and insults.

chumpt · 06/11/2024 16:28

using money that many citizens and legal immigrants do not have to treat illegal immigrants is just unfair and stupidity for any country. so yes, labour should be careful, use people's tax money and the borrowed money from next generation wisely, for rational usage, rather than ideology usage.