To find this horrendously unattractive

I also think that by taking out the kids today you have rewarded your OH and reinforced to him that when ur ill you’re not really that bad.

Wtf?! What a dickhead 😂😂

Massively unattractive.

😂

I've got a family member like this. I think it's hilarious. I've made up illnesses a few times just to see if they catch it, they always do. I don't have to live with them though, couldn't cope with it from a partner!

I've been disabled for many years with a severe spinal problem, but I always try to make the best of it, and rarely complain or make a fuss. However, my DH then developed a back problem about 5 years ago, and was clearly trying to find a way of getting attention, but without actually saying that his pain was worse than mine. So every time he was in pain, he grunted really loudly as he walked around. I got really fed up with this awful grunting with every footstep, as it was clearly unnecessary, so I started taking the piss, making loud exaggerated grunting noises, every time he walked past. Initially he looked at me as if he was angry that I was taking the mic, so I just said "sorry darling, just trying to make you laugh, so that it doesn't get you down". Having said that, he couldn't really say that I was being nasty, so now if he grunts I start taking the mic, and it soon stops. I think he knows that he's pushing his luck, as my situation is MUCH worse than his, and I do give him sympathy when I know he's genuinely suffering, but I can't be arsed with people who like to wallow, and he knows it's no good complaining of pain, if he hasn't taken anything for it, as I have no patience whatsoever, for people who moan but won't do anything to help themselves. So what I'd like to know, is WHY these men feel they have to make such a drama out of being poorly, when we women just get on with it?

My dad has just cared for Mum for two years. Took her to appointments, helped her up and down stairs, cooked for her, drove her everywhere, gave her all her medication, went to the pharmacy for her, loved her. For two years.

That's love.

Your h is a complete twat.

Bloody hell, OP, if he is lying about having D&V after you have had surgery, he's a sick, attention-seeking fuck.

He needs a serious talking-to.

Deeply unattractive behaviour.

I think you're being harsh, maybe his period pains are just really bad this month.

Good point.
My ex did this - competitive sickness.
So unfair and deeply unattractive.

My dh does this and it's so literal it's bizarre. Like if I said my left elbow had a shooting pain he'd be like 'yeah me too'. I now challenge it head on. He's quite nice when I'm ill though, so not quite the same thing. Hope you get some rest op.

Why do so many men do this? I've started taking the piss out of mine now for doing this. If I have a headache, he develops one, same for other ailments like sore throat, nausea etc. it's so predictable

Another one here, milking day 2 flue jab side effects, so waiting for me to sort dinner out. Fit enough to have been to work and for a run.

OP, when yours is restored to good health, can you come down with exclusively women’s problems like period cramps and let us know how he trumps that?

This. The bar is so low for some women it's utterly depressing

Why do women put up with this shite ?

Thank you, Miss!

I've had ones that were somehow both. Whinge about feeling poorly or mental health issues (and were always worse off than me, notably the ex who made my friend dying all about him) but would refuse to do anything about it! My DS's father left me and went home while I was in recovery after having a c section because he was tired and his gout was playing up (that might be worse than the above.) Don't know why I attract these utter clowns. 👿 Staying single now. Can't be arsed anymore.

I’m at the crossroads now where I need to make a decision. But when I think to how we started so in love, so together it breaks my heart. Like most he’s not a bad man, and I’m at fault as well for not using my voice. OP please don’t think that it will get better on its own. Have a think about the gradual bitterness that will grow and how it will affect your mental health and the relationships with the kids.

A farmer per chance? 😂

I can assure you, the drugs used in a GA are almost entirely gone from your system after 24 hours. If you were still sick a week later it may have been the after effects of the surgery itself, or an infection or any number of things. Your GP may not have chosen to have that conversation with you if you were as aggressive as your response suggests.

Is he doing "the ill voice"?
Ya MOST DEFINITELY NOT bu

Rubbish. Why make a comment when you clearly have no idea? Or did you just fancy sticking the knife in? Just because it may not be your personal experience, it doesn't mean it isn't for others.

I got nauseous from a GA that lasted over a week and then eventually vertigo too. Had to see the GP in the end. I just don't react well to anesthetic and it takes a while to feel normal.

I felt terrible. I still went to work. Women soldier on, we are socialised to do so.

When DH gets man flu I always remind him of this sketch. He always finds it funny when he isn't ill.

😅 Ex-husband increasingly favoured the ‘dressing gown of gloom.’
Did I mention that he’s my ex? 💅🏻