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Good experiences from conceiving in 30s?

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BadLuck2023 · 06/11/2024 05:45

Hiya!
DH and I held off on conceiving as we wanted to get our finances sorted before having children. We both had rough childhoods and wanted better for our kids than what we had.

It's definitely just anxiety but I've read horror stories of women having issues trying to conceive (I'm 30, will be 31 when TTC probably). Please would love some good stories to ease my mind? Have spoken to the doctor about coming off BC and have had blood tests done which she is happy with

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Idunno8 · 06/11/2024 07:02

Had both of my kids in my thirties, pregnant first month of trying each time :), I think thats probably unusual but yeah thirties doesn't mean its automatically a slog.

RickiRaccoon · 06/11/2024 06:59

I conceived my two at 37 and then 39. I came off birth control both times and got pregnant almost straightaway.

dragonfliesandbees · 06/11/2024 06:57

Hi OP. I had kids at 34 and 37. Conceived second cycle both times. Straightforward pregnancies and births. I was told with my second pregnancy that I was considered geriatric being over 35 (it was over 30 when my mum had me aged 36). But there was no noticeable difference in my care and it was never mentioned again after my first appointment.

I do understand your concern. I know a lot of people who struggled to conceive and had friends going through IVF when we decided to start trying. I had it in my head that it would take a while so was quite surprised when I fell pregnant so easily.

My kids are 9 and 6 now. Most of their friends have parents similar age to me - many are older. So please don’t worry. It’s totally normal to have babies in your 30s and there’s no reason to assume you will struggle.

UnimaginableWindBird · 06/11/2024 06:56

I had my first at 31 nearly 20 years ago and I was the youngest mum in my antenatal class. I can only think of a tiny handful of people I know who had planned children in their 20s.

TooHappyToday · 06/11/2024 06:54

I had a Mirena coil from the age 28-38, had my coil out and started trying the following month and got pregnant straight away. Had a reasonably straightforward pregnancy and holding my baby now.

Daschund · 06/11/2024 06:50

I'm 50s now and have seen a big change in the ages of FTMs. In a lot of areas you'd probably be the youngest at NCT classes. It never crossed my mind that I'd have any more problem at 34 than 24. I got pregnant far quicker in my 30s as it turned out.

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 06/11/2024 06:48

I had mine at 37 and 40. Both conceived first cycle. I was never the oldest mum in the playground.

PigeonTamer · 06/11/2024 06:47

Conceived my first aged 32 after three months of unprotected sex (wasn’t actively tracking ovulation or anything, just stopped using contraception). Conceived my second aged 36 in the first month of unprotected sex (again no tracking).

turkeymuffin · 06/11/2024 06:45

BadLuck2023 · 06/11/2024 05:55

@Cheshireicecream I struggle with not being in control of things I suppose, something I'm working on. I've done some researching on TTC and have seen conceiving in 30s being referred to as geriatric 😳

I had mine at 30 & 32 and am one of the youngest in the playground. A good 5-8 years younger than all my "mum friends"

CheeseWineBainne · 06/11/2024 06:44

In my circles the 'normal' age to have kids is mid 30s to early 40s... I'm in my late 30s, just had my 2nd child and I don't consider that old at all.

I don't actually have any peers who had children in their 20s!

Horatiostrumpet · 06/11/2024 06:42

You're a young whippersnapper!

Pregnant first month at 37 and 39.

IsLarryFromSomething · 06/11/2024 06:41

I'm 33 and just had my first baby. It took a year to conceive but I think part of that was my body coming off of birth control. Once I was pregnant, everything was straightforward and I had a pretty good childbirth experience too.

Cappuccinowithonesugarplease · 06/11/2024 06:41

I conceived my 3rd at 35 after only one month of trying so you should be fine! It takes healthy couples up to one year to conceive.

Partridgewell · 06/11/2024 06:40

It's really common now to have babies in your 30s. I got pregnant by accident at 33.

Minihero · 06/11/2024 06:35

Most people have kids in their 30s nowadays and fertility issues can affect people at any age.

I conceived 3 times in my 30s.

Applebumblebee · 06/11/2024 06:33

Hi OP, are you worried you won't get pregnant?

From what I researched, 20's to 30's aren't much different actually, so I left a bad marriage in my mid 30's, got accidentally pregnant at 35 - had an abortion - married later and a child.

She's the most beautiful baby in the world and no issues but she's only 6 months. It's now the average to reach 30 before having a child, I'd not worry it

harrietm87 · 06/11/2024 06:33

Wow…I was 31 having dc1 and was the youngest in my NCT group by 7 years! DC1 is in year 2 and I’m the only one of his friends’ parents under 40 (I’m 37).

In my work/friend circles people tend to wait until mid-late 30s with up to early 40s very common.

No offence OP but you’re being ridiculous.

Pippy2022 · 06/11/2024 06:27

I started at 34 and had last baby at 39. It didn't happen immediately each time. I spent alot of time with my legs up after doing the deed to help conception.

blackberryhill · 06/11/2024 06:22

I barely know anyone of my generation who had kids earlier than 30! You'll be fine OP (or if you aren't fine, it would've been a struggle even if you started in your 20s).

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BadLuck2023 · 06/11/2024 06:14

Thanks so much! Feeling better about it. Definitely keen to stop BC. I have the implanon in my arm so Definitely looking forward to that coming out

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Hedgehogsaremything · 06/11/2024 06:13

31, 35 and 37 for me... No one can say how it will be for you but there's time.

Puddleclucks · 06/11/2024 06:11

I had my children at 35 and 38. Conceived first month both times, easy straightforward pregnancies and births, I don't think it could have been any easier if I was 21 honestly!

JaninaDuszejko · 06/11/2024 06:09

The average age to have a first child in the UK is 30. You are completely average. Just stop using contraception and enjoy having sex regularly throughout your cycle and see what happens.

Sandandsea123 · 06/11/2024 06:09

You’re still babies!! Plenty of time! I’m 39 and my boyfriend is 45, our baby is due next week.

InSpainTheRain · 06/11/2024 06:03

Your ages are completely normal for conceiving. I was 36, stopped contraception for 2 months and immediately fell pregnant with twins. Born healthy and no issues.

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