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To think your body can adapt to heels?

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FairTurtle · 05/11/2024 20:54

I wore some heels for the first time after ages yesterday. They were these: https://www.reiss.com/style/SU416555/AA4571?utm_content=search&gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQiAoae5BhCNARIsADVLzZckMVGe6XrGvCeqMN4WHe8aS9mYOcfJcBNWe3AbZ0jmHIA8XZ3eyOQaAncOEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds#AA4571

About 7 inches. Today my lower back is killing me. So are my calves, hips and hamstrings. They weren't even that high, plus I was sitting down most of the evening as it was a dinner. Only walked for a total of 30 mins?!

Does anyone have any advice? I really wanted to buy some nice Esska heels, which I'm told are comfortable and high quality, but if they also result in more than a day of back pain, its not worth it!

Strappy Leather Heeled Sandals in Bronze - REISS

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https://www.reiss.com/style/SU416555/AA4571?gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQiAoae5BhCNARIsADVLzZckMVGe6XrGvCeqMN4WHe8aS9mYOcfJcBNWe3AbZ0jmHIA8XZ3eyOQaAncOEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds#AA4571

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katepilar · 10/11/2024 10:56

I have been also taught at my yoga class, that bunions develop not only because of badly shaped shoes that squash toes but also by the distribution of weight that puts too much pressure to the front of the feet.

Geranen · 07/11/2024 09:57

I'm late 30s, used to wear heels now and then when I was younger but never acclimatised to them. It's a skill. I like to know I could run fast if I had to. I love that the pressure to do so is no longer there and you can get nicer low shoes now.

Isometimeswonder · 06/11/2024 22:20

Life is too short to do this.
Also breaking in DM boots.
Nope.
I'm gonna be comfortable thank you!

Doggymummar · 06/11/2024 22:06

FairTurtle · 05/11/2024 20:54

I wore some heels for the first time after ages yesterday. They were these: https://www.reiss.com/style/SU416555/AA4571?utm_content=search&gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQiAoae5BhCNARIsADVLzZckMVGe6XrGvCeqMN4WHe8aS9mYOcfJcBNWe3AbZ0jmHIA8XZ3eyOQaAncOEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds#AA4571

About 7 inches. Today my lower back is killing me. So are my calves, hips and hamstrings. They weren't even that high, plus I was sitting down most of the evening as it was a dinner. Only walked for a total of 30 mins?!

Does anyone have any advice? I really wanted to buy some nice Esska heels, which I'm told are comfortable and high quality, but if they also result in more than a day of back pain, its not worth it!

7cm not 7inches, it Says it on the ad

Bewareofthisonetoo · 06/11/2024 20:56

Topseyt123 · 06/11/2024 18:23

High heels cause foot and spinal problems.

I've no idea now how I ever managed to wear stilettos when I was in my early twenties, but I did. I gave up on them just before becoming pregnant with DD1 in my mid twenties and never went back to them. I just felt so unstable and insecure. I will never wear high heels again.

I now only wear Skechers slip-ins. I am 58.

Edited

Rubbish! Have always worn heels. Just started Pilates and my balance and core is (according to the trainer) exceptionally good.

FairTurtle · 06/11/2024 20:55

YearsofYears · 06/11/2024 20:51

They're gorgeous shoes but agree with others, since hitting my late 30's and two pregnancies down the line high heels are no longer for me. I've binned most of mine. I still wear boots with a shorter heel but not all the time.

Is it because of pregnancy, increased weight etc or just out of practice?

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Bewareofthisonetoo · 06/11/2024 20:53

I am used to wearing high heels , love them and dance in them (do the twist etc) -also wear flats/ trainers/bare foot as do lots of sport.

YearsofYears · 06/11/2024 20:51

They're gorgeous shoes but agree with others, since hitting my late 30's and two pregnancies down the line high heels are no longer for me. I've binned most of mine. I still wear boots with a shorter heel but not all the time.

GettingStuffed · 06/11/2024 20:24

My (ex nurse) grandmother used to tell me off for wearing heels as she said my tendons would shorten and I wouldn't be able to walk in anything else. My GP told me not to wear heels when I developed arthritis, although if I get the exact height my hip doesn't hurt.

Barney16 · 06/11/2024 20:04

If you get out of the habit of heel wearing it's hard to go back. I wore heels for a party last year and after about half an hour took them off and put my flats back on. I wear flats all the time and couldn't manage a heel. I felt like I couldn't actually walk. Shame because I used to love them. A platform hero maybe better.

Anotherparkingthread · 06/11/2024 18:52

I love heels. I'm never going to not wear them.

I am also a ballet dancer, though no longer doing so as intensively as I am old. So I have a lot of strength in my ankles and just about everywhere else. I have never found wearing heels to be and issue, and the reputation that all ballet dancers feet are ruined us also tosh. If you're ruining your feet your technique is poor. Same thing for heels. If you slop about in them drunk once a week of course you're going to mess yourself up. If you wear them regularly and you're strong and have good balance etc you will be fine. Other factors like your weight and how flat footed you are etc will also impact how much strain the foot is under.

IDontLikePinaColadas · 06/11/2024 18:45

As a PP said I have definitely become unadapted - used to be able to walk (and run in!) in a pair of four inch stilettos for ages and wore them most days - so much so that wearing flats hurt as my calves were so used to being that contracted. Now the most I can do is half an hour standing before I have to sit down. Wedges are my go-to now if I need a bit of height for any period of time.

Topseyt123 · 06/11/2024 18:34

FixTheBone · 06/11/2024 08:06

I'm a foot and ankle surgeon. I have the same opinion of heels as most lung surgeons do about cigarettes.

A self inflicted disaster.

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I'm not a surgeon of any kind but you speak sense to me.

I did wear a few court shoes in my twenties when I consider that I was young and foolish. I gave them up fairly quickly too though as I didn't feel secure in them, particularly when pregnant with DD1. I've never gone back to them.

At age 58 now, I wear Skechers slip-ins, crocs and my furry mule slippers. Quite the fashionista am I!

Topseyt123 · 06/11/2024 18:23

High heels cause foot and spinal problems.

I've no idea now how I ever managed to wear stilettos when I was in my early twenties, but I did. I gave up on them just before becoming pregnant with DD1 in my mid twenties and never went back to them. I just felt so unstable and insecure. I will never wear high heels again.

I now only wear Skechers slip-ins. I am 58.

MostlyCloudy1 · 06/11/2024 17:45

I dance in very high heels and it takes conditioning to get comfortable. It takes time. Right now your body is dealing with using muscles in a way you aren’t used to.

You can adapt, but it takes time and persistence, which to be fair, isn’t probably worth doing for wanting to wear them sporadically.

Frith2013 · 06/11/2024 16:44

Why would you want your body to adapt to something that is so bad for it?

Moveoverdarlin · 06/11/2024 14:39

I used to pride myself on my stiletto walking ability. When girls in the office used to keep trainers for the commute in their bag I used to scoff and think I wouldn’t be seen dead in a nice smart dress and then trainers.

HOWEVER then I had kids, put on 3 stone, WFH and now they kill me. I never wear heels. Weight has a lot to do with it. Far easier when you’re really slim.

User1836484645R · 06/11/2024 13:16

usernamesarepants · 06/11/2024 12:27

the boot isn’t flat, it has a small heel. She’s demonstrating that even a small heel throws off the body’s alignment. First image is a barefoot boot, so zero drop no heel at all, good alignment of shoulders over hips, hips over ankles. Subsequent pics are a similar boot but with a small heel and the difference in alignment in makes. I think maybe it’s to show that if you try to realign your shoulders over hips then the misalignment still happens elsewhere, in this case the knees? She’s got tonnes of blog posts and supporting images that give more info, I only know the difference it has made for me and my family. I get no foot pain or lower back pain unless I wear my wellies which are the only non barefoot shoe option I have left.

Also the comments re arch support, no other part of the body would a doc or physio tell you to wear a permanent support rather than do exercises to strengthen the muscles and joints! I don’t know why feet are so different?!

If she stood up straight like a normal person her body wouldn’t be thrown out of alignment.

They are trying to flog you shoes.

Bunnycat101 · 06/11/2024 13:16

I used to have lots of lovely heels for work - my feet got bigger during pregnancy and post covid I can’t wear them but also no-one wears them anymore.

Post Covid anyone under about 45 seemed to be in flats or trainers. There was one lady in my office of hundreds of people - literally one who carried on wearing heels because she’d done it every day for work and wasn’t going to stop. She always looked much more put together than anyone else but she stood out because no-one else could be arsed anymore.

RampantIvy · 06/11/2024 13:07

MotherOfCatBoy · 06/11/2024 11:50

Arch support is a myth. The human foot arch is a miracle of physical engineering, strong enough to withstand load and springy enough to power a sprint. The key is exercising it like any other hard working body part - heel raises, heel drops, going barefoot, lots of walking. Most people can develop strong healthy arches - it’s the opposite of the deformation talked about above.

My podiatrist would disagree with you.

ConstanceM · 06/11/2024 12:39

I think the biggest concern is that you spent £148 on sandals that look bang average.

FairTurtle · 06/11/2024 12:34

Lots of interesting discussion on here! I just want to re-iterate again that I'm not a full-time heels wearer, and was just a bit alarmed than 7cm (2.7inch) heels have caused me so much pain! It's the second day since wearing them for an evening and my back and thighs/calves are still not normal!

Since we're talking about the safety etc of high heels, can anyone recommend any particularly high quality brands, that make lower height block heels (so 1 - 1.5 inches?) that are optimised for comfort, health etc? What heel height is ok to wear regularly?

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usernamesarepants · 06/11/2024 12:27

User1836484645R · 06/11/2024 11:32

Why is she poking her knees forwards and leaning back in the last picture? That is not how most people stand when wearing high heels, and she’s wearing flat heeled boots.

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the boot isn’t flat, it has a small heel. She’s demonstrating that even a small heel throws off the body’s alignment. First image is a barefoot boot, so zero drop no heel at all, good alignment of shoulders over hips, hips over ankles. Subsequent pics are a similar boot but with a small heel and the difference in alignment in makes. I think maybe it’s to show that if you try to realign your shoulders over hips then the misalignment still happens elsewhere, in this case the knees? She’s got tonnes of blog posts and supporting images that give more info, I only know the difference it has made for me and my family. I get no foot pain or lower back pain unless I wear my wellies which are the only non barefoot shoe option I have left.

Also the comments re arch support, no other part of the body would a doc or physio tell you to wear a permanent support rather than do exercises to strengthen the muscles and joints! I don’t know why feet are so different?!

Laiste · 06/11/2024 12:05

User1836484645R · 06/11/2024 09:51

I think there is a problem with the definition of “heels”, particularly on MN. Some people think only stilettos while others include the far more easy to live with block and wedges. I’m in the latter camp.

Definitely! A heels a heel. Blocks give more stability less inclined to turn your ankle i think.

Whatamitodonow · 06/11/2024 11:54

I think the comparison with dancers is incorrect.

i was a dancer and hated heels- they forced my feet into a fixed position, shortening the hamstrings and reducing flexibility and movement.

when dancing, even en pointe and Demi point, it’s not a fixed position and your ankles and feet need to be flexible with a good range of movement. You also remain balanced and straight, you aren’t adjusting your posture and centre of gravity to compensate for the heels pushing you forward.

it also made my legs look really ugly as the calf muscles shortened and bulked up at the top.

my mum wore heels for years. Got to the point where she even had heeled slippers as her hamstrings simply couldn’t stretch to heels flat. Took several years of physio to be able to walk with feet flat again.