How much does your size/weight bother you?

Victoria Beckham has eaten the same meals for several decades. What a fucking miserable existence. It’s a standing joke that no one has ever seen her smile.

Im 56, I’ve gone through the “must be thin” era of my life and spent 2 decades as a fatty (size 16-18). I’m average height so even tho I just tipped into the obese category it still affected my health, giving me high blood pressure

you people with your bmis of 22.5 are beautiful. That is slim by any measure. Stop looking at your flaws and start looking at what you do like. Ffs I have wrinkles on my arse now! I have a flat old lady butt NOW when big butts are fashionable. When I had a big butt it wasn’t popular.

You will look back in 10 years and marvel at how gorgeous you were. Stop wasting this time 😘

It is on my mind everyday, almost all day. I’m currently 10 pounds more than I’d like to be and it makes me not want to be seen. My BMI is underweight but I don’t look it so I think I must have very light bones/no muscle.

I'm 5ft 4 and very overweight 95kgs. I have a large belly, fat arms and legs, I have odd looking breasts, thin hair, I'm hairy...the list goes on. But like you OP I have a great job, a hard working loving husband, my kids are doing well. It's just my body. I have thought about WLI but worry about the side affects. I have a very negative body image. I've got a very pretty face and charming personality which has carried me a long way in life but underneath I've always been unhappy about my body. I now know it's likely I have ADHD so I'm working through that too.

I'm fortunate to be able to pay for therapy so I'm working on myself a lot now and hope to use this time to also start on my physical self.

Being properly thin is shit OP. I'm BMI 17 now due to ARFID and related IBS. Being neurodiverse I don't really have "body image" as such, I'm not sure I have a self image at all in a visual sense. But even if you liked how you looked at this size you wouldn't enjoy it. You lack energy, feel the cold, lack vitamins and iron, and you'd be hungry all the time. I don't know if I feel hunger the way NT people do but I definitely feel run down and lacking. It wouldn't make your life better. Enjoy your health and vigour and exercise to stay strong and well.

I felt deeply unhappy when I was big - just angry and irritable a lot of the time. I think it was the disruption to my hormones and all the health issues / insulin resistance that comes along with being overweight and having PCOS. So I decided to change my life and I've lost 3 stone through weight training. Feel great now, truly happy every day when I wake up in the morning. I had to make the choice to make a change. My whole lifestyle is based around maintaining my lower weight and working out.

I’m 5ft7 and a size 14. Most people will think that’s uncomfortably fat but I have lost 7 stone this year to get to this size so I’m pretty chuffed!! I’m built like a brick shit house so I carry it well and know I will never be thin. When I was training for the military and had no body fat I still weighed in as obese according to my bmi because I’m just biiiiig.

I feel exactly like this. I'm not fat but I'm not thin either - however, I feel my weight is the least interesting thing about me. I'm at peace with my body while recognising that society says I'm not attractive at my size. Getting older has made me not give two fukks quite frankly.

I was a skinny child and teenager. When I hit my late 20s my weight started to go up.

I put on 4 stone in pregnancy - eating was the only thing that stopped the nausea. And that was it...

I have forever been trying to lose my baby weight. I hate my body. My belly is huge. I look pregnant. BMI is 29.9. I lost 3 stones of baby weight but then I gained 2 stone and I'm continuously losing and gaining those 2 stones.

I weigh myself everyday. I feel shit about my weight. I eat really healthily. Cook from scratch. No takeaways but do little exercise as I'm exhausted after work. Menopause has been very unkind to my mental health. I've been single for 12 years. Too embarrassed to put myself out there at this size/weight. Clothes look terrible on me. I think that's the hardest part... I love clothes and fashion but can't wear anything nice as nothing fits or flatters my belly.

I've been late for work as I've got changed several times... desperately trying to find something to wear that makes me look ok.

I've pretended to be ill to get out of going to social events because I can't find anything to wear. I've lost touch with people because I'm too embarrassed for them to see how big I am.

My weight rules my life. I wish it didn't but I can't get it out of head that I'm fat and ugly.

But almost every other post feeds into that and not a single one has been called out like that poster.
That poster has achieved the body she wants however she feels a daily pressure to maintain it, why is that worthy of attack compared to someone who wants that body and thinks about it all day every day, as many comments have said, but doesn’t currently have it?
It’s very interesting that post has got some posters backs up.

I'm 4'11 and feel disgusting above bmi 19 because it all goes on my stomach. I'm bulimic and have been since I was 14 so it takes up a lot of my thoughts. I do weight training and occasional cardio but that's also for health reasons.

Size 12. Doesn’t bother me.

I never had anyone (parents, partners etc) tell me I was fat when I was younger. Not that I would of believed them really - a 90s size 10 was not fat!

Mind you anyone remember that song “She’s a perfect 10 (but she wears a 12)” ? Maybe I was closer to the brink than I realised 🙄

The problem with @QuintessentialDragons post isn’t that they are happy and confident in their body- that is great and other posters have said the same and been a light in amongst all this self revulsion

the problem with the post was that it actually fed into the same societal crap about what denotes a perfect and acceptable body as the rest of the shit we get presented with endlessly. By stating she loves the fact she has smooth lines and is slim etc she actually confirms you can only be happy if you have that ideal either by lucky genetics or self sacrifice.

so it was cruel to post on here as it was more of the same bollocks that puts other women in misery (and I suspect she knew that)

the amazing posters are the ones who confirm their self love, healthy attitude to food and love of their own bodies without needing to double down on the negative messages whilst doing so.

I wish I hadn’t clicked onto this thread.

Women who are size 10 are NOT fat.

Go weight training; climb a mountain; run; swim… learn to love what your bodies are capable of.

I’m a size 20/22 and 5’7 and believe it or not, I’m not sad about it. I know many would want me to be, but I’m not.
I don’t think I’m unattractive, I have great boobs and a bum, I enjoy buying clothes from vinted that I think are fun and interesting, also snag tights and my DMs!
My DP enjoys sex with me.
I know I could probably do with losing a stone or even two according to this thread! But it’s really not a priority for me right now.
I do plenty of walking and that’s good enough for me.

I seem to have been blessed with a sadly rare ability to not think about my body and to be happy with it. Not because its perfect, it's not at all but it's just never been a big part of my self worth. Maybe easy for me as I have been slim most of my life, even if oddly proportioned (small boobs, large waist etc).

As I've hit middle age I'm definitely putting on weight and I think every year now I'll just have to spend some time doing 5:2 to lose a stone as I have last few years. I don't do this for aesthetic reasons, just I have a hip condition that would be exacerbated if I get more than slightly overweight. But I accept I will just probably put more weight on over time and I'm OK with that.

That's how we stay thin. I got angry at my husband because he said "why do you care your weight, you're slim."

I replied "that's why I'm slim - I'm caring it but tired

Daily, I have a wardrobe full of clothes that don’t fit, thanks hormones! Size 12 (sometimes 10 on tops) but at the top of my BMI range and would like to be back to a 10.

@QuintessentialDragon i am the same. Tall, slim and work hard in the gym / running and I eat really well. I’m 5’10 and weigh 62kg I think. I love the fact I can order clothes in a size 6-8 and they’ll always fit and look good. Nothing wrong with that. It does take effort when you’re nearly 50 but I’d rather do that than be miserable and feel fat.
I got fatter in covid and I absolutely hated it - I feel much much better when I’m thinner. I have more energy and I don’t worry about how I look. Photos are always fine, no rolls, no chins! It’s worth not eating cakes to feel good.

Yes I'm termed obese by all those horrible charts my GP uses.

It bothers me a lot. I'm a lazy person and prefer reading (or MNing!) than going out for a walk. I hate sport or even solo exercise.

I eat mostly healthy but I am partial to some very unhealthy snacking.

Yet even though my knees and hips hurt, and my weight has increased pressure on an old liwer limb injury, it hasn't increased my motivation for change, because everything from the waist down hurts, myscle and bone-wise. It's a perpetual circle of bollox.

I'm not fussed about my weight, but I hate my stomach sticking out like I am pregnant. Which is linked to weight and muscle tone I guess. I am in the middle of bmi and a size 12. I think there is a lot of pressure to have a flat stomach. All the bouncing back after pregnancy and shapewear stuff put there..

I think about my size and weigh myself every day and have since I was in my teens.

I'm short ( 5'2.5) so a half a stone makes an enormous difference to my appearance ( in my eyes) and the fit of my clothes- even within a healthy BMI.

My weight used to vary by a stone depending on holidays/xmas/bingeing etc. I've been more stable for the last ten years and (mostly) stopped bingeing ( low carb eating) but my weight can still go up and down and it definitely affects by confidence when I'm half a stone up.

Just had a vomiting bug and lost a few pounds and was thinking about the benefits while feeling grim. Not happy about the obsession, but in my late 50s and I fear it's hardwired in.

I expect it helped them. If genuine then the level of body obsession that would drive someone to come onto a thread and describe their own perfection in such detail means she is coming from the same place as everyone else. She is simply fortunate at this stage in her life to not feel negativity about her appearance. She is still obsessed with her body and part of that is the need for everyone else, even anonymous strangers to know it is perfect. Its the same stable, just a different horse.

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