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To find it so difficult to switch off from my teens?

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hairymotherplucker · 05/11/2024 19:29

I've 4. 14-19.

The eldest two (19 and 17) seem to be flim-flammimg around, wasting opportunities, idling, entitled, ungrateful little
sh!ts.

We try to give them opportunities, encouragement...

They're terrible with money, tired (late nights and crap diet) and generally unpleasant.

How do you switch off? I let it wind me up and it ends in an argument. It eats away at me. When they're nice, they're lovely. When they're not, well, my heart actually aches.

They're not bad people. To everyone else, they're great. They've just no direction and the entitlement is a joke.

Thanks for listening.

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Elderflower2016 · 05/11/2024 19:44

Restricting financial help tends to knock entitlement on the head. Using phones/wifi as leverage may help? Need to be in FT education or FT work.. and a spoonful of acceptance that they’re brains aren’t fully formed yet so they’ll probably turn out alright if they’ve grown up with good family values… testing times when they look like adults but don’t have adult brains 😬

converseandjeans · 05/11/2024 19:42

What do they do for money? I would be tempted to cut off funds for phones, clothes etc.

Lots are at uni by 18 so I think they are probably need to go do their own thing. Cook & pay for things themselves.

Ablondiebutagoody · 05/11/2024 19:40

Where do they get their money from?

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