ExH brought his dog in my house without permission

Again, rtft before preaching please.

I assume the dog is a family dog and the children help look after it too when at exes? If you take the dog to a shelter you’re essentially giving it away.
i would look after it this time, and change your locks and tell your kids to not answer the door to him unless you give them permission.

Again, grow up please.

Best solution would be if you can find out which daycare the dog usually goes to and book him in there with ex being billed at end of month.

Failing that, do you have a local dog owners facebook group? If someone posted on our local group with a story like yours, I am sure there would be no end of dog lovers in our community who would volunteer to help out. Bonus points if you can find a big, huge dog-loving guy who won’t be shy about telling your ex what an utter dick he is when he does show up for his dog.

And report him everywhere you can (including the police, this is abuse towards you)so he knows that this is utterly unacceptable. PP’s previous posts about protecting and distancing yourself so he can’t harm you and your kids in this way again are spot on. I’m so sorry that you are having to deal with this.

Why would she let a fluffy husky dog sleep in her kids room. That's going to be awful fluff everywhere

Rtft before preaching.😗

Haven’t RTFT so apologies if I’m repeating what someone else has said.
And I hope I don’t come across in any way “victim blaming” because what your ex has done is downright disgusting.

You are wasting too much mental energy on this.
Take the dog to the nearest shelter and say you’ve found it abandoned. Text your ex and tell him what you have done and where he can find his dog upon his return. Then mute him on your phone, get an early night before your busy day tomorrow, and do not give it a second thought.

Don’t abandon the blooming dog in an empty house, please. I know you’re angry at ex but it’ll suffer and die and be so distressed if it’s in a house alone for two weeks. It’s firework night/season, maybe just take it in , let it sleep in your kids room and see about shelters tomorrow. Poor thing.

Grow up 😘

@CfCfCftooMuch
You're a good person and I agree with your post in all respects.

He on the other hand is a low down b*stard.

Dunno, have you got any more completely useless ideas to share?

Are you done now?

You can indeed, but people are going to point out when they're stupid and clearly show that you've not paid any attention.

There is being firm and being a doormat your being a doormat you need to be firm you said no tell the kids no unless you want them to grow up just like him? Or are you afraid they will go to him if you say no? (Because honestly that would be the only thing that would make me be a doormat to my ex)

I would be putting the dog back in his house, taking a photo of said dog through the window. Texting him the photo and telling him you know he has left his dog alone and is planning on being away for 2 weeks. Deny dog ever being at yours to him and anyone else. Your texts saying you won’t care for said dog explain this and your “gut instinct” he would leave dog alone or do something abusive like that made you check on the house/dog. Text him telling him he has 12 hours to get on a plane home and look after his dog or you are calling the police to smash the window and rescue the dog. He is charged with neglect- you are the hero!

I can make whatever suggestion I want. The OP doesn’t have to take anything we say on board.

No, she needs to put herself, her kids, job and her pets first.

This is a valuable lesson to your children in how not to be a pushover.

Oh god this is getting worse. My gentle DS still wakes from nightmares because the pet rat he owned had a stroke and died a couple of years back. I have no idea how he would manage if his actions led (in his mind) to our dog being endangered or destroyed. He'd be devastated and his confidence in his parents undermined. I feel desperately sorry for you OP, your ex is a complete asshat twunt who deserves to have sunburn on his bollocks for what he's done to you, but don't let him make you the lesser person here. Model 'responsible caring behaviour' to your kids now and seek revenge longer term 👿

I would be contacting a solicitor about making sure he doesn’t enter your home uninvited ever again. Along the lines of a restraining order. And best not to ever ask him for help with your pets as it creates the impression you help each other out reciprocally.

I absolutely love the idea of advertising for a dog sitter to live in his house whilst he's away! Tell him that you've advertised the position on Facebook Marketplace. Then send him photos of some of the very dodgy looking applicants.
The alternative is to register the dog with 'Borrow My Doggy'. Tell him that the alternative is that you drop the dog off at boarding kennels and that he has to phone them with vaccination details and his credit card details. His only other option is to get a friend to pick his dog up instead. Stand your ground. Make him do the leg work. What a cock!

Which you could've done without making suggestions that OP has already been very clear will not work.

As much as your ex is a dick, you have to put the dog first. It's not the dog's fault, you cannot just dump him. Please be kind to the dog, don't put his well being at risk to get revenge on your ex.

Interesting.. can you find out which daycare? If he has an existing account with them, they might be more willing to take the dog and invoice him later than some completely random kennels who doesn't know you would. They might even be able to offer overnight boarding, but even if they can't they could maybe at least have the dog during the day and just put it on ex's account. Or there might be a member of staff who knows the dog and would be willing to help?