ExH brought his dog in my house without permission

What on earth made you think she might harm the dog? She’s already said she likes the dog and the kids love him. She hasn’t suggested anything “nasty” at all either 🙄

It won't ruin his holiday though because he literally doesn't care about anyone except himself...

Yup. Keep the dog at his place. Feed it and give it water. If it drops several shits on his Persian carpet - all the better.

Have only read four pages: has anyone suggested Borrow my Doggy?

https://www.borrowmydoggy.com/

Perhaps a good place to find temporary care for the poor dog, and minimal cost.

Do you have any local Facebook groups op? I have found (free) dog sitters on Facebook before who have been people who like dogs but don’t want one full time. If you post a picture of it, you might get some people forthcoming. I know it will be a pain to check people out and make sure they are legit but maybe less of a pain than two weeks of looking after a dog.

You could find and pay for it and send the ex the invoice? OP doesn't have the money.

Until your awful Ex is able to sort it out, I think it's a good idea. Your child can do food / water / walk in the morning before school & after school. Any damage or mess in his home is on him. The dog will need water every day, but if you run out of food, Ex will need to send you money in advance to buy more.

I would also send a text stating that he is never to try this again & that you will never be responsible for taking care of his dog when he travels, and save this somewhere as evidence. And I would still report him.

How awful for the poor dog. Please do not harm the dog. Find a pet sitter/dog boarder and book the dog in / send your ex the invoice on his return. No need to be nasty and harm the animal especially if the kids love him/her.

I say keep the dog. When the ex comes to pick up the dog tell him no! Just kidding! But do keep the dog safe. It’s not his fault your ex is a dick.

They won't take the dog if told the truth, it is a legal nightmare and likely leaves them out of pocket as well. Neither vets nor rescues want to be used as free kennelling!

They wouldn't immediately take the dog if they believed it to be the OP's dog, strangely enough vets are not rescues and rescues are full, there are (not just in the UK but around the world) waiting lists to get dogs into rescues.

If OP lies and say's she found the dog, they'd scan the chip and discover the lie, OP stands a good chance of legal action, depriving someone of their property, theft etc.

This isn't just a horrible idea from the POV of messing other people around and costing them time and money, it is also highly unlikely to actually work in the first place and if it did, OP could be in legal trouble.

You can surrender it to a vet, or local rescue.

Are you going to offer to pay for it? The OP can't afford to (and even if she could, why should she, as it isnt her dog), and no boarding kennels is going to take a dog without payment up front!

She can't afford it, doesn't own the dog, doesn't have access to its health records and doesn't know its vaccine status. I can't see any kennels taking it.

The ex needs to sort this out.

Book the poor dig into a boarding kennels, not a shelter! Shame on you

Hopefully the dog destroys everything.

I'd follow up and say "Don't ever do anything like that again to me, to the kids, to your dog. Any behaviour like this going forwards will be reported to the police and to my solicitor"

Start building an evidence folder of his gaslighting behaviour. You may need it at some point.

I agree with the person who suggested you get a cheap PAYG phone for him to contact you on and set up a new email address for that purpose too (so that he can communicate to you about the kids and only about the kids). Everything else is his adult responsibility to sort out and you will not be for any other purpose.

Your days of being his lacky are over!

Just reply to him "great you're working on a solution. The dog's at yours so you can sort it from here".

End of your problem - back to being your ex's problem.

And he said no, so she found someone else. Being sane and all that.

Did I say it was my problem?

I'm just chatting like everyone else on here?

You going to tell all of them to "move on" as well?

What a nasty, stupid comment.

That's fine then. The animal is his problem, quite literally not your circus and not your monkeys. He was relying on you to make it your problem and just look after it without complaining.

Do not answer ANY more texts from him. This animal is his problem and if comes back to shit all over his apartment and a dog which hasn't been out in a fortnight, that is not your problem.

When an abusive, manipulative Ex is involved, yes. Let a vet's office scan the chip and contact the owner.

OP needs to not see the Ex when he returns, especially to hand over a dog she never agreed to look after in the first place. And can't afford to look after. And doesn't have any responsibility for legally.

She's apparently asked the ex feed her cats while on holiday! Madness if she wants him out of her life and home!

Am I missing something here - why on earth would the OP either want or need to find someone else to look after her cats? 😕

The number of people here who think vets are stray dog dispensaries, that shelters will just take any dog off you without even making any checks, that vets will put a dog to sleep for you without asking any questions or even bothering to check if it's yours, or that boarding kennels are happy to take dogs and hold them indefinitely for you without upfront payment is mindboggling. As is the number of people who think it's perfectly fine to lie in order to trick these charities/small businesses into helping you.