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ExH brought his dog in my house without permission

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CfCfCftooMuch · 05/11/2024 19:08

ExH just dropped off his dog in my house. For me to look after, even though i had said no to looking after him. The dc let Exh and dog in when i was out. They love that dog and of course had no knowledge of anything.

ExH is gone now for two weeks. Abroad. He just walked out and took off to the airport, leaving dog behind.

I've got two dc and two cats and work long hours. The cats have never spent a night/day alone in the house with this dog. He is kind and mellow, but a large breed. Size of a wolf.
I've contacted a dog shelter and might have to go to go through rspca.

Posting to tell someone. This is just one of many many ways he always finds a way to use me or control my life. I didn't want any of this. And now im left here calling shelters (which im asked to pay for), calling womens aid, calling rspca, figuring out how to do this without upsetting the dc, texting exH to sort out care if he doesn't want me to take this further, posting here for support, trying to figure out tomorrow with sorting out the kids, my work, other stuff, business meeting and my actual day job. Honestly?! Wtf!!!

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orchid81 · 05/11/2024 19:26

Poor dog

lasagnelle · 05/11/2024 19:25

CfCfCftooMuch · 05/11/2024 19:24

Its a husky.

Oh god they shed fur EVERYWHERE

CfCfCftooMuch · 05/11/2024 19:24

Its a husky.

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lasagnelle · 05/11/2024 19:23

Is it one of those xl bullies? I'd get it put down if it is

CfCfCftooMuch · 05/11/2024 19:22

He has no family. I will take the dog to his place for the day. Don't know what else to do. I have to go to work. I feel bad too, i like him, but he needs walks during the day i assume? Im gone for 9hrs every day!

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lasagnelle · 05/11/2024 19:22

Terrribletwos · 05/11/2024 19:20

Wonderful!

What?

IKEAJesus · 05/11/2024 19:22

Michelle12A · 05/11/2024 19:17

isn’t that illegal if he doesn’t give you permission to enter?

Is she going to enter or just unlock the door and let the dog go in?

AllYearsAround · 05/11/2024 19:21

Interlaken · 05/11/2024 19:20

Could you sell the dog?

You can't sell something that doesn't belong to you.

YouAreOne · 05/11/2024 19:20

He's gone away for 2 weeks!

Yes we know, OP said that.

Terrribletwos · 05/11/2024 19:20

lasagnelle · 05/11/2024 19:20

Yeah I'm not thick I meant for next time

Wonderful!

Interlaken · 05/11/2024 19:20

Could you sell the dog?

lasagnelle · 05/11/2024 19:20

Terrribletwos · 05/11/2024 19:19

It's already happened!

Yeah I'm not thick I meant for next time

AllYearsAround · 05/11/2024 19:20

Call the dog warden in the morning and say the dog has been abandoned and you can't keep it. They will take it.

Singleandproud · 05/11/2024 19:20

He has a phone even if he is overseas for 2 weeks, he van arrange someone to pick him up

Terrribletwos · 05/11/2024 19:19

lasagnelle · 05/11/2024 19:17

You need to have a word with your kids about not letting him in

It's already happened!

BrightYellowStar · 05/11/2024 19:19

This is outrageous. I would be furious in your shoes.

I wouldn't drop it back at his house as there will be no one to look after it for 2 weeks. As PP have suggested I'd take it to a dog shelter as abandoned. He can pay the necessary fees when he picks it up.

Willyoujustbequiet · 05/11/2024 19:18

What an absolute prick. He clearly doesn't care about his dog.

I'd take it to his family if he has any but otherwise notify the dog warden as he's abandoned it.

Michelle12A · 05/11/2024 19:17

CfCfCftooMuch · 05/11/2024 19:16

He has no parents alive. Tonight i will lock the cats in my bedroom with me. Tomorrow i take the dog to his place using the dc keys.

isn’t that illegal if he doesn’t give you permission to enter?

lasagnelle · 05/11/2024 19:17

You need to have a word with your kids about not letting him in

lasagnelle · 05/11/2024 19:17

Terrribletwos · 05/11/2024 19:15

He's gone away for 2 weeks!

And?

LittleRedRidingHoody · 05/11/2024 19:16

StormingNorman · 05/11/2024 19:15

Put the dog in kennels and give them his details for payment.

I was going to say this! Then let him know payment will be due when he collects the dog (if you're sure he'll actually pick up the dog and pay, if there's any chance he'll leave the dog there to spite you don't do it!)

CfCfCftooMuch · 05/11/2024 19:16

He has no parents alive. Tonight i will lock the cats in my bedroom with me. Tomorrow i take the dog to his place using the dc keys.

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StormingNorman · 05/11/2024 19:15

Put the dog in kennels and give them his details for payment.

Terrribletwos · 05/11/2024 19:15

YouAreOne · 05/11/2024 19:10

Message ex and tell him that he has 24 hours to arrange for someone to collect the dog or you will be delivering it to the RSPCA as abandoned.

He's gone away for 2 weeks!

Miley1967 · 05/11/2024 19:15

Poor dog. I appreciate it's not your problem but can't help feeling sorry for the poor dog, he clearly doesn't care about it's wellbeing very much.

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