ExH brought his dog in my house without permission

Very good advice here OP - time to set serious boundaries.

Yes. Not fair on the dog but better that than with the dog warden. Let is piss and shit in his house and eat his furniture. Do not clean up after it.
“Sorry ex-dh but I couldn’t leave it at mine with 2 cats and I have a full time job so got the kids to leave it at yours during the day”

@AllYearsAround of course they don't! Absolutely they don't run this service. Thats not the point

They DO work solely with animals however and they do have processes to deal with abandoned animals. If you read my posts carefully you'll see that I know this is a whole heap of aggro for them but its their actual job to deal with this

Unless you're suggesting the OP keep showing this prick that she will do what the fuck he wants her to?

Can you take it to a kennel and he has to pay to get it back?

My god what a shit human being. The only good thing is he's an EX

No dog likes being dumped in a house alone for hours. They are pack animals, not cats!

The RSPCA would define that (and any sane person that knows anything about dogs) as CRUEL.

Yes and open his wardrobe so it's at least got some stuff to chew on🤭😁

@Lake9mo I get it. I've been there. These men can really do a number on women, making them feel powerless and stuck in a wanting to please mode.

It's liberating when you can see it for what it is but I do appreciate this is a process

OP - you need to start cutting off his access to you. Why are you letting him have open season on WhatsApp? Why are you asking him to look after your cats?

You say he's abusive and gaslights you. Set up a new email address. Give him this. Tell him he is able to contact you via this email but only regarding the kids. Tell him you will check it once a week and respond to anything you deem worthy of responding to - you can also do this with a mobile phone. Get a cheap PAYG and turn it on once a day for 5 mins.

The longer you allow all this weird unfettered access to your life, the longer you remain trapped with him

This is a red herring, the dog issue.

For the billionth time, shelters don't just take any random dog that anyone wants to give them, they have an intake procedure which involves signing over legal ownership - something OP CANNOT DO since she is not the dog's legal owner.

It sucks for the dog but leaving it at the ex's house and popping in to feed it is probably the best option - let's be real, there isn't a solution that doesn't suck for the dog, and at least it will be in a familiar place. It'll shit everywhere and trash the place but that's the ex's problem.

What a nightmare. What an arse he is!

DC need to know that he isn’t allowed in the house and nor is the dog. They must see that this isn’t the right solution for this dog and the stress it’s causing their mum! Is there any way this behaviour can be challenged legally? Argualby he has left OP in a really difficult situation as she can’t afford proper care for the dog and her cats while dog is there; isn’t financial abuse actually a crime now so this could be a police matter?
@CfCfCftooMuch try www.rightsofwomen.org.Uk they may have some advice for you

He clearly isn't a caring or responsible pet owner.

RSPCA might be your best bet, but a Husky isn't a sort of dog that most people want.
They have high needs and are very neurotic. Basically a pack dog unsuited to living alone.
Your Ex sounds like a prize tosser to be honest.

I don't think vets run a service like that?

Does he know anyone who he might get to take the dog off you tomorrow OP, if you told him you were going to abandon it? He doesn't need any details about how you plan to do this- vet, dog warden etc.

The kids can go in then.

I imagine the dog would be happier in its own house than in a cage at the pound.

Yes you're right - guilty of that in my life and suffering at the moment. But thought the dog's welfare and also the kids wanting the dog to stay should be considered.

And no sane person dumps a dog with open cans of food alone in a house, or lets it trot out the door or tries to sell it ...

The best solution is the most obvious one - vets. First thing in the morning. Hugely apologetic of course but that's all you offer

Tell him the dog will be returned to his house tomorrow before work. He has until you finish work to find and pay for a pet sitter before you hand the dog over to the RSPCA and report him for being a negligent dog owner

It’s illegal for her to enter his house without permission

Oh, if you have his keys, maybe there will be a credit card around? Or similar so you can book a kennel online?

With such a feckless owner , I very much doubt if this poor dog has even been vaccinated much less been chipped and kennel cough nasal spray vaccine that many kennels insist upon.

Also- they will likely want paying up front and won't be cheap.

What a completely selfish inconsiderate thing to do.

Sadly huskies are not an 'easy' dog.

@CfCfCftooMuch You can't shut the dog up in his house all alone, it will be so cruel.

A rescue centre or RSPCA are the least you can do, but the ownership signing over as it isn't your dog will probably make it hard if it isn't microchipped to you.

@Lake9mo just stop. You're speaking like someone who rolls over like a hearth rug to coercive men and - for the pleasure of that / you also pay for it!

What the fuck???

For fucks sake, what's wrong with the posters on here?

This is a living animal that feels pain for fucks sake.

I hadn't read the part of OP was skint, in that case, she explains to the kids she can't cope with the dog, she lets them say goodbye and explains why she's doing this and drop the dog off to shelter, done.

I would do this too. It's his problem to solve.

Not unbelievably cruel - it has food, water and shelter. The owner has time to sort something out for it.

Dumping your dog to go on holiday is unbelievably cruel.