New colleague commenting on name

YANBU to think she’s out of order but I’d just keep quiet and let her dig her own hole. Sounds as though she’s doing ok at that already.

I think that, whatever the reason, making fun of people names in this way is very juvenile and unprofessional. There was nothing wrong in checking how to pronounce it but the rest was uncalled for.
However I’m inclined to agree with those who say that she will probably soon rub so many people up the wrong way that she will not pass her probation or get the push. In the meantime, just carry on making a great impression yourself!

Don't say anything to your manager, not for just this one thing. It sounds like you are being a little sensitive but if it starts to become a regular thing keep a record

Unpopular opinion but I think she's really rude. In this day and age it isn't hard to be polite and respectful when learning new names. We get extensive culture and unconscious bias training in my workplace and this type of stuff just wouldn't fly.

Wouldn't raise it with your manager though, unless she starts behaving inappropriately (instant drink preference doesn't count!)

Yes the OP is being a little sensitive but I thought we were past the point of laughing at people’s names especially when we have just met them? It doesn’t require complaining to the manager but it is very very very rude.

She sounds unbelievably, horrifically rude and you are right to be annoyed/upset. I would give her a wide berth but be perfectly polite to her if you do need to interact. Chances are everyone knows she's a bellend.

Someone laughing at your name is rude and insensitive. No wonder you aren’t liking what you’ve seen of this person.

perhaps when you are with her alone next time, just let her know

say, I found it insensitive of you to laugh at my name and it didn’t give me a good impression of you. I just thought I’d let you know

if she apologises then take it from there

byt if she try’s to blame you or gas light you, then you’ll have your answer to her character

Is it Crotch?! :D no way you can go to the line manager for this as well. :)

I drink Instant {Carte Noir} as it's convenient- real coffee can be made so very badly that sometimes instant is better.

Tepid 'real' cappuccino with a milky flavour is foul - give me the hot instant compared to that!

Occasionally one gets really good cappuccino, but it takes a skilled barista to make one. Temperature is so important.

Don't say anything, you're new.

Just get her back in 6 months time 😂

But she also sounds like the sort of twat that will keep being twatty, and therefore seal their own fate

This. I agree with pp who advised not to report her - people will soon suss her out. I’ve worked with a few similar people in the past and they often like to repeat the same “jokes.” Try to think of a good comeback if she does it again. I once made a silly comment about a mate’s new boyfriend’s name that rhymed with a rude word - he replied smiling and enthusiastically “oh wow that’s really original, I’ve never heard that before!!” He said it so nicely, I’m still cringing about it now 30 years later as I must have looked like a complete dick (in my defence I was a teenager at the time) 🥴

Eurrrgghh instant coffee, hate the stuff.
I don't think we can be friends.

Ive had colleague who were names Koch... i did feel quite bad for her as everyone used to ask how to pronounce her name and, it did actually sound like.. cock. I liked her - she was great fun! Try not to feel and OP - youre prob extra sensitive as just started the job as well.

Ignore it. I have had two surnames that needed knowledge to pronounce and just got on with it. Do not tell your line manager - they'll think you are a pernickity nutjob, really.

Is it 'Dick?'
We had a teacher called ''Mr Dick'' and really it's not a problem if you say {as he did} ''I've never heard that joke before '' with a roll of his eyes.

There are definitely two types of people that don't like instant coffee.

Ones that just choose tea or water instead (like me).

And ones that need everyone to know that they don't like instant/can only drink filter/freshly ground/expensive bath water like it's some kind of defining characteristic.

If you are in the latter camp, and also think that it's ok to make stupid and inappropriate comments about someone's name on the first day you meet them at a new job, then we probably wouldn't make great friends either.

Which then takes out of 'Oh, don't be so stupid, why are you being sooooo oversensitive?' in the eyes of the MN School Bully Adult Development Programme into the 'Yeah, we're not continuing with your contract for taking the piss out of a colleague's name of non-English origin on your first day. We would have suggested you took our Diversity Awareness Course, but as it took you less than an hour to start this shit, just get your coat'.

My guess is Cox

Loads of weird responses on here as per.

It’s very rude to comment on someone’s name like that.

She was in the wrong, not you.

The time to say something was probably at the time (“Funny, I rarely get people pronouncing it wrong so it’s not usually an issue” or something like that). Don’t raise it to your manager now. But just keep an eye out around this woman. Don’t let her talk down to you.

We must have done the same German at school 😂

Good old Fraulein Koch, going to Munchen.

I'm sorry she made you feel down. Starting a new job is hard enough without twats trying to mock you and hurt your feelings

What I will say is from your OP she will probably rub a lot of people up the wrong way very quickly. You don't need to do anything, she'll have enough rope to hang herself before long. Try and establish yourself as a friendly and reliable colleague with the rest of the team and outshine her shitty attitude. The trash will take itself out.

Snap.

My guess is Koch.

Voting for Koch here