New colleague commenting on name

She should have asked how to pronounce it and then said fuck all that would have been the right thing

She sounds like a right Behlend OP! I think she'll piss everyone off fairly quickly. Either that or everyone will think she's amazing and you'll find you've started the job from hell.

I love instant coffee and I have a completely inappropriate sense of humour. We probably wouldn’t get on either 🤣

I probably wouldn’t bring it up, because it’s early days and I’d want a smooth start. That said, I think our names are a part of our identity and it’s important to make an effort to pronounce them properly and be respectful about it. So I don’t think you’re over sensitive or wrong for being upset.

Or Koch?

In the kindest possible way op, you are doing a sterling job of making a mountain out of molehill, and imagining things that just aren’t there.
Is this your first time in a working environment? Or just anywhere around people? Because you’re in for a lot of harsh lessons if this offends you 🤣

I have two (unrelated) friends with the surname Dix (pronounced sort of 'dees') but you can imagine how it gets said 9/10 times 😂

Let it go OP...you are being a little over sensitive, even though your colleague sounds like a bit of a twat 🤷‍♀️

I think if you tell someone once then they should say it right after that.
For example someone on a course at work said to everyone else on the course "my name is Tola, it rhymes with scholar." No one said his name wrong or forgot it because he has made it easy for us. My name is a simple, plain, boring name but people still call me the wrong name sometimes. I think if someone is repeatedly saying your name wrong or in a rude way and it bothers you then that is out of order. One comment is not a big deal in my opinion.

The best double-barrell would be if William Shatner married Stevie Nicks.

Beautiful!

Is it bullock?

That always reminds me of The two Ronnies, Four Candles!

We had someone called Bullock

And people thought it was hilarious to say bollocks.

Mrs Baulsac?

I know someone who started with the surname Willey and married a Kuntz. Disappointed they didn't double barrel tbh.

It was fine for her to ask how to pronounce it but the follow up comment was out of order. Things happen so quickly at times, that it's hard to know how to react.

I think with hindsight I would have wanted to play dumb and say "I can't imagine what you're referring to. What do you mean?"

You have done nothing wrong. It was dickish behaviour.

I still wouldn't say anything to the manager when you've only been there a couple of days, especially if you hope to stay there. Unfortunately, it will only be you who will look like the troublemaker in those circumstances irrespective of whether you're right. And FWIW, I think you are right: the unfuny office 'funny one' is a royal pain in the arse as the 'Colin Hunt' parody made painfully plain. YABU to find her rude and annoying.

I know it's hard, but people like this are best tuned out. If she starts a bullying campaign then that, of course, is different, but if childish put-downs are her thing let her crack on. If she brings it up again, smile sweetly and say 'I'll bet you can't guess how many times I've heard that one before!' Or, 'that was funny, have you heard the one about the cock and the elephant?'

If she thinks she isn't bothering you, she may give up.

But she isn't the one who said it sounds like genitals you have here. Maybe that'd why she asked how on earth do you pronounce it so as not to be rude or cause embarrassment. I think your own insecurity over your name may have clouded your judgement.

Complaining about something so trivial in a new job will mark you out more than her. But if it still bothers you make a note of it and if there is subsequently a pattern of behaviour you find unacceptable use it as an example then.

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I worked with a Steve Dick... I had quite a heated argument with him about women choosing not to take their husband's names!

Also knew a teacher who was Mrs Pennis - pronounced "Pen-aise"

I’m sorry to most people on this thread, but I’m pretty robust and I think the colleague sounds like she was being a twat- and if I heard you taking the piss out of a new starter like that on their first day, I’d think you were a twat too.

Really, some people would march straight to HR to complain that a colleague asked how your surname was pronounced? Maybe she saw the name Cockburn the first time and didn't want to risk guessing?

Bring it up to the line manager? Please don’t be that person.

Laugh it off.

It's the comment "oh I could never drink instant" that would make me think she is an absolute pain in the arse and the other comment she made about your name certainly wasn't friendly banter. I love my coffee and would never have instant coffee in the house but I've enough self awareness not to come out with stuff like that with people I've just met. It says a lot about her character. I've met her type before

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The colleague was out of order. I'd make a note with date and time, but not raise anything. She may settle down or she may prove to be a bully, or not suitable for some roles such as recruitment.

I also really, really want to write a list of words for the male organ of generation and win the guessing game; I'm sorry!