New colleague commenting on name

Surely if your surname could be pronounced like an intimate part of male anatomy, you've dealt with these comments many times before? I'd just shrug it off.
If she is indeed a rude idiot then no one will like her.

@MaddestGranny I thought long and hard about dd3's name as I wanted a name that worked in her father's country as well as the UK. I choose a lovely 5 letter name which I thought would be fine but no it causes so many issues. I've told dd she can change it if she wants but she loves her name.

I have a double barrel first name any my whole life my name has been a thing which can make you very oversensitive.
My response is to self deprecate before anyone else can and not care at all!
Yeah my parents could've make up their mind, bloody indecisive!
Oh, I go by anything, literally, anything, yell oi you I'll respond etc

Tbh, I am dyslexic and my brain always messes up, so I ask to make sure I get it right as I hate doing it other people and want them to be comfortable.

In time she might end up revealing herself as a wrongen, but I think these examples could just be feeling a bit nervous and being a bit awkward - you could end up being firm friends. Reset and give her the benefits of the doubt and eat lots of chocolate as that will help the hormones 😉

I have a name like that - the 2nd part is often made to sound like female genitals as they use a soft g rather than a hard g sound. I'm used to it but as soon as dd3 leaves school I'm changing back to my maiden name! I have had a few idiots making a thing about it but I just let them get on with it.

She sounds like an in your face kind of person best avoided if possible. I would also be very wary of someone who doesn't understand appropriate behaviour in the workplace. If she says something similar I would say "I don't appreciate your comment" or something similar and avoid like hell. Being sensitive also means your aware and care about how you treat people and are treated. Ignore the mean girls on here, they just don't get our type

If your name is obviously a funny like Ms Penis and you say "it's pronounced Pen-ouis" or Ms Cock, "its pronounced Coo-erk" then yes, YABU. Either accept your name is ridiculous and grow a funny bone or change it. If it's barely even anything and not worth joking about then that's dumb and YANBU but it sounds like they were valid in mentioning it because it's actually a silly sounding name.

It is a basic courtesy to try to get another person's name right.
And it is the height of insensitivity to make a joke about someone's name.
Generally speaking, people feel their name to be part of their identity.
Think about having your own name deliberately mispronounced to make it into a derogatory term. Would you like that? No. You wouldn't.

I was a teacher for many years and made it a personal rule to pronounce each child's name correctly and as they wished it to be said. If necessary, I'd say something like: "Sorry if I'm making a mess of saying your name. Come & give me some help at the end of class".

I understand because: I have a regional UK name which is spelled "differently". As a result I suffered from constant teasing at school from deliberate mispronunciation by classmates as well as the continuous, oblivious, mispronunciation by teachers and other adults.
No-one ever got it right. Most people would react as if it was my FAULT for having an unusual & out of the ordinary name.
So I shortened it to a version of a different, common, phonetically simple name to avoid the pain.
I've gone through life under this "nickname", which I don't really like.
My proper name still causes difficulties. It is a fairly rare name outside it's home country. So people ask: "can you spell that?" I now refuse to do so, saying: "No, I won't spell it, 'cos that's when the trouble starts!" (adding a laugh to absolve the asker from feeling blame). Or, I spell it phonetically (not quite like the actual spelling).

You think I'm exaggerating?

I'm in my 8th decade of putting up with this.

Ifyouseeitsayit 1983 - you have my full sympathy.

🤣🤣🤣 omg I can’t stop laughing!

Unacceptable behaviour??
Witnesses? Calm down 😂

I have a name that sounds similar to s rude word

People have always joked

I really dont care much. It says a lot about them being a dick

Toughen up a bit

Cockburn?

People need to get a grip, even in ‘serious’ professional environments, are people immune to humour? We don’t know the tone of the conversation, the name, the ‘joke’ - maybe she was nervous and trying to break the ice, maybe she was being friendly… even if she was being a mare, build a f*ing bridge and get over it… Most office-type environments are replete with bitchiness and ‘politics’. You have to toughen up…

Is it the name of a brand of port?

God grief! You sound like hard work. Day two and already looking to complain… grow up and let it go!
my first name is lovely /unusual for uk but it is hard to pronounce I answer to anything that sounds close enough!

Is it bollocks. That's got bucket/bouquet written all over it 😂😂😂

Ignore them. I’m with you. It’s a massive micro aggression red flag.

Just tell her straight ‘I’d appreciate if you pronounced my name correctly

But the colleague asked how to pronounce it, so she could do exactly that..
I really don't understand why people are coming up with all the stories how she was mocking it or how she kept mispronouncing it, even OP didn't claim she did it.

My surname gets all sort of pronounciations of which one is very funny and people do laugh. It’s nothing personal. I don’t get worked up about it.

People saying get over it really don’t get there might be some micro aggression, prejudice connotations in the colleagues attitude. Suppose it’s an ‘ethnic’ name that would be extremely rude of her. Just tell her straight ‘I’d appreciate if you pronounced my name correctly’ ‘it means something in…’

MaroibtBallioony: In a professional role, mocking people's names is unacceptable.
OP like others I suggest keeping quiet for now but taking note and keeping an eye on her. If you work in a professional environment she'll show herself up soon enough. If she fits right in it's a bad sign about the workplace!
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I quite agree. It's just not done - unless you are a kid.

Everybody is that person in my office, I work with intelligent adults.

Aaah, you’re that person in the office. Well I’m glad I don’t work with you 🤣

It wasn't funny the first time

What? No she isn't. Where the hell do you people work?

In a professional role, mocking people's names is unacceptable.

OP like others I suggest keeping quiet for now but taking note and keeping an eye on her. If you work in a professional environment she'll show herself up soon enough. If she fits right in it's a bad sign about the workplace!

I would suggest keeping your eyes and ears open and your mouth closed. It is a new job, and it takes a good while to get used to, to see where the land lies, and to understand the team dynamics . She might just not be very socially skilled so at this early stage smile sweetly and focus on your new role. If this starts to look like a pattern further down the road, that is another matter. I have had jobs where the nicest seeming person turned out to be an utter vindictive horror, someone who was always looking for new victims. ConverselyI worked with someone who initially seemed very brusque and a bit intimidating who later went on to become a very good friend. As I said, give it time