New colleague commenting on name

I feel like she just says things without thinking, she clearly wasn't mocking. It'd be different if she'd said "what an awful name" or "gosh I'd hate to be called that" but she was probably assuming you'd laugh and that you'd heard a million jokes about it, perhaps its a bit insensitive but my friend is a Willey and its a great ice breaker to make a joke out of it. Everyone is edgy on their first day, try not to be too sensitive about it. At least she asked how to pronounce it, rather than inappropriately guessing! What would you even say to your manager "she made a passing comment and I didn't like it" - they'll think you're going to be sensitive about lots of stuff. Maybe she will turn out to be a pain, and everyone else will see it and moan about it too, you can then throw your story into the mix. Also, I'd everyone is quite jokey in the workplace maybe it's the wrong setting for you...

Continues? She didn't mispronounce the name in the first place. If your colleague is called Koch and you ask how to say the name, how is it childish and taking the piss?

Honestly i wouldn't bring it up to a manager yet. If she continues to purposely mispronounce your name and takes the piss doing so after being corrected numerous times then absolutely put in a complaint. For now i would tell her that you don't appreciate her taking the piss. If that doesn't stop her from being a wanker about it that would be the time to complain about her childish behaviour in the workplace

Omg I was going to say that bouquet not bucket lol. I am 44 and I grew up watching that with parents. Shoukd have just said I know but since you are the millionth person to say that through out my life it’s not so funny it’s boring

I’m sorry you don’t have a sense of humour OP.

Straight out of the playbook. Bullies always say this.

@BashfulClam , but you posted In Scotland we’d pronounce that properly. but what you meant was that you wouldn't say Cock.

We’d no pronounce it as a hard ‘ck’ sound. That the main difference we wouldn’t say ‘Cock’

@BashfulClam , would you though? The German ch sound is not the same as the Scottish ch.

ThatsNotMyTeen , I wish she'd stop teasing us and tell us her name . Talk about curiosity being whetted !???

In Scotland we’d pronounce that properly. In England I notice people pronounce Loch as ‘Lock’ with a hard ck sound.

The irony of you username 😂. She saw it, she said it! You need to calm down!

That's Mumsnet for you. Some people take pleasure out of hurting others, and they have free rein to indulge themselves on here.

Exactly. No need to gaily ‘laugh it off’ and then simmer with fury enough to post on the internet about it.

I had an Irish name in England, and a senior colleague in a new workplace made a similar, though rather sneerier, remark about ‘ridiculous’ Irish names pronunciation and how people must get it wrong all the time. I shrugged and said, deadpan, ‘Oh, you’ll find ignorance everywhere’.

About a year later, he got drunk at a work party and it emerged his parents were Irish, he’d been born in Mayo, but brought up in London, and was ashamed of his background. And he used his middle name. His first name was Tadhg.

I wouldn't bring it up, but I think some PPs don't understand how annoying it can be to be constantly reminded that your name is different (I have a difficult foreign name and feel your pain).

It's not dissimilar to my husband who's 6ft6 and constantly gets "wow you must be like 2 meters tall" and "what's the weather like up there", and is utterly tired off it. Every comment taken individually is fairly innocent and no big deal, but when barely a week goes past without someone commenting on your name, height, etc it becomes annoying quite quickly I find.

If your name is something like Cockburn it's probably good that they asked first tbf!

Don’t agree with this vote at all. She’s really rude and acted like a child. You’d not be unreasonable to bring it up, but for an easy life I’d leave it and see how things play out as other people start to clock she’s difficult.

Let it go. New jobs and training are stressful. She may be very nervous, socially clumsy, trying to be funny to make friends.

Get to know her. See if this is a pattern of behaviour. If so, some friendly peer feedback to her about personal reputation and brand may help.

'I've noticed a couple of times you've ...
I don't know if you're aware, and I'm sure you don't intend it, but when that happens ... I feel ... it feels insensitive ... you can appear ...'

Some people can be very thick skinned and blunt and don't realise how they're coming across.

Don't go to the manager - unless her behaviour escalates and becomes a habit that is affecting you and others.

Well this is the problem with some names/surnames, parents don’t think when naming and then kids are burdened with this crap. A colleagues surname is Hardik and he gets a rough time, it is also the name of a famous Indian cricketer but what can you do other than laugh! Please try to develop a sense of humour.

Total over reaction. Do not bring this up especially if you’re new. You will look like a tool

This.

I lived with 30 years of piss taking about my maiden name. I’m still alive

Cockburn was my guess

The exchange re your name gives off faint vibes to me that she was a bully when she was younger. I'm sorry it hurt your feelings. Be professional and courteous with her, but nothing more for the time being x

Oh dear god. Get over it 🙄

I’m sorry you don’t have a sense of humour OP. This is definitely something I would and have said. As for the instant coffee comment… so what! Everyone has things they don’t like. Why does her dislike of instant coffee bother you so much? Are you seriously contemplating speaking to your manager about this??? You’ve been there 5 mins and they will 100% think you are crazy. If this person is really bothering you then leave, but if this is the kind of thing that keeps you up at night I suspect you are probably going to have issue in every role you ever work in.