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Do you bath your kids everyday?

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Nastynigel · 05/11/2024 12:42

How often do your children have a bath -
aged 7 and 9.

Surely it cannot be everyday?? Or am I being thick.

OP posts:
Saschka · 05/11/2024 18:00

My 8 year old does, but he loves his baths. Sometimes shower if we are short on time.

He also does a lot of sports, and honestly in summer he gets pretty grubby at school. We shower daily as adults, so it’s good to get him into the habit.

MustBeThursday · 05/11/2024 18:00

Shower with hair wash once a week and a non hair wash shower every other day or so. DD1's skin gets too dry with daily full showers. As does mine. We used to do hair wash with every shower until the hairdresser told me off because it was drying out their hair really badly. DD1 will probably need to start washing her hair more soon as it starts to get greasy.

Dontlletmedownbruce · 05/11/2024 17:56

KnittingKnewbie · 05/11/2024 12:59

I have noticed among my friends that English people (mothers) wash the kids every night.
Irish mothers don't.

I don't know why this is. I presume cost of electric/water would have been the same growing up so it's not a financial thing, but a cultural one

That's interesting and i suspect its true. I'm Irish and after being a bit freaked out from a thread here I asked around as mine were only washing twice a week. I found most people said two or three times a week, some said once. I've never met someone who makes little kids shower every day.

SecretLifeOfTeachers · 05/11/2024 17:45

Isitfridayyetsophie · 05/11/2024 17:09

I was wondering when I read some of the replies if this would be the case. I know kids don’t really smell but they all have their own unique odour, I can’t smell my son’s but I can smell others. My son sweats, especially when he’s running around, I don’t think he’s unusual for that. I know people here roll your eyes when you say you go nose blind,
but I really think people do. It’s like when you’re at school and you find a jumper and you knew who it belonged to after you smelled it
Edit- should clarify I can’t smell my son but I’m sure has he his own smell too, I’m just I’m noseblind to it!

Edited

This is it… it’s not like I sat next to them and think wow you smell, but by the end of the week some definitely have a smell about them.
Not surprising when lots of Primary aged kids rush going to the toilet so forget to wipe, don’t fully wipe, don’t wash hands,
They also have no problems sitting on the floor, rolling around, picking up anything that looks interesting.
I have 3 children- we bath or shower every night, even if it’s hop in and quick wash

Didimum · 05/11/2024 17:31

1-2 times a week and a wash when dirty. Two 6yr olds.

FloatyBoaty · 05/11/2024 17:28

Depends on the week. Anything from 2-3 times a week in winter if no sports (plus shower before and after swimming), to every day in summer. Have an 8 year old.

MrsSunshine2b · 05/11/2024 17:24

LikeARunnerHo · 05/11/2024 16:30

My black ancestors would disagree with you!

And did they coat themselves in thick layers of moisturiser/ cocoa butter multiple times a day?

MrsSunshine2b · 05/11/2024 17:22

Whenever she's dirty really. If she's got muddy or done "make-up" she has a bath, even if she had one the day before. If not, she could go a few days. I don't really keep a record.

violentovulation · 05/11/2024 17:11

Nastynigel · 05/11/2024 12:49

you're damaging their skin if you bath/ shower every day.

They are children, not dogs.

Isitfridayyetsophie · 05/11/2024 17:09

SecretLifeOfTeachers · 05/11/2024 16:29

I’m a primary school teacher and some of the replies explain why some of the kids tend to be a bit smelly by the end of the week.

I was wondering when I read some of the replies if this would be the case. I know kids don’t really smell but they all have their own unique odour, I can’t smell my son’s but I can smell others. My son sweats, especially when he’s running around, I don’t think he’s unusual for that. I know people here roll your eyes when you say you go nose blind,
but I really think people do. It’s like when you’re at school and you find a jumper and you knew who it belonged to after you smelled it
Edit- should clarify I can’t smell my son but I’m sure has he his own smell too, I’m just I’m noseblind to it!

YouLookinSusBro · 05/11/2024 17:08

Long bath twice a week for 6yo DS, unless particularly dirty. Hair washed once a fortnight. No he doesn't smell and doesn't look dirty, obviously he washes in between. He hates the shower and his eczema has improved no end with less baths.

BarbaraHoward · 05/11/2024 16:48

SecretLifeOfTeachers · 05/11/2024 16:29

I’m a primary school teacher and some of the replies explain why some of the kids tend to be a bit smelly by the end of the week.

I would've thought that's more due to the price of uniform and it being worn a few times before it's washed at the weekend.

LikeARunnerHo · 05/11/2024 16:30

Nastynigel · 05/11/2024 12:49

you're damaging their skin if you bath/ shower every day.

My black ancestors would disagree with you!

SecretLifeOfTeachers · 05/11/2024 16:29

I’m a primary school teacher and some of the replies explain why some of the kids tend to be a bit smelly by the end of the week.

Frosty1000 · 05/11/2024 16:25

I have a 9 year old and he has a quick under 4 minute shower most nights - no dry skin at all.

Icanttakethisanymore · 05/11/2024 15:51

Nastynigel · 05/11/2024 12:49

you're damaging their skin if you bath/ shower every day.

Surely it depends on what you wash them with?

FlipFlopVibe · 05/11/2024 15:47

1 and 5 year old - every other day baths here as the toddler gets a good clean with nappy changes and cloths after meals and 5 year old doesn't need to worry about body smells yet. I'd guess around the time they start secondary school is when they will move to daily showers

Makingchocolatecake · 05/11/2024 15:44

No because she will only get in with me and I don't want a bath everyday.

DaisyChain505 · 05/11/2024 15:40

Really surprised to see how many people shower or bathe their kids every day.

when I was a child we had a bath once a week on a Sunday ready for school!

children don’t need to shower/bath every day. They haven’t got the hormones to be stinky yet and it just dries out their skin and hair.

ValentinesDayCryingInTheHotel · 05/11/2024 15:31

Catza · 05/11/2024 12:48

We keep to the same schedule as ourselves - shower daily with some occasional gaps if there was no vigorous activity (wash the "strategic" areas with a cloth). Bath is optional once a week.
I think a daily bath is quite extravagant nowadays.

same

Mel2023 · 05/11/2024 15:23

Ooh OP, I put a similar question up a while ago and the opinion was that it’s unacceptable to not bathe every day! OP, I bathe my DS 3-4 times a week. If he comes home particularly mucky or had had a messy meal time, messy play or has been covered in sun cream etc then of course he’ll get an additional bath that day. We’re potty training now and he’s bathing daily because of the accidents. He’s also liking the bath again - daily bathing with a bath-hating child who acted like he was being drowned every time was not fun!

There is something around bathing daily for babies and it damaging their skin, I 100% remember my midwife and HV telling me that. And I have bad eczema prone skin which runs in the family so I was concerned for DS. But I think now he’s older it’s not so much as concern as plenty bathe every day.

Devilsmommy · 05/11/2024 15:17

KnittingKnewbie · 05/11/2024 12:59

I have noticed among my friends that English people (mothers) wash the kids every night.
Irish mothers don't.

I don't know why this is. I presume cost of electric/water would have been the same growing up so it's not a financial thing, but a cultural one

I'm English and I've never gave a bath every night. Every other night usually unless he's got really messy

mathanxiety · 05/11/2024 15:15

And fwiw, I shower and wash my hair every day and have done for as long as I can remember. We had a bathtub when I was a child, and my parents put in a shower when I was about nine or ten, so certainly from that age on.

mathanxiety · 05/11/2024 15:13

KnittingKnewbie · 05/11/2024 12:59

I have noticed among my friends that English people (mothers) wash the kids every night.
Irish mothers don't.

I don't know why this is. I presume cost of electric/water would have been the same growing up so it's not a financial thing, but a cultural one

I'm an Irish mother, though living in the US.

I never saw the need to do the daily bath for babies, toddlers, or small children. They were never so caked in mud or food that they needed an all over wash. I know a great many American mothers who did the same as me.

My DCs were topped and tailed daily until potty trained, and after that they probably had a bath twice or maybe three times a week (with the exception of the tricky time when they were getting the hang of wiping themselves, when they bathed or got hosed down in the shower daily) until they were able to shower independently at around six. By age nine they were taking a daily shower and that continued through the tween and teen years. I never had a soap refuser.

honeylulu · 05/11/2024 15:12

Usually every day. Started as babies, mainly as part of the bedtime routine which they enjoyed but also practical for washing off traces not fully removed by nappy changes and food remnants (messy eaters). A sink wash would have taken just as long and too cold/splashy.

Once they were school age I told them they could bath every other day but they resisted that and only skip if it's a late night or a sleepover or something. Oldest swapped to a morning shower in his teens but will sometimes have an evening bath as well to relax. Youngest (10) now needs to wash hair every other day and wear deodorant so I'm grateful I maintained the daily bathing. Some of her friends' mums despair of how hard it is to wrestle their newly stinky tweens into the shower when they need it!

They never had any problem with their skin. I would have washed them less if they had. We're quite an oily skinned family, alas!

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