My DW has always been nervous of flying, I've been patient and understanding I feel but she seems to be OK when we go with the children too. In fact she seems quite happy on flights weve taken, just maybe a bit nervous during takeoff and landing but no more than many. But now she says she won't go on any flights without the children until they're older now. She says it's because she's afraid that if we die on the flight they will be left on their own (despite family being available and plenty of insurance cover).
The problem is, before telling me this issue, she agreed that we would go on a trip to Europe to see a gig. I therefore made all arrangements and booked it. It would give us time to ourselves which we rarely get with young teenage children, be a great gig and a bit of exploring a city and good food.
Now I feel very let down she won't go. I'm going on my own because I can't get refunds for anything. It just seems ridiculous to me. It feels like she doesn't want to go with me specifically rather than any worries about air travel as she is perfectly fine on flights we've taken. So I'm stuck with wasted money, a trip I'm going on on my own as at least something should come of it, and feeling resentful, unloved and let down.
I know I can't expect someone to come along when they don't want to or to make them feel anyway other than the way they do but why did she agree, seriously feeling so let down. I was in an abusive relationship in the past where being let down happened alot and this brings that all back...
Sorry maybe just venting this as much as anything...