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How safe do you generally feel on the streets

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ohgolly24 · 04/11/2024 23:11

Inspired by a thread about XL bullies. My tween has recently started going out to the park alone or with friends. We live fairly rurally and I have all the appropriate measures in place - app on his phone, agreed times to come home etc. He's very responsible, it's not him I worry about, it's the external factors.

It feels like there are so many dangers out there. So many crazy people. So many vehicles on the road. These bloody killing machine dogs roaming around. I know accidents and bad people and general day to day dangers have always existed but we hear so much more about it now it just feels unsafe to walk down the street sometimes.

It's probably also because my dc are growing up and I know I can't be with them to protect them 24/7. It's hard getting to that stage of parenting any letting them out into the big wide world. But genuinely I just feel like there are so many things to be afraid of.

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SafeandZane · 05/11/2024 10:31

I have a resting bitch face so I have never been bothered on the street . I am also as fast walker and don't make eye contact with anyone . I think making eye contact seems to spark off an interaction .

Haha I'm exactly the same.

Power walk everywhere, headphones always on, the bitchiest resting bitch face imaginable.

SafeandZane · 05/11/2024 10:31

I have a resting bitch face so I have never been bothered on the street . I am also as fast walker and don't make eye contact with anyone . I think making eye contact seems to spark off an interaction .

SafeandZane · 05/11/2024 10:28

With the state of the roads where I live it's only a matter of time before a car or motorcycle comes off the road and seriously hurts someone .

Crushed23 · 05/11/2024 10:27

I live in London and feel completely safe as a 30something woman usually walking around by herself.

I think it's far more dangerous to be a young man. My brother has been beaten up by stranger(s) twice - once on a night out and once outside a football stadium (neither incident was in London, but in the UK). I on the other hand have never even come close to being attacked.

LoveSandbanks · 05/11/2024 09:57

I’m 56 and have rarely felt unsafe when out and about. I’m a regular runner and sometimes run after dark. I don’t wear headphones when I run and try to stick to well lit areas but that’s so I don’t get run over! I’d be unlikely to run in the woods after dark but more because I’m likely to trip and it would be hard to rescue me.

I’ve always felt it was my “right” to use this world, without restriction. I used to walk home from night clubs. The statistics say that I’m actually far safer out of the home than in it, that actually makes are more likely to be attacked outside the home than women.

No stranger has ever attempted to rape me but plenty of men I knew have! Far safer with a fucking stranger! 🙄

SoporificLettuce · 05/11/2024 09:47

ohgolly24 · 04/11/2024 23:11

Inspired by a thread about XL bullies. My tween has recently started going out to the park alone or with friends. We live fairly rurally and I have all the appropriate measures in place - app on his phone, agreed times to come home etc. He's very responsible, it's not him I worry about, it's the external factors.

It feels like there are so many dangers out there. So many crazy people. So many vehicles on the road. These bloody killing machine dogs roaming around. I know accidents and bad people and general day to day dangers have always existed but we hear so much more about it now it just feels unsafe to walk down the street sometimes.

It's probably also because my dc are growing up and I know I can't be with them to protect them 24/7. It's hard getting to that stage of parenting any letting them out into the big wide world. But genuinely I just feel like there are so many things to be afraid of.

I had felt safe on the beach path until last week when two Labradors ran away from their owner and charged directly at me snarling and barking furiously.

I had just come up from a swim and was walking home in my dryrobe.

I stood still, folded my arms so my hands were protected and turned my face away. I fully expected to be mauled. At the last moment they veered off.

When the wheezing owner finally scuttled past me (still trying unsuccessfully to recall them) he looked embarrassed and muttered “sorry about that”. I said “it was very scary” to which he replied “they didn’t like what you were wearing”. So my fault apparently. 🤷🏼‍♀️

When I left the beach they were barking at a family with a little dog on a lead.

mitogoshigg · 05/11/2024 09:38

Very safe. The dc around me go out alone a lot from fairly young too, next doors dc go to school alone (year 4 no roads)

LikeARunnerHo · 05/11/2024 09:28

I literally leave my house without a care in the world, I feel completely safe. I live in London so maybe it’d be different if I was in a rural area I don’t know

coffeesaveslives · 05/11/2024 09:28

Completely safe.

Dreamingofgoldfinchlane · 05/11/2024 09:28

Very safe in the UK

VioletCrawleyForever · 05/11/2024 09:27

I feel pretty safe.

Lentilweaver · 05/11/2024 09:26

Statistically women, at least, are far more likely to be attacked in the home than by strangers.
The Southport stabbings were really rare.

ohgolly24 · 05/11/2024 09:18

ClytemnestraWasMisunderstood · 05/11/2024 08:22

These bloody killing machine dogs roaming around.
Sorry, that is a ridiculous statement; most dog attacks take place in the home.
The media only ever report shite and scarmongering stories. They are creating a society where parents don't want their kids to step out the door (and on here, most women are too 'scared' to open their door to anyone they don't know). It's all getting ridiculous
There are no more 'crazy people' (revolting and judgemental term, by the way) out there today than 20 years ago.
Let you child out the house

A few things:

I do let my child out of the house as I clearly stated in my OP.

There is an active thread at the moment about XL bullies and a poster has cited lots of the reported attacks (there will many more unreported ones) and many have taken place in public. The fact that people who own them are unable to control them but still take them out in public is frightening. Sorry if that makes me a scared little woman but so be it.

I can't think of a better word than crazy to describe some of the sickening events that have happened in society recently. The horrendous Southport stabbings for example.

And yes I know these things are rare. I know we can't hide our kids away inside for fear of what might but probably won't happen. But as a parent of kids who are just finding their independence in the world I do find it worrying.

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gannett · 05/11/2024 09:13

Have to say I would never have guessed this thread would be about dogs when I clicked on it.

kirbykirby · 05/11/2024 08:45

Much less safe than I felt 20-30 years ago. Wouldn't dream of walking home alone late at night/early morning these days. I think London has got much, much worse.

Catza · 05/11/2024 08:37

I feel quite safe. We live in an average area on the outskirts of the big city. It's not a posh neighbourhood, mostly a combination of old council stock and newbuilds. No large estates around. Plenty of dogs, though. The new development down the road has a nice park with a basketball court where children and teenagers hang out all the time which is nice to see.
I don't remember ever feeling unsafe, even when I lived in hairier parts of London. There is only one estate in SW London where I had to visit someone for work once which felt eerie.

Lentilweaver · 05/11/2024 08:28

I have not yet seen an XL bully in London.
There are definitely more homeless and mentally ill. They all appear to be harmless.

The people I tend to avoid are drunk football fans after a game. But I am not afraid to go anywhere within reason ( I won't be hanging around parks or wearing flashy jewellery).

I travel alone in India though( am of Indian origin) so perhaps I am used to it.

Edingril · 05/11/2024 08:26

No different to when my parents let me out growing up, and their parents growing up and so on

Not everyone is good or bad but how many accidents happen at home, no where is safe depending on how you look at it

UmbrellaEllaEllaElla · 05/11/2024 08:23

I feel pretty safe. I'm quite sensible when out...I don't listen to music when walking home at night, keep my phone close to me (got mugged once), avoid what I consider to be dodgy areas especially at night etc.

ClytemnestraWasMisunderstood · 05/11/2024 08:22

These bloody killing machine dogs roaming around.
Sorry, that is a ridiculous statement; most dog attacks take place in the home.
The media only ever report shite and scarmongering stories. They are creating a society where parents don't want their kids to step out the door (and on here, most women are too 'scared' to open their door to anyone they don't know). It's all getting ridiculous
There are no more 'crazy people' (revolting and judgemental term, by the way) out there today than 20 years ago.
Let you child out the house

Fireworknight · 05/11/2024 08:16

I feel fairly safe around.

Half the problem is social media. Previously , we wouldn’t hear what happened in Scarborough or Huddersfield, for example, unless it was reported on the news or in the papers, which you wouldn’t read until the next day. Now, you know almost instantly, from across the country, so it looks like there’s a lot more going on.

Funnywonder · 05/11/2024 08:13

I guess it depends where you live. We live in a pretty safe area, although the main road through the area is like bloody Brands Hatch. When DS1 was a pre teen he started going out by himself in the local area and my anxiety was sky high, even though I knew rationally that everything would be fine. I think that once he had come home safely a number of times, I started to relax! A few other firsts, like going into the city centre by himself etc or trips out on the train, ramped my worry up again temporarily. He's 16 now and I still like him to check in with me when he's out and about. If he's out late, he lets me know he's on the bus home or if he changes his plans, he sends me a quick text so I know what's happening. He is also quite friendly with the local self styled 'hard nut' (who is in fact a nice kid underneath all the bravado) and always jokes that as long as this boy is around, nothing bad will happen to him😆

Nat6999 · 05/11/2024 02:23

When I first met late dp we lived in an area that was dog rough but I never felt scared about going out alone at night, we had a 24 hour shop 5 minutes walk away & I've been there in the middle of the night & felt safe. Where I live now is an estate where there are few problems, but the minute it goes dark the door is locked & I don't open it for anyone.

Notcontent · 05/11/2024 01:14

I am in London and used to feel completely safe. Now I still feel reasonably safe but I feel like I have to be a lot more alert now. Main issue for me is quite a lot of people around who seem to have MH/substance abuse issues. The other big thing is lots of criminals in my area roaming around on bikes, electric bikes and electric scooters - they come up behind behind people, often on the footpath. This is becoming ridiculously common.

Carouselfish · 05/11/2024 01:04

There are a lot of mentally unwell people about. Just walking to work one morning I crossed the road three times to avoid various dodgy men. I try to teach my 9 year old about being aware of weird vibes and to be aware of her surroundings. I live rurally so this is in a small country city (no high rises etc). Her senses are getting more tuned in. She knows if someone is odd. Convincing her that not all strange dogs are adorable is harder.

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