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DH complaining about look after kids

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Mellowblue · 04/11/2024 23:02

DH complaining about looking after kids.

I am a SAHM with 3 children in primary school. I have recently joined a few evening classes / clubs for the sake of my sanity and to keep my brain from turning into mush.
I am out two nights a week: 6 till 8 one night and 6 till 9 another night.

DH has become very resentful about me being away from home for these two nights because he needs to spend the evenings looking after the children.

Although, I can see his point, he still has 3 days a week when I am home and I don’t think 2 evenings for myself is a particularly big imposition on him. I am taking these courses with friends , so it’s not possible to them during the day.

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Mellowblue · 04/11/2024 23:22

TheKitchenSink34 · 04/11/2024 23:16

Of course you're not being unreasonable. Why is he complaining about having to look after his own kids when you've been doing it for years? Does he not have any hobbies/ever go out in the evenings with friends etc?

He says it’s not fair for him to spend all day at work and have to look after the kids all evening, as he has to log on for a few hours after he’s put the kids to bed to finish his work.

He is normally very involved and active but he’s accused me of taking the piss.

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HonestPayforHonestWork · 04/11/2024 23:21

Does he think being a SAHP literally means you just stay at home 24/7? What a selfish toad. They’re his children as well, why are they only your responsibility? Because you’re the woman and he has A Very Important Job?

jackstini · 04/11/2024 23:19

How much time does he get to himself per week?
As long as you are not taking a lot more than him, then I see no issue

They are his kids - of course he has to parent them sometimes!

TheKitchenSink34 · 04/11/2024 23:16

Of course you're not being unreasonable. Why is he complaining about having to look after his own kids when you've been doing it for years? Does he not have any hobbies/ever go out in the evenings with friends etc?