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To not answer the door if I don’t know who it is?

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BluntJadeCritic · 04/11/2024 22:35

I always feel anxious when someone knocks or rings the doorbell, and if I don’t recognise them, I just ignore it. People I know say it could be a friend/family member, or even an emergency, but that seems unlikely. With so many stories about door-to-door salespeople or worse, I feel justified. AIBU for prioritising my comfort and safety over potentially disappointing someone on the other side?

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username7891 · 04/11/2024 22:45

BluntJadeCritic · 04/11/2024 22:44

Oh really? I didn’t know this. Wouldn’t have posted if I did, thanks for the heads up

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No problem. Put your hard hat on.

WafferThin · 04/11/2024 22:45

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J1Dub · 04/11/2024 22:44

If it's seething important they can leave a note.

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BluntJadeCritic · 04/11/2024 22:44

username7891 · 04/11/2024 22:42

This is a very contentious issue on MN OP.

Oh really? I didn’t know this. Wouldn’t have posted if I did, thanks for the heads up

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Bluevelvetsofa · 04/11/2024 22:43

Get one of those notices to say that you don’t buy things at the door.

Like a PP, there would be parcels on the doorstep if we didn’t answer the door.

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BluntJadeCritic · 04/11/2024 22:43

BitOutOfPractice · 04/11/2024 22:41

“Prioritise my comfort and safety“? What a load of drama over a flipping door bell ringing.

only on mn is this sort of drama normalised.

Chill.

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BluntJadeCritic · 04/11/2024 22:43

Ytcsghisn · 04/11/2024 22:42

How do you know who is at the door without answering?

And what unsafe stuff do you think happens to people who answer the door?

MN is a very strange place. Very strange indeed.

You are ridiculous. Stop being pedantic. I am talking about answering the door to people I don’t know and when I’m not expecting anyone.

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BluntJadeCritic · 04/11/2024 22:42

Onlyonekenobe · 04/11/2024 22:40

How would you know who it is unless you answer the door?

Don’t you have a spy hole?

What do you think is going to happen to you if you answer the door?

I have clearly said if people I don’t know or if I’m not expecting anyone. Not that I do not answer the door at all.

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Ytcsghisn · 04/11/2024 22:42

How do you know who is at the door without answering?

And what unsafe stuff do you think happens to people who answer the door?

MN is a very strange place. Very strange indeed.

BrownOwlknowsbest · 04/11/2024 22:42

Just get a chain fitted, then you can answer it and the visitor cannot easily get into the house.

username7891 · 04/11/2024 22:42

This is a very contentious issue on MN OP.

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BluntJadeCritic · 04/11/2024 22:42

TheSecondMrsCampbellBlack · 04/11/2024 22:38

If I didn’t answer the door I’d have a hundred amazon deliveries getting wet on my doorstep.

Unless you live in the Bronx or you’re in witness protection why wouldn’t you answer the door?

If people I’m not expecting or don’t know knock on the door. Not that I don’t answer the door at all. I live on my own, and my deliveries etc I tend to know when they’re coming or when I’m expecting visitors

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BitOutOfPractice · 04/11/2024 22:41

“Prioritise my comfort and safety“? What a load of drama over a flipping door bell ringing.

only on mn is this sort of drama normalised.

Onlyonekenobe · 04/11/2024 22:40

How would you know who it is unless you answer the door?

Don’t you have a spy hole?

What do you think is going to happen to you if you answer the door?

TheSecondMrsCampbellBlack · 04/11/2024 22:39

Salespeople- just say no thanks and shut the door!

TheSecondMrsCampbellBlack · 04/11/2024 22:38

If I didn’t answer the door I’d have a hundred amazon deliveries getting wet on my doorstep.

Unless you live in the Bronx or you’re in witness protection why wouldn’t you answer the door?

NewName24 · 04/11/2024 22:38

Yes, YABU.

But, on MN, you will get a much higher proportion of telling you it is fine than you would in the population generally, where this would be considered anxiety at a very unhealthy level.

Opentooffers · 04/11/2024 22:38

Nope. I've done it on the odd occasion. Although today I did answer to someone trying to flog Scottish Power, and wished I hadn't.

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