Hello my friend has had a very traumatic bereavement. I want to support her. I have read lots on here about not asking what to do, just doing it but I need some help in exactly HOW to do this. I know about dropping food off and will do that, likewise continuing to text each day etc. I can't do something like turn up and do the laundry without asking or send her off for a bath. She is in a neurodiverse house so things would stress her out more, likewise her children are ND so I can't just say I'll sit with them as they aren't comfortable with anyone beyond their parents.
What are things I can do practically that are respectful of boundaries but useful. So far I have food deliveries, regular messaging, I'll do regular cards and notes to keep contact. They don't have a garden so garden jobs are not an area I could help. Any insights? I'd really like to do this properly . Thank you in advance