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Would you be disappointed if your teenage daughters wore barely any clothes posing on social media

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Suchafaffputtingaduveton · 04/11/2024 20:52

Or do all the teen girls do this now?

I have a friend with two older teenage daughters, gorgeous looking girls, known them since they were little. Their Instagram pages are full of nearly naked pics, very provocative poses and videos. In the bio they are digital creators.
In all honesty, I find it a bit disappointing as they were smart, driven girls when younger. My dd is still young and i’m not being judgmental as who knows, she may go the same way, is it bad to really hope not and hope that I can
steer her in a different/better direction?

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Wdththtm · 04/11/2024 21:43

I honestly wish social media didn’t exist.
I remember the days when they were trying to stop page 3 in The Sun even though the models were paid, now they give the whole lot away for free for ‘likes’.

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Suchafaffputtingaduveton · 04/11/2024 21:43

I’m just wondering if she says anything to them 🤷🏻‍♀️ I would find it v uncomfortable seeing my dd with nothing on, pouting and doing stripper type dances 😬 she even likes some of the posts

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WafferThin · 04/11/2024 21:40

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NewName24 · 04/11/2024 21:40

Sorry, forgot to answer this bit

Or do all the teen girls do this now?

No

NewName24 · 04/11/2024 21:40

I would be so disappointed.
I would try to explain to them why it is such a bad idea.

Even better, I get my young (yes, and beautiful) friend who works in HR, to tell them, as she is not much older, but she knows how much employers look at social media when recruiting, and what most employers would think.

sometimesmovingforwards · 04/11/2024 21:38

OrwellianTimes · 04/11/2024 21:32

Maybe blame social media for normalising it?

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Lol ‘blame social media’
What’s the address I should post the letter to please?
Dear The Internet,
I’m writing to you to express my extreme disappointment… etc.

Actually, don’t worry, I think I’ll pop outside and shout at some passing clouds instead.

OrwellianTimes · 04/11/2024 21:32

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Maybe blame social media for normalising it?

WafferThin · 04/11/2024 21:29

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Suchafaffputtingaduveton · 04/11/2024 21:27

They are older-19/20, but its been for like that for a while. There’s nothing a parent can do at that age really, its just sad to see and to think this is what they see their worth as

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NerdWhoEatsMedlar · 04/11/2024 21:05

It is the fashionable thing to do now. If they are 18/19 not a lot you can do.

If they are 13 you can come down like a ton of bricks.

WafferThin · 04/11/2024 21:04

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username7891 · 04/11/2024 21:03

I have no idea what some parents are thinking, the internet is full of predators.

TriangleLight · 04/11/2024 21:02

I’m with you @Suchafaffputtingaduveton , I really dislike this trend.

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Suchafaffputtingaduveton · 04/11/2024 21:01

@omega4ever I’ve actually put a sort of block thing on now so I don’t see the pics, but haven’t unfollowed as I just find it uncomfortable. They are lovely looking, but they also were so much more than that. My friend is an ambitious, high achiever. I realise as a parent, you’d support them, but I do wonder if she ever says anything to them or feels a bit disappointed

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LadyKenya · 04/11/2024 20:56

Yanbu, but they will think that they "own" their choices.

omega4ever · 04/11/2024 20:55

Not at all.

I am shocked by pictures my early 20s nieces post on their social media... and I'm not easily shocked in life.

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