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To ask you to share any experiences of parental alienation?

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alegalalien · 04/11/2024 19:49

Has anybody experienced parental alienation where your children have been turned against you by your spouse? Or any experience of it within your social circle of family. I have a family member who is experiencing this and it is terribly sad.

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alegalalien · 04/11/2024 21:10

@flipdiddle81 No he dumped here there when her visa had expired. She had no choice in the matter.

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PassingStranger · 04/11/2024 20:55

Parents who do that are selfish. Hope it backfired on them one day.

flipdiddle81 · 04/11/2024 20:25

by leaving the country and them in it with their father…

she has made parental alienation a lot easier for the father to achieve

flipdiddle81 · 04/11/2024 20:25

alegalalien · 04/11/2024 20:20

@flipdiddle81 No, she was abandoned overseas when her spouse visa ran out as he wanted to marry someone else. He was abusive and 6 months prior to this he would encourage the children to talk badly to their mother and hit her etc. She is in no doubt that by the time she gets back he will have poisoned them against her completely. She will have to go through the family court but no idea how thye handle situations like that.

so they’re living with their father in another country
and she’s in this country

Yes, in all likelihood it will be very difficult for your friend to pick up her relationship with her children whenever she returns to the country they’re in

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alegalalien · 04/11/2024 20:20

@flipdiddle81 No, she was abandoned overseas when her spouse visa ran out as he wanted to marry someone else. He was abusive and 6 months prior to this he would encourage the children to talk badly to their mother and hit her etc. She is in no doubt that by the time she gets back he will have poisoned them against her completely. She will have to go through the family court but no idea how thye handle situations like that.

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flipdiddle81 · 04/11/2024 19:56

alegalalien · 04/11/2024 19:55

Aged 7 and 9. She was a victim of domestic abuse without giving too much away. For those have experienced it did you ever overcome it and have a healthy relationship again?

does she have any access?

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alegalalien · 04/11/2024 19:55

Aged 7 and 9. She was a victim of domestic abuse without giving too much away. For those have experienced it did you ever overcome it and have a healthy relationship again?

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DobbyTheHouseElk · 04/11/2024 19:52

It happened to a friend. Really so sad.

NeedToChangeName · 04/11/2024 19:51

It does happen and is v sad

Sometimes, people blame their ex, but it's actually their own behaviour that droe the children away

flipdiddle81 · 04/11/2024 19:50

how old is the child?