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Asked not to wear a Rolex to work…

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Hydrangeajp · 04/11/2024 17:22

I've been with my current company for several years in a senior legal role, managing a team. The company's struggling lately - redundancies, pay freezes, and bonus cuts. My own manager recently left, and their replacement (board level), joined last week. After a positive initial face-to-face meet, she scheduled a meeting later that week about the Rolex watch she noticed me wearing into the office.

She told me it was inappropriate and insensitive, given both my seniority and the company’s current situation, and ultimately requested that I stop wearing it to work. She essentially said that "most senior staff already know to avoid wearing expensive, flashy items to work”.

I’ve had this watch for years and wear it daily. I’ve never given it any thought and would think most people wouldn’t even notice it's a Rolex. Am I the completely deluded and inappropriate one here? I was so taken aback and put on the spot that I simply agreed not to wear it, but since then I can't stop thinking I should’ve stood my ground (not because I’m desperate to wear the watch, rather, the whole ask felt excessive and inappropriate?) WWYD? I’d really appreciate an honest outsider’s perspective.

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NC10125 · 04/11/2024 19:15

@Hydrangeajp

Just be a bit late for every meeting you have with her until she raises it. Then respond with “you know what, I think I’m going to go back to wearing my watch again”

Problem solved 😉

WillowTit · 04/11/2024 19:14

lateatwork · 04/11/2024 17:26

Is this a wind up?

no analogue

Mumof2namechange · 04/11/2024 19:14

How much company time did she waste with you, having that meeting? No wonder there are redundancies if people are having pointless meetings about watches instead of billable hours

StealthMama · 04/11/2024 19:13

She has no right whatsoever to ask you to not wear a specific item unless it is against a standard clothing policy.

It also sounds like she's exerting her power, to let you know how she will manage you.

daisychain01 · 04/11/2024 19:13

ItsVeryHyacinthBucket · 04/11/2024 19:04

LOL no I’m pretty sure it’ll be an automatic

Sorry but @MorrisZapp got there before you!

Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead · 04/11/2024 19:13

DreamW3aver · 04/11/2024 18:49

Unless you work with the OP why does that matter?

My work is doing OK financially so not an issue but people definitely talk about others new cars, holidays etc and I think they would clock an expensive watch.

Sorry for commenting!

Applesandcream · 04/11/2024 19:12

I tell you what is insensitive - them doing redundancies, pay freezes and bonus cuts. What has you wearing a rolex got to do with that?

What a bunch of hypocrites!!

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 04/11/2024 19:12

My boss, new MD would not have hus horrendous office refurbished whilst we were going through redundancies. Said it sent tge wrong message.

Nobody would get me to not wear a watch I'd been wearing for years for propriety's sake ... just daft.

the7Vabo · 04/11/2024 19:11

AgnesX · 04/11/2024 17:29

Would it really hurt to be a bit more low key until any redundancies have been and gone and the financial climate is better.

And don't kid yourself, people do notice these things.

As someone who works in the type of role that reports into you, I don’t think it’s extraordinary not to wear flashy items during lay offs. People constantly speculate about salary and I can all image people saying “sure haven’t they being paying X a fortune for years, and now my friend is being laid off.”

Justcallmebebes · 04/11/2024 19:11

I work in law and back in 2008 when we had the financial crash and pay was frozen etc, one of our senior partners was told not to drive his Aston Martin into work. He complied and brought his wife's top of the range Merc in instead

dixon86 · 04/11/2024 19:09

I bet the manager in question drives a new car. How is that any different to a watch?!

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 04/11/2024 19:08

It is nonsense. She's flexing her muscles. Next time you are on such a position just say you'll think about it and get back to her tomorrow.

If it gets nicked at home is she going to stand the loss?

ItsVeryHyacinthBucket · 04/11/2024 19:04

lateatwork · 04/11/2024 17:26

Is this a wind up?

LOL no I’m pretty sure it’ll be an automatic

Drfosters · 04/11/2024 19:03

I’d buy an even more expensive different brand and wear that!

ridiculous to expect you to not wear your own possessions. As they going to tell the married worker not to wear their engagement rings? Drive their expensive cars into the office? Don’t bring that handbag in…

I have a nice watch. Not that expensive comparatively but I saved for that watch and it means something to me as i bought it after a tough year. I’d be quite upset to be told not to wear it quite frankly.

JimPanzee · 04/11/2024 19:03

MorrisZapp · 04/11/2024 18:21

Oh for the love of god MNHQ! I'll never be fed a straight line like that again.

Yay! It's back 😁

We can all bask in your amazingness now @MorrisZapp 🤩⌚️

Christwosheds · 04/11/2024 19:02

lasagnelle · 04/11/2024 17:30

This wins the Internet today

Agreed.

Chocbuttonsandredwine · 04/11/2024 18:59

This is such a woman thing. A men would never. Women should be supporting each other not feeling threatened and trying to put others down/

I remember an old boss telling me I dressed innappropriatly ( I didn’t)… meanwhile she had tatooos of her last 3 husbands tattooed on her breasts for all to see…

DuoLingoStreak · 04/11/2024 18:57

MorrisZapp · 04/11/2024 17:27

No it's a Swiss precision battery

Best response on MN this week. 😂

IntrovertInDisguise · 04/11/2024 18:57

MorrisZapp · 04/11/2024 17:27

No it's a Swiss precision battery

🤣😂🤣

Chocbuttonsandredwine · 04/11/2024 18:57

I’d have laughed in their face.

I’m part of senior leadership team at work, and earn 6 figures. What I wear/drive/spend on holidays is my business and no one else’s.

sounds like your boss is bitter and wants to be seen as top dog with her Kurt Geiger bag and knock off gucci watch . What a cow

LastNight1Dreamt1WentToManderleyAgain · 04/11/2024 18:56

You could stare with tearful intensity and murmur, "But it's the last thing I have from..."

Fizbosshoes · 04/11/2024 18:56

What about phones? Are you allowed the latest iPhone, or must everyone have a doro?

PestoPastaChaChaCha · 04/11/2024 18:56

HarrietHedgehog · 04/11/2024 18:49

Keep wearing your Rolex but I’d advise you to start looking for a new job. My reading of the situation is that the watch isn’t the problem. Your new boss is insecure and has identified you as a threat.

This

ThianWinter · 04/11/2024 18:55

Wearing an expensive watch doesn’t indicate immense wealth to me. I know people on minimum wage that save up (or buy fakes in a Turkish market) 😂

PestoPastaChaChaCha · 04/11/2024 18:55

CreationNat1on · 04/11/2024 17:43

What about engagement rings, are they valued?

I was thinking exactly this.

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