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Staying with him after he sexted another woman

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OhWomanOhMan · 04/11/2024 16:15

My bf and I have been together a year and a half, I love him and he loves me, we’ve been on holidays together and have the best times together. Recently I found out he had been sexting another woman briefly. I am sad, he accepted that he was wrong and says he has no idea why he did it, he wants to stay together and so do I. My friends say they’d never stay with a man who cheats. He says he won’t do it again. I love him too much and want to be with him forever to leave him, I don’t think I’ll ever meet a man who I love like him.

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TwattyMcFuckFace · 04/11/2024 16:28

Oh ditch him now and save yourself all this shit in the future.

He's extremely unlucky isn't he?

I mean getting caught the 'first time he's ever done this' 🙄

username7891 · 04/11/2024 16:28

OhWomanOhMan · 04/11/2024 16:24

It was his ex. He says she’s mentally unwell and he was stupid, although admits it was his fault as he said he was leading her on as she didn’t know he didn’t tell her he was in a relationship with me still.

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He knew he could get cheap thrills from his unwell ex. You're not exactly selling him here OP.

I would cut your losses.

TipsyLemonCritic · 04/11/2024 16:27

OhWomanOhMan · 04/11/2024 16:24

It was his ex. He says she’s mentally unwell and he was stupid, although admits it was his fault as he said he was leading her on as she didn’t know he didn’t tell her he was in a relationship with me still.

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Right. So not only are you writing threads about this vile being. You’ve now admitted that you want to be with a man who cheats, and takes advantage of his mentally unwell ex so he can get his rocks off. How vile.

You're an enabler staying and if you genuinely cannot see what is wrong about all of this, then you need to start therapy.

Attelina · 04/11/2024 16:26

'I love him and he loves me'

No he doesn't. He would not be sexting another woman if he loved you.

At this stage in the relationship he should be besotted with you and you only.

He isn't.

He's a dastardly dirtbag.

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OhWomanOhMan · 04/11/2024 16:25

TipsyLemonCritic · 04/11/2024 16:16

Oh come on! “He says he has no idea why he did it” 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Jesus Christ, I really wonder why women fall for this shit and delude themselves into thinking they believe this. Men know what they are doing and I’m sure we all know why he did it. Get your head out of the clouds!

He says he is more attracted to me and enjoys sex with me, he said he’d never get with her and he was just stupid.

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OhWomanOhMan · 04/11/2024 16:24

username7891 · 04/11/2024 16:22

He did it because it turns him on sexually. How does he know her? If he's on a dating website, he's deliberately looking for other women.

It was his ex. He says she’s mentally unwell and he was stupid, although admits it was his fault as he said he was leading her on as she didn’t know he didn’t tell her he was in a relationship with me still.

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username7891 · 04/11/2024 16:22

He did it because it turns him on sexually. How does he know her? If he's on a dating website, he's deliberately looking for other women.

Mrsttcno1 · 04/11/2024 16:21

Don’t be shocked when you’re back here in a years time because you’ve found out he’s now had sex with someone else then.

By staying with him when he’s crossed the “cheating” line what you’re saying to him is that you “love” him and will stay no matter what he does, so it’s a nice big green light for him to do whatever he wants knowing you’re not going anywhere anyway.

Nanny0gg · 04/11/2024 16:18

If he loved you as much as you think, he wouldn't have done it.

Decent men don't do this

TipsyLemonCritic · 04/11/2024 16:16

Oh come on! “He says he has no idea why he did it” 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Jesus Christ, I really wonder why women fall for this shit and delude themselves into thinking they believe this. Men know what they are doing and I’m sure we all know why he did it. Get your head out of the clouds!