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Staying with him after he sexted another woman

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OhWomanOhMan · 04/11/2024 16:15

My bf and I have been together a year and a half, I love him and he loves me, we’ve been on holidays together and have the best times together. Recently I found out he had been sexting another woman briefly. I am sad, he accepted that he was wrong and says he has no idea why he did it, he wants to stay together and so do I. My friends say they’d never stay with a man who cheats. He says he won’t do it again. I love him too much and want to be with him forever to leave him, I don’t think I’ll ever meet a man who I love like him.

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Yerushalmi · 04/11/2024 16:41

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Becsahm · 04/11/2024 16:40

It's either a troll thread or you're really really moronic.

HonestPayforHonestWork · 04/11/2024 16:40

Don’t buy it.

Doggymummar · 04/11/2024 16:40

Clip clop clip clop

loropianalover · 04/11/2024 16:39

OhWomanOhMan · 04/11/2024 16:34

He says his ex just wants us to break up and he won’t let it happen.

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You’re trolling.

Weeekender · 04/11/2024 16:38

Good luck, you're going to need it while your bar is this low.

GargoylesofBeelzebub · 04/11/2024 16:38

Not even two years into the relationship and he's cheating. Doesn't bode well for when the honeymoon period is over.

BecuaseIWantItThatWay · 04/11/2024 16:37

So you love him... You will love again.

A guy cheating so early on in a relationship, and you staying, well, you're setting yourself up for a whole lot of future pain and heartbreak.

Sorry OP, don't see how you could stay. Untangle yourself from him now or regret it forever.

TipsyLemonCritic · 04/11/2024 16:37

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Mrsttcno1 · 04/11/2024 16:36

OhWomanOhMan · 04/11/2024 16:34

He says his ex just wants us to break up and he won’t let it happen.

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You can’t be this stupid OP surely?

His ex isn’t the one causing problems, he’s the one sexting her 🤣

spuddy4 · 04/11/2024 16:36

Been here and it doesn't end well. All the trust is gone now and you'll struggle to get it back. No matter how much you try and push it to the back of your mind every now and then it will enter your thoughts, you could be watching tv and see someone on one of the soaps doing the same thing or someone you know could have the same problem, trust me it will always be there. You have obviously been upset enough to write this post and you are looking for advice, my advice would be never trust a man who texts other women, especially the ex.

TheoriginalMrsDarcy · 04/11/2024 16:36

Personally, I would be on high alert here. If he can do it to you once, he can do it to you twice.

What's to stop him from sleeping with his ex again? Next time he will say, I was drunk and wasn't in control or some feeble excuse.

By all means, stay with him if that's how you feel but I would be on my guard. He'd better bring something decent to the table other than his knob. If you get lumbered with his/a child, you'll be stuck with him and his lying ways.

Remember, buyer beware. You know what he's capable of. There are plenty of other fish in the sea, bigger and better.

Mrsttcno1 · 04/11/2024 16:35

OhWomanOhMan · 04/11/2024 16:31

I truly think he is besotted with me - we spend so much time together and he said he sees me in his life for a long long time. It was just sex with her, I know for a fact he doesn’t love her - that’s why I am willing to let it slide. I just cant let go of him after all our happy times together - I’m involved in his child’s life too.

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Spoiler alert- you’re wrong.

When you’re “besotted” with someone you don’t cheat on them

Wellingtonspie · 04/11/2024 16:34

How old are you as you sound very very young.

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OhWomanOhMan · 04/11/2024 16:34

Hatty65 · 04/11/2024 16:32

This makes him an utterly vile human being and I'd be disgusted with him.

Your bar is VERY low if you think you 'love' someone this scummy.

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He says his ex just wants us to break up and he won’t let it happen.

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Pippa12 · 04/11/2024 16:33

Besotted? If he was besotted with you he’d be sexting you and nobody else!

Wellingtonspie · 04/11/2024 16:33

OhWomanOhMan · 04/11/2024 16:31

I truly think he is besotted with me - we spend so much time together and he said he sees me in his life for a long long time. It was just sex with her, I know for a fact he doesn’t love her - that’s why I am willing to let it slide. I just cant let go of him after all our happy times together - I’m involved in his child’s life too.

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Oh sweetie.

He loved her enough to be with her to sleep with her and to now have sexy messages with her while his “besotted” with you.

He loves his cock and himself. Thats all. Not you and not her.

TipsyLemonCritic · 04/11/2024 16:32

OhWomanOhMan · 04/11/2024 16:31

I truly think he is besotted with me - we spend so much time together and he said he sees me in his life for a long long time. It was just sex with her, I know for a fact he doesn’t love her - that’s why I am willing to let it slide. I just cant let go of him after all our happy times together - I’m involved in his child’s life too.

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Then there is no point of this thread. Let him cheat, and take advantage of his mentally unwell ex, and stop writing threads about it.

Purplewarrior · 04/11/2024 16:32

Besotted? Seriously?

Hatty65 · 04/11/2024 16:32

OhWomanOhMan · 04/11/2024 16:24

It was his ex. He says she’s mentally unwell and he was stupid, although admits it was his fault as he said he was leading her on as she didn’t know he didn’t tell her he was in a relationship with me still.

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This makes him an utterly vile human being and I'd be disgusted with him.

Your bar is VERY low if you think you 'love' someone this scummy.

loropianalover · 04/11/2024 16:31

Cut your losses OP. You’ll never be able to look him in the eye again without thinking of her. It will ruin any flirty message you try to send to each other, and every time he’s sat on his phone you’ll have that twinge of worry.

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OhWomanOhMan · 04/11/2024 16:31

Attelina · 04/11/2024 16:26

'I love him and he loves me'

No he doesn't. He would not be sexting another woman if he loved you.

At this stage in the relationship he should be besotted with you and you only.

He isn't.

He's a dastardly dirtbag.

I truly think he is besotted with me - we spend so much time together and he said he sees me in his life for a long long time. It was just sex with her, I know for a fact he doesn’t love her - that’s why I am willing to let it slide. I just cant let go of him after all our happy times together - I’m involved in his child’s life too.

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Pippa12 · 04/11/2024 16:31

He took advantage of a mentally unstable woman. Assuming she is mentally unstable and he’s not using that as an excuse.

It would be a hard no from me- I would never trust him again. Unfortunately, he will reoffend.

Im sorry your going through this but your heart ache is clouding your judgement.

Wellingtonspie · 04/11/2024 16:29

It’s a year and a half. No children. No mortgage ?

Sexting his ex!? Of all people. Nah throw this one back.

Attelina · 04/11/2024 16:29

'He says she’s mentally unwell'

That makes it even worse because you would have to be an absolute piece of shit to mess with the affections of someone mentally unwell.

Try looking at it this way.

YOU ARE NOT ENOUGH FOR HIM.

Wake up and see him for the creep he really is.