Staying with him after he sexted another woman

This is your choice

I wish your bar was higher, I have like many on here accepted crap from men I loved

I hope you soon move on

He sounds very truthful and wouldn’t lie to you or cheat ……oh wait he’s already done that and you still believe him ?

Even if it was true . These type of men still want thrills elsewhere. It’s not about you it’s about HIM in every way.

I think something that I’ve learnt over the years- which has served me well, might I add, is that men willing to describe ex’s as ‘psychos’ and ‘mentally unwell’ and ‘well, I didn’t really like her, it was just a shag’ are generally best avoided.

Just shows a genuine lack of respect for someone who they once were quite happy to have an intimate relationship with.

I appreciate there are some who’s ex’s may actually have been the issue- but they are fewer and far between than those that aren’t. Especially if they are currently sexting them… So that’d be a leeetle red flag blowing merrily in the breeze for me, OP. 🚩🚩

I hope so, otherwise there's a child in the middle of this shitshow

That’s even worse!

I really hope you're not actually this naive and gullible.

Here's the short answer:

The man you think you love Does Not Exist.

What you've got is a lying cheating scum bag who has love bombed you into believing you're special to him.

You are categorically not special to him. If you were, he would not be sexting anyone else. Ever.

It's a story as old as the hills. You can choose to spend years more with him being cheated on, or wake up and read the thoroughly good advice on this thread.

Sometimes when people show you who they are you have to believe them. It's not a mistake or just him being stupid, he actively chose to do it. I do stupid things but sexting my ex isn't one of them because I love my DP.

You deserve better and you know that because you're posting on here. You're in a relatively new relationship and you don't have children together, cut your losses because this behaviour will continue and you'll kick yourself for not leaving sooner and getting in deeper.

Also him somehow blaming his ex for 'trying to break you up' is a lame piss poor excuse of someone that takes 0 accountability for their actions. Also he says she is mentally unwell so him seemingly stringing her along with this sexting doesn't paint him in a nice light. Sorry OP he will never change and once you accept this behaviour it will only continue.

He doesn't respect you and he'll do it again. Don't be a mug.

😂😂😂

*HE’S NOT ENOUGH FOR YOU.

Honestly hun - ignore the haters - you and this man are clearly meant to be

So either his ex is actually mentally unwell, it which case he’s an arsehole for taking advantage of her, or he’s painting her to be the “crazy ex”, in which case he’s an arsehole who describes all his exes as crazy when he has upset them. Either way he’s an arsehole. Is she the mother of his child?

For goodness sake walk away before you waste any more of your precious time on this cheating arsehole.

You are obviously going to stay with him op. I wouldn’t, but it’s your choice of course. He will do it again though - he’s a lying cheat - be watchful and take care of yourself.

This is the saddest thread ever, if this is a troll your genuinely such a sad person. If this is real, then I think your brainwashed and need to get a grip.

It's always a Troll when they come back with one sentence to fan the flames.
Aren't you back at school yet chick? 🤔

Well if you can't let go of him, you'll have to put up with it, won't you? You'll just have to put up with him having 'just sex' with anyone he likes and accept that's the price you pay. No point getting upset, or asking for advice. It's dry your tears, chin up and crack on with it, isn't it?

I wouldn't consider sexting as cheating, but since it's his ex then yeah he's not over her and she's not going to let him go so walk away.

Oh for goodness sake, wake up. No, he doesn't love you. It doesn't sound like either of you know what the word means. Do you mean - pretends to like you best, and that's all that you ask for?

If he won’t let it happen then he wouldn’t even entertain such a thing with her. He’s actually HELPING her break the two of you up by behaving in the way that he has. I think he’s promising you a lot of stuff because he’s been found out, it doesn’t undo what he has done. You can’t trust him and that should be the death knell for any relationship. I don’t believe a word he says - first he says he doesn’t know why he did it and then he drip feeds you more information. Also it sounds like he is taking advantage of her mental health to shift all the blame on OR he is deliberately leading on a mentally unwell woman, I think you’re setting yourself up for a world of pain if you stay, he is NOT a good man at all.

If he doesn't know why he did it then he cannot reassure you that it will never happen again.

It's hard to leave someone you love but you will never have peace of mind with him.

So besotted is he with you that he chose to risk it all for a cheap thrill with his ex… not quite ringing true I’m afraid op. You’d be very silly, imo, to continue this relationship when he’s broken your trust so callously this early on in your relationship, and for nothing, essentially.

It doesn't matter what he says though, look at what he does. His actions are not backing up what he us telling you.

He'd need to do a lot better than not knowing why he did it OP. Because if he doesn't know why he did it...it just...happened...? How can he know it won't happen again? If you're determined to stay with him, at least find out what very special extenuating circumstances led to this thing just happening and what he proposes to do to make sure it won't again.

A man can truly love his partner yet still succumb to his sexual desires.

That's true love folks! Banging anything that moves doesn't mean he doesn't truly love you.