Staying with him after he sexted another woman

Aye, of course that's why. Not because he's shit scared she'll spill the beans about his past behaviour and you'll see she's perfectly normal, or she'll slip up she's been shagging him.

Come on, OP. Get a hold of yourself. I've had kettles last longer than this relationship, and I've had some cheap kettles. If you're serious then listen and pay attention.

If you're just here to have people tell you he's worth staying for, you're in the wrong place. How old are you, by the way? I'm guessing 25 or younger.

Embarrassing

OP, count the number of times you wrote "he says" in your comments. "He says" a lot of things, but what he DID was pursue his vulnerable ex-girlfriend in the hope she'd sleep with him while he was still in a relationship with you. He's a vile, lying cheater, but he's telling you what you want to hear so you'll keep having sex with him, too. A nasty piece of work, that one.

I'm sorry to be harsh.

He doesn't love you.
He will do it again.
And he says his ex is mentally unwell - so did he see that the opportunity to prey on her ? That's very cruel to her too.

Run !

Of course you should stay with him. I’d definitely have a baby with him too. It sounds like a Hollywood romance, you’re very lucky.

If he's besotted with you and spends lots of time with and wants to stay with you longterm, why does he also need to get 'just sex' somewhere else? And more importantly, why would he suddenly stop needing extra 'just sex'?
The last woman he had a relationship with, he appears to regard as stupid and he despises her for having a MH issue. What will he be saying about you?

No one can say anything to @OhWomanOhMan to make her see reason. I don't know why she posted. I expect she hoped she'd get people saying that's all right babes, he clearly loves you sooooooo much. After all he wants to be with you for a long long time.

We'll be here when he breaks your heart. Again.

Low blow to say about his ex's mental health btw.

Denial is not just a river in Egypt OP!

"It was his ex. He says she’s mentally unwell and he was stupid, although admits it was his fault as he said he was leading her on as she didn’t know he didn’t tell her he was in a relationship with me still."

How can she want to break up your relationship if she didn't know your relationship existed? I think it's far more likely that he is just using the scattergun approach to handing out excuses. He may have another, different excuse tomorrow.

As for "mentally unwell" - ah, the 'my ex is a crazy psycho' cliche! So often claimed, so rarely true. But let's pretend it's true - are you happy that he would manipulate such a vulnerable woman?

"I truly think he is besotted with me - we spend so much time together and he said he sees me in his life for a long long time. It was just sex with her, I know for a fact he doesn’t love her - that’s why I am willing to let it slide. I just cant let go of him after all our happy times together - I’m involved in his child’s life too."
Ah, this Prince Amongst Men has a child, as well as a mentally unwell ex. Is 'mentally unwell' ex the mother of his child? You know, the ex who wants to break up a relationship she doesn't know exists? Or is there another ex waiting in the wings? And how involved are you in this child's life? (I guess what I'm asking is, does this Prince Amongst Men delegate his parenting to whichever woman he is currently shagging?)

And "long, long time" - not 'forever' then?

Raise your standards @OhWomanOhMan. He is not a keeper.

Exactly. What the point in starting a thread then arguing it is all OK.

You’ve not been together long so it’s not a good sign is it?

Agree, not much point to the thread, make you own mind up then OP.

Would he forgive you if you’d been sexting and ‘leading on’ your ex?

….why did he reply ?

He's not besotted with you. Men who are besotted with you don't cheat on you. My DH is besotted with me - and it does not even vaguely resemble how this pitiful excuse of a man treats you.

Woman up. Stop buying the shite he's selling and get some self worth.

You've obviously already made up your mind to stay, so I don't know why you've bothered posting tbh. Your bar is on the floor, but it seems this isn't enough to get you to lift it.

When is he proposing if he's so besotted?

How does his ex make him sext her anyway.

Send me a cock pic or else… or else what??
talk filthy to me about all the things you want to do me or else..

and he was just like “yeah baby I want to slip this long hard (his photo) into your tight wet” ( her photo)”

because he was worried she would what?? Tell you, that he wouldn’t sext her? She would come knock on his door and shout at him?? Oi wanker why won’t you send me your knob photos 🤬🤬

or he sext her because he wanted too.. unless the threat was, if you don’t keep this up I’ll tell OP the truth about the real SEX we have been having when your meant to be doing (whatever)

Yeah. Besotted people don't do this. And you've given him green light to do it again!

Raise your bar ffs

Nah, @OhWomanOhMan , besotted people don't sext their ex for cheap kicks. That's aside from the fact she's unwell and he used her. Nice guy you've got there.

Is the child whose life you're involved in hers by any chance or is that some other lucky woman?

Have a read on internalised misogyny OP.

The fact you have a bar this low for a man that was flirting with someone mentally vulnerable tells me you have bad personal boundaries.

Even if she isn't vulnerable he blamed his behaviour on her I mean WTAF!

Have some self respect woman. Ditch him.

Oh this just gets better and better. On top of all the other issues he is abusing a mentally unwell woman. RUN, you fool

What's the point in posting? No one is going to agree with your frankly delusional train of thought, and you seem determined to stay with this cheating scumbag.

Oh well, takes him off the market I suppose!

Run and don't look back. This won't get better.