Staying with him after he sexted another woman

You're kidding yourself.

Ignore the words coming out of his mouth, he's showing you the type of person that he is.

You are a fool.

Do you have any evidence for this or are you just believing what he’s told you?

The fact that he’s been sexting her when he’s supposed to be faithful to you shows that he is not always honest. Stop believing what he says and start believing what you see him do.

I know she is mentally ill cos she stresses him out and upsets him everyday, apparently she is like that too always upset by him, for no reason. He says they haven’t slept together in years and he’s going to get help for what he did, he is going to therapy so he doesn’t do it again.

Oh you know that she's mentally do you? With your attitude you deserve everything you get. Therapy my arse!

Oh the old 'mentally unwell' card....yes, must sext her if she's mentally unwell, brilliant excuse 🤣 wft?!?

OP - let's say she is mentally ill.

Why on earth do you want to be with a predatory man who sexts vulnerable women who are not in their right mind? That's awful

And if she is mentally unwell, WHY hasn't he applied for full custody? Having a parent with a mental illness is so damaging for the child.

He is taking advantage of a vulnerable, mentally ill woman to get orgasms and has no care whatsoever for the wellbeing of his child.

Is this honesty the type of man you want to be in a relationship with? He sounds awful.

PS - Oh and I very much doubt his ex is mentally ill. I'm sure he's a liar and a cheat instead. But if you insist on believing his lies, he's still awful

She "stresses him out and upsets him" but he's happy to sext with her. Can't be that stressed then can he! Open your eyes.

You're very foolish OP. He'll do it again.

Sigh. No he hasn't.

Do you live together unsure if I’ve missed it.

But I just don’t see how you can trust he will actually be at therapy, that he hasn’t met up with her or others.

what is the therapy actually for? How to handle stress? As most men wouldn’t want to sext or have sex with a women who stresses them out. Kinda the last thing on their minds.

Has he started, booked or paid for any therapy yet?

Have some self respect and dump him. He did it because he wanted to and thought he'd get away with it.

This 💯

Some couples can overcome cheating but it takes a lot of time and energy, counselling maybe, and usually the main motivations to even try would be if you have children, marriage and a mortgage together etc... Even though I understand you might feel heartbroken I believe it's actually easier to leave than to stay and you will get over the pain of it much more quickly if you leave.

2 years in, not married and with no children together I really wouldn't bother trying to get over this. It's not worth it in your situation. At 28 you have time and freedom to meet someone else.

I'm sure she was really "stressing him out" while he was having fun sexting a woman who he'd conveniently forgotten to tell about his new partner.

Open your eyes OP.

Edited as was wrong with dates, apologies.

Why would she have wanted this when she didn't know you were together?

He was leading her on, lying by omission about having a girlfriend, and there's a kid involved.

He's a messy little shitbag who enjoys having two women interested. Really low rent behaviour. I would take my leave.

Just can't help people who don't want to be helped...

And yet he’s sexting her and is willing to risk your whole relationship with him for a fraction of her attention and time. If you’ll believe his spiel, you’ll believe anything. I guess I’ll leave this thread now, there’s none so blind as those who won’t see.

Why have you even posted here? You don't want to listen to any of the advice people are giving you.

The facts are he sexted someone else. Someone who is 'besotted', doesn't do that. A besotted person would only have eyes for you.

The person he sexted is his ex-partner and mother of his child. This isn't someone he can just block and forget about.

And, he's claiming the ex is mentally ill. Which means he gets his kicks sexting his mentally vulnerable ex. (Or he's lying about her being mentally ill).

That's fucking gross. Why would you want to be with a man who gets turned on talking to his supposedly mentally unstable ex?

I personally couldn't forgive a random sexting, but I can see how some people could. However, I cannot see how anyone could possibly get past someone sexting their vulnerable ex. It's so many levels of betrayal.

Can't believe how low you've set your bar for acceptable behaviour in a relationship. How'd that happen?

His stressed because his trying to juggle two women without getting caught

Can't be that bad if he's sexted her... I think your being taken for a mug if I'm honest, he's clearly lying to make her sound bad to help ease your mind.

Stop focussing on what he's telling you, and start focussing on what you know.

You don't know that she's mentally ill, you know that he says she's mentally ill.

You know that he tells you she's mentally ill, and yet still sexts her.

You know that he tells you she's mentally ill, and yet hasn't applied for full custody of his child.

I have made some mistakes in my past, when I was too besotted by the idea of love to see the truth, haven't we all, but I am still blown away by how blind someone can be by what you're accepting here. Its mind blowing.