Friend asking for dog food 'compensation'

Totally agree, some things you just keep to yourself. It's obviously wound her up but she's a CF wanting any money.

She should tell her to take it off the £40 a night fee she would have paid.

@dogbiscuitsareforlife - The fact that she hasn't tried to reach out to you so far after her demands to be reimbursed for the dog food speaks volumes to me at least. I think she still wants to be reimbursed. She could have shouted out to you, called your name today and asked you to stop to discuss the situation. She didn't.

When you see her tomorrow, at the very least be prepared for one of two situations - she either doubles down on the demand to be compensated for the dog food (and you have your reply ready for that) or she apologises and realises what a cheeky fucker she was to suggest it (and you have your reply ready for that scenario too).

If she still wants compensation, you have the reply of actually wanting to talk to her about how much she owes you for dog sitting and you can provide her with with your details so that she can transfer the money to you as you are standing there. If she realises what an eejit she has been, then you can say "Well, Mary, I did wonder. It seems like such a simple thing for us to be falling out over. I'm glad that we can put this behind us now", plus you can always refuse to look after her dog in the future saying "I'd rather not Mary - you know how you were the last time looking for compensation for dog food so you'll have to find someone else to do it or pay a kennel to do it, but the boarding house of "Dog Biscuits Are For Life" is fully booked!" or something like that.

No way would I buy her the tins, she's a CF for asking after you doing her a favour like that and not asking for anything in return, tell her you won't be buying any food or doing her any more favours either

Honestly cannot understand all the people saying they'd give her the tins as some kind of courtesy!

The most courtesy I'd show her would be not telling her where she could shove her tins!

I’d give her the tins back but I’d make it clear how petty I thought it was considering how much it would have cost her for a sitter, which I’d done for free. I would have thought she’d be glad OP got a little something out of it if she hadn’t charged her and had stepped up at short notice. I’d also make it clear not to ask again.

I'd give her what she wants and never ever be available to help her out again. Did you mention the free boarding you provided???

"hopefully she'll realise I'm upset over something"
She might not.

Perhaps you didn't really want to mind her dog, but you sometimes find it hard to say No to people. You find yourself agreeing before you know it.

If that's the case a handy trick is whenever anyone asks you to do something say 'can I get back to about that?'

"Mary, I looked after your dog for free for days, saving you tens if not hundreds of pounds, so I am quite shocked that you demanded I reimburse you for food your dog ate of its own accord. I won't be giving you any money, and to be honest, I think you owe me an apology if you'd like our friendship to continue."

Why be so passive aggressive? Why do you want to involve others?

Message and calmly point out how you helped her, and in doing so saved her costs. Explain that because of that you’re surprised at her asking for food to be replaced. Suggest you both let it go. If it were me, I’d not offer to help again.

This is just childish and you’re dragging it out.

you need to be honest with her and say youve saved her a fortune along with that’s exactly how you’d have treated them if your dog had the more expensive food and hers took a fancy to it.

Shes being ridiculous and I think it needs pointing out. We can’t let these sort of people just carry on.

Recently I had a pet sitter £35 a night which I thought was cheap. I would message friend with an invoice for your care. Whoever the mutual friend that gossiped was. Is not your friend. You did the dog friend a massive favour. She is ridiculous if she thinks you did it to give your dogs a nice meal!!

Yep, sometimes the best solutions are the simplest.

This is so passive-aggressive. Use your words like an adult.

I'm a little late to the party, but unless the dog wasn't able to eat any other food without feeling ill, and tbh she should have said if the dog needed feeding separately, then she hasn't got a leg to stand on.

I'd be telling her to fuck off. Simple as that.

This ⬆️⬆️ with bells on.

I would pointedly not be carrying ANYTHING when you see her tomorrow.
If she dares to ask for 'reimbursement' again, I'd calmly tell her she can deduct it from the kennel charges she owes you, especially when you took on her pet for her on such short notice.

How will she realise? Is she mystic meg?

Me too - I really want OP to sock it to her - some of the suggestions have been fab!

This is a perfect response - calm and to the point.

I can't wait for tomorrows update!

Think I'll move up!

Bloody hell. I’m glad I live in the North East 😳

I wouldn't do any drama of handing over tins at the school. Instead I'd either phone her or send a message and say very simply, you are stunned that she'd asked for two tins of food back when you had taken care of her dog while she was away.