Friend asking for dog food 'compensation'

absolutely no chance of the op following your suggestion

this is an op who’s gunning for an audience i suspect

Don't buy the food and try to show her up, you lose the moral high ground and tbh will look a bit silly.

Just tell her she is out of order, how that made you feel and you will not be offering help again.

wow no good deed goes unpubished does it.

Ignore her & do her no more favours.

Don’t buy her the food. She is a CF.

We look after a friends 2 dogs fairly often. Each time they bring us a significant gift, even though we don’t do it for that reason. They would never dream of asking to be reimbursed for dog food and will bring our dogs a treat too.

Are you sure the other mum didn’t mention it in the sense of you looked after her dog and gave her expensive dog food to your dog and fed her dog the cheap stuff you buy?

Id be a bit miffed if someone who wasn’t looking after my dog come to me and started saying you were feeding your dog my expensive food.

Although I wouldn’t expect for anyone to let my dog eat any other dog food apart from her own anyway as it can cause upset stomachs.

I'd give her the dog food back in a lasagne

"Oh Hi Mary -by the way, about the tins of dog food -you'll have to take that up with your dog, I'm afraid! He's the one who abandoned his dinner and went head first onto my dog's bowl"

I would give her the dog food and an invoice for your services. What an absolute dickhead. Also why did the person you joked with about this see it fit to pass on the info to her? Even if it was said in jest?

It sounds like you mix with a weird group of people. I think you should be careful about who you trust

Some of these threads are started by reporters seeding a tabloid article.

They open a thread with an outlandish tale of cheeky-fuckery and let it develop. Three days later, they submit an article to a tabloid who will lap up the story of the mumsnet thread and its outlandish tale of cheeky-fuckery.

only for the drama of presenting it in front of other people

I cannot believe you're going to buy this dog food for the CF!

I'd be saying "If we're going down the who owes who route, I'll just deduct the cost if the food from what you now owe me for dog sitting."

Someone's bound to ask so I can then tell them the reason.

you truly think others will even notice someone handing over a few tins of dog food to another mum?

this

combined with I only mentioned it to the other mums as someone asked how I was getting on with the dog so just told them in a casual haha way.

leads me to think the OP is one for involving others in the dramas of her life with others (of which i suspect there’s been quite a few!)

Well I, not sure how you owe anything as you looked after her dog and didn’t even get a thank you gift! But I’d buy four tins of cheap dog food, but as she doesn’t feed her dog it I’d suggest they go into a pet food bank. Hoe utterly pathetic, plus never dog-sit for her again!

@dogbiscuitsareforlife Do not give her any tins of food! Use the message from @CoraPirbright at 16.31 above. Giving her the food will only validate her opinion that you knowingly and deliberately let your dog eat her dog's dinner, and that is the story that will go around the school - regardless of whomever sees you hand the tins over. Don't do it, OP!

Yep this.

Don't be a doormat and give her the food, and don't bother trying anything passive aggressive as it sounds like she's a cheeky fucker and just won't care. Just don't give her the food and tell her why (and that that's the first and last time you look after her mutt).

Ignore...

If she mentions it again...

"Oh,..... you weren't actually joking?"

Honestly, I wouldn't do any kind of pettiness, however tempting it might be. She is clearly a very cheeky, unappreciative and silly woman to make a deal of the dogs eating a bit of each others food when you'd done such a massive favour for her. As much as I'd like to give her a tin of your own dog food since her dog seemed to like it so much, I'd stick with ignoring her and if she raises the issue again ask if she was really asking for a few mouthfuls of dog food when you'd helped her out so much. I'd like to see what her reply to that would be!

This is extraordinary!

I would message her: “Mary has something been misinterpreted somehow? Your dog ate a bit of my dog’s food and my dog ate a bit of yours. To be clear, I Did Not feed my dog on your dog’s food and would never do such a thing. They simply seemed to be interested in sampling from the other bowl”

If Mary then pursues it, the next message should be: “I find this quite extraordinary. If it wasn’t for me stepping in to help last minute, you would have had to cancel your holiday. Plus I looked after your dog for free, thereby saving you £100’s. I have estimated that my dog ate £X of your food and your dog ate £x of mine. The difference is £x. If you really feel that it is worth damaging our friendship quibbling over this tiny amount then by all means send me your bank details. However I repeat that I did you an enormous favour so perhaps you might like to reflect on that “

And I would be telling everyone what a mad bitch this woman is.

I hope that you've messaged her back saying "Mary, I took your dog into my home, at short notice, FOR FREE, and you're demanding that I pay for food that the dogs switched between as they ate. I hope that you realise how bloody ungrateful and rude you are being. Don't bother asking for my help again."

It doesn’t sound like you actually fed your dog her food but the dogs had a nose at each others. I don’t think you should compensate her at all. She is being incredibly rude.

I would though say to her that she obviously heard from the other mum that you had used her food but that was not the case.

FFS, not even a thank you gift? While demanding you buy her dog food?

She's an ultimate Cheeky Fucker User.

This!!
She’s an ar5e, and biting the hand that feeds her (dog)

No one will ask. You'll just end up pissed off that no one asked.

Of you are going to buy her the food have it back and say

'please don't ask me to look after your dog for free again. It's impossible to stop them sharing each others food and frankly you saved her so much money you really don't want to deal with being asked to replace her dog food'

loudly. So everyone can hear.