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Friend asking for dog food 'compensation'

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dogbiscuitsareforlife · 04/11/2024 10:43

What do you make of this.

One of my school mum friends, (I'll call her Mary) has a dog and we often bump into each other out for dog walks and walk along together. Not super close, but chatty and friendly

Last week Mary told me she had been let down by a dog sitter for a holiday. She couldn't find anyone so I offered to help. Our dogs get on well and I'm used to having more than one, although at the moment only have one. She asked how much I'd charge but I said no bother just provide his usual food and treats, which she did. Her dogs food is a superior top end brand to the food I give mine.

All was great whilst we had him, but when feeding, the dogs seemed to favour each others food and swapped between bowls. I didn't think too much of it but did mention it to one of the other mums at the school gates in a jokey way, saying my dog obviously preferred the more expensive brand to the supermarket stuff I provided. Whereas her dog really liked the cheaper stuff.

Mary has obviously been told and today asked me if I fed my dog her dogs food. I was a bit taken aback but explained the above and of course I did give her dog its own food but sometimes dogs want what the other dog has.

She was very cold and told me to compensate her for any tins I gave my dog as she wasn't there to provide for my animal! I'm totally bemused, I saved her £100's in dog sitting fees and although I'm not now going to charge her she must see she is totally unfair.

Or am I wrong and should I buy a pack of 4 tins to give her. My DH says ignore but I don't want bad feeling.

OP posts:
Henrysotherwoman · 05/11/2024 18:03

Ledwood85 · 04/11/2024 15:00

"Here's two tins of food - I've subtracted what your dog ate of ours from the four you asked for.

No need to worry about the money I saved you, I'll chalk it up to a lesson learned."

You maintain the high ground, remind her that she's a CF, and makes it clear you won't be helping again.

This ^^

What a CF. Tell her to pay for a kennel/sitter next time.

Havinganamechange · 05/11/2024 18:01

Prepare an invoice detailing the number of days you had her dog based on the going rate and then minute the cost of the four time of dog food. Hand that to her. That should make the point!

Boysandalab · 05/11/2024 18:01

This lady is not a friend and is taking advantage of you. If she is concerned that her dog ate inaccurate food she should say this/should have explained at the time that it was extremely important that her dog only ate the food that she provided.
Buy her the replacement food and explain calmly that she has been unkind and that you had done her a big favour and that it was a joke. I’m not sure how she will argue when confronted with the truth. Then as someone else said cut her off.

You were clearly joking at the school gate with another mother, it is funny that your dog liked the expensive food, don’t take it to heart. People can be very mean but you seem to very kind hearted and generous.

Mia184 · 05/11/2024 18:00

Get her a couple of tins of the cheaper food as that is the one her dog obviously prefers.

VeneziaJ · 05/11/2024 17:59

I would get the 4 tins and say to her face how petty and ungrateful she has been. You have cared for her dog in your own home and have exercised it for her saving her expensive kennelling or dog sitters. You are not a professional sitter so naturally fed the dogs together and anyone who has ever had more than one dog will know that they snaffle each others food! If she had to have her dog on a special diet say for medical reasons she should have pre warned you! I would block her and not speak to her again after this
to be honest i would also be annoyed with the gossip who needlessly repeated your off the cuff joke!

dcthatsme · 05/11/2024 17:58

I bet that's the last time you offer to dogsit for her! What a cheek. Unbelievable she didn't bring you something nice or a bottle of wine.

GreenSeamus · 05/11/2024 17:55

What are you smoking?

JustWalkingTheDogs · 05/11/2024 17:54

Ungrateful sod.

I think I'd be telling her to sod off, and if she really wants to get into a discussion about compensation she needs to consider that you've just saved her £40 a night on kennels or more for home boarding.

gardenflowergirl · 05/11/2024 17:47

How cheeky after you saved her kennel costs and didn't charge her. I'd tell her to jog on. If she insists tell her you've changed your mind about boarding costs and now want £30 per day, it's the going rate, for looking after the dog.

dontcryformeargentina · 05/11/2024 00:18

Another example of " no good deed goes unpunished "

maddening · 04/11/2024 22:58

dogbiscuitsareforlife · 04/11/2024 14:58

I won't be at school gates until end of week although I may see Mary out on dog walk before then if we bump into each other.
I will get the dog food and am thinking I'll hand it to her in front of other mums and be vocal about 'owing' it. Someone's bound to ask so I can then tell them the reason.

Do not give her anything- and either reply to explain why she is getting nothing and, what's more, owes you an apology for her appalling behaviour or don't respond at all imo.

madamovaries · 04/11/2024 21:01

This woman is insane. You did her a big favour.

SunnyHappyPeople · 04/11/2024 19:34

EPankhurst · 04/11/2024 15:47

Why are you all supporting giving the CF dog food? I'm horrified! I'd tell her that her dog had been fed, walked, watched, poo picked up and given company 24 hours a day for FREE when it would have cost her £££ to get a dog sitter/kennels, and that you are horrified that she is being such a miserly cheeky cow that she wants you to compensate her two tins of fucking dog food. I'd also tell her in no uncertain terms not to bother asking you again.

I agree that in hindsight not a good idea to joke about something that has clearly been through Chinese whispers and made you look like you've switched the dogs' food for your own gain. Though I'd probably make use of the same school mum gate mechanics to have a laugh about some CFer whose dog you looked after and who was so tight that not only didn't she offer to pay or even turn up with a thank you gift, when she heard that the dogs ate a bit out of each others' bowls demanded that you bought her a tin of dog food back, lol!

FFS don't by her the Lily's kitchen without also insisting that she buys you your pedigree chum or whatever that HER dog ate, and ask her to provide you with replacement water for what the dog drank, 4 replacement poo bags, etc, money for the laundry load you ran after her dog dared to shed or traipse muddy paws into your house. What's good for the Goose is good for the Gander, and she might just twig how fucking petty she is being.

I think I just fell in love with you 😂

BabyCloud · 04/11/2024 19:17

Send her a bill for looking after her dog.

Arran2024 · 04/11/2024 19:07

Tinned food surely isn't that expensive. I mean, it's not some bespoke fresh food. It's from a tin. She obviously thinks that's so superior but really?

Prescottdanni123 · 04/11/2024 18:58

She is being ridiculous. The food in somebody else's bowl is always more interesting to animals. My two cats always ended up eating from each other's food dishes even though they were being given the exact same thing.

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 04/11/2024 18:44

Ignore her and if she asks again tell her not to be so ridiculous, the dog was well cared for, free gratis, and you will not be paying her for you to look after her dog.

StressedLP1 · 04/11/2024 18:41

Suggested response:
”Just to clarify - you’ve had x number of nights free dog sitting from me and you want me to give you dog food?
Oh Mary. 😔”

Nothanks17 · 04/11/2024 18:35

Cheeky fucker she is!

Honestly can't understand some people hahaha. As others said she can have her four tins when she pays the dog bosrding rate.

My mum looks after mine I provide food but she mixes and matches with all her own and I would never dream of asking for compensation haha, I'm happy mine get variety if its cheaper or more expensive

GettingThemFromHereToThere · 04/11/2024 18:29

"I'll return the food when you show some appreciation and give me the £100s I've saved you. Next time, I'd rather a bottle of wine as a thank you instead of a moan. I can't believe how ungrateful you are".

0psiedasiy · 04/11/2024 18:20

Would just be grateful for the dog sitting! I pay the Cattery £30 per night and send the cat food (however when they are there they choose to eat the dry crap on offer- but then on holiday we all eat crap right)

C152 · 04/11/2024 18:00

Ignore her. Don't buy the dog food - no matter what you say to other mums, she'll think she has been proved right and gossip about it with the others. If she raises it, I'd tell her your day rate for dog sitting.

Zanatdy · 04/11/2024 17:49

I’d buy the tins and add your invoice at the same time

ruffler45 · 04/11/2024 17:47

Send her 4 tins of food with a note saying invoice for dogsitting to follow.

Not that you send it but the threat will be there and that should set her thinking for a few days waiting for the postman...

Sunnyplain · 04/11/2024 17:34

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