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John and Jane Doe's someone must have missed them

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charlieinthehaystack · 04/11/2024 08:47

reading the endless list of John and Jane Doe's, people who have been found deceased but have never had a name put to them. This is not only murders but also vagrants etc who have just died of natural causes. they can be found in rivers seas buildings or just in the wild. As time goes on it is less likely a name is going to be put to them though of course. I think it is odd especially the older ones who sometimes are non UK citizens as years ago someone who was not from UK would stand out more and I dont mean that in a predjudiced way but in my small town they would have stood out. surely if they suddenly went someone must have noticed but i suppose in big cities people are more anonymous. with outstanding tattoos clothes etc its sad to think noone knows them. just thinking some would possibly be run aways from childrens homes etc

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ARichtGoodDram · 04/11/2024 09:13

I think it can happen quite easily that people don't have someone to miss them.

I was brought up by my grandparents and they're a long time dead now. I'm 9 years younger than my next sibling and we are not in contact. Even back when we had very infrequent contact we lived in different cities. My sister once went to work in Ibiza for an entire summer and nobody in the family knew. If something had happened to one of us in that period then it would have only bene noticeable when a Christmas card didn't arrive. Even that would like have been something that didn't arouse instant concern.

My best friend was the only child of two only children. She moved around constantly as a child so has very few long term friends.

We've both said before (after a case on tv where a body was found after years and nobody had realised the person was missing) that that could have been either of us had we not got married.